Anyone relate to this?
Hey everyone ! I just joined a few hours ago as I am going through a really difficult time. I’ve been feeling depressed since I was in high school now I’m 25. I’m a perfectionist and have an extreme personality. I couldn’t see alternatives which makes my life so hard as I couldn’t handle situations where I didn’t get what I worked for. It’s devastating. I sacrifice my mental and physical health to be the top student in my school and now I couldn’t even bear with thinking finding a job related to my major. I never truly knew what I want with my life, now I’m still struggling. My parents they say go get a job form a family make money and that sort of thing I just wanna vomit. Ppl around me are destroying me with their lifestyles and thinking. I’m tired. I find comfort in the fact that I only get to live once. And I’m too in my own head, I just couldn’t stop dreaming.
@courageousMango9845
Hi Mango! Welcome to 7 cups. I can relate you a lot since we share some similar experience. More than one year ago a started to think about what do I really want. Now I am giving myself a trial to enter a new profession. Sometime one chance, one trial is enough, making us unregretful about this experience.
@Wallis thank you for sharing Wallis. I can be quite negative most of the time, I honestly have no passion for traditional job. Ppl say I’m spoiled in a way I do believe it’s true. Basically I have no passion for anything atm, it can be devastatingly frustrating for me to get out bed to actually do something. Like I don’t appreciate the sun the air like I used to, idk what happened to me, I lost all my sparks.
Same buddy, same...😢...I am 26, I am doing my undergrad bcuz, I am supposed to, but studies makes me so overwhelmed. I am barely passing. It saddens me. These days, I don't even think about getting a job. I am living off of my parents. It's so hard to meet my peers, bcuz they r all doing something with their life or have hopes.
@Heretohelp45 hard relate mate. I stopped talking to my old school mates since really long time ago, I see most of them having a stable job and forming a seemingly functional family. I don’t know I don’t feel jealous or not fair, This kinda lifestyle was never part of my plan, but I do feel like why they all figured it out but I can’t. Even if some of them still figuring they seem to be super dedicated and all that, and me? I live off of my parents and no passion no energy. I’ve been feeling hysterical and anxious, like everyday I just sit there watching despair eating me alive. I couldn’t do anything about it.
@courageousMango9845
It feels we're living the same life and that honestly makes me feel sooo sorry.
As someone who is exactly in the same situation as you, I can tell you that I know how you feel. I am 25 as well, I was always a top student, having the best grades, acting like the perfect kid for my parents and now... I don't seem to know where my life is heading, I feel like I am stuck in an endless nightmare, where nothing excites me, nothing motivates me. I don't really know what to do.
I see everyone my age making plans, having a life, a job, traveling, doing what they love, but I don't know what I wanna do myself... Is so tiring,.
At least we are not alone... So if you ever wanna talk, I am here.
@Popsicle99 thanks for sharing popsicle. like I’ve always been the greatest in school And my parents think I’m gonna have a great life in the future. Nobody will understand why I end up like this. Talking to them about mentality and spirituality and stuff is impossible, they don’t seem to understand where my pain is from. And they been blaming me for all the things I’ve done wrong. I get no support no empathy. And talking on here surly helps a lot. Would love to hear from you more and I wanna say I see u I support you take it easy my friend❤️
@courageousMango9845 Hey... I really can relate to how you feel right now. A mixture of family pressure and you wanting to live your best life can be a tough ride.
@uniqueHope hey unique thank you for validating my feelings. It sure is tough. Why is life so unbearable
Dear Mango, thank you for sharing. I went through a similar crisis when I was your age. Thinking about our big life plan can be overwelming, even more so if you feel like you have a wide choise. I’ m 35 now and still not sure I’m on the best path. But I can tell you this: there is no unchangeable big life plan and no right choise. Most of the time you just have to give it a try, knowing that if you dont like it you can always change it, like I did multiple times in this ten years and frankly now I’m happy with the experiece it provided me. Best of luck <3
@selfconfidentZebra1583 hey zebra I appreciate everything you just said. Here is the problem with me that I change too often like I never settled after uni graduation. I’ve always came up with different ideas but not even one time I fully commit to them. I don’t think I’ll ever be. This terrifies me as I’m financially dependent and emotionally unstable. I couldn’t see myself getting a job and living a seemingly endless life. I just couldn’t do it, the society is unbearable to me. I don’t know what to do next, I’m terrified.
