Loneliness and conversations with the wrong people
When you don't have much going for you in life, and your lonely all the time, you get kinda desperate. That is what happens to me and often times I find myself talking to whoever will talk back to me, and often times those are not good conversations.
As I write this, I'm also thinking about those busy people that have too many people to talk to. They don't have time to answer all of their emails. It is hard for me to wrap my brain around it. Often times I feel like a loser. Because society doesn't pay attention to me because I'm not dong enough. I don't have a bunch of talents. And I'm not that interested in the things I'm interested in. When you got almost no people in your life, then what is the point of having interests that you can't share with anyone.
@tryingtosurvive2024 I struggle with lack of interest too. It sucks. I want to do things but don’t feel like doing them.
@tryingtosurvive2024 I’ve felt desperate too.
@tryingtosurvive2024 i understand where you re coming from but being busy doesnt get rid of lonliness neither does talking to a lot of people because you can still end up feeling lonely. I think when we get scared to put ourselves out there we underestimate ourselves and because we dont pursue those experiences that make life...life this is for you when you hide yourself from people believing they wont respond well to you. We need to show a part of our real selves to other people and in a process of trial and error you find your people.
@Reaper17 How long does that take? I feel like I've been putting myself out there for 22 years. lol
@tryingtosurvive2024 to be honest i havent been alive for 22 years but i think this is what life is you keep trying and still try when you get disappointed.
For example i just started uni in another city and i m not a fan of the people here but i know i ll find people i can enjoy myself with so i keep making efforts and when you dont take yourself seriously something i only started now, you have in the effort part of it. I ll pursue interests and find people there and try new things even though every small set back makes me want to run make home. I guess the point is having hope and enjoying the process.
@Reaper17 I wish you good luck.
@tryingtosurvive2024
Hi ! I do so relate to you, in that i don't have a bunch of talents and i'm not that interested in the things i'm interested in and I do oftentimes know that I'm a loser. Still, there is a place for us in this world, even though we may not be acknowledged by others. There must be a place for us, otherwise, we would be long gone.
I reckon we best be our best buddies ourselves ; share your own interests with yourself, talk to yourself, be with yourself. It may sound crazy but maybe, I think instead of finding another person to talk with (cuz it's just too difficult), to do things with, to understand me, the easiest would be to help myself understand me, to talk with me, to cultivate interests with me (cuz i'm always available for me) lol... I hope you understand what I'm trying to articulate. 🤣 Then, perhaps, I'll find that there is actually a lot going on in my life. As then, I will find the interests to pursue the interests that interests me and not pursue the interests that interests others, so that they will like and be interested in me.
😅 ... and now I'm interested in going off to dreamland. Good night ! I hope you find yourself interesting enough to say that you are no longer lonely. 😘
@tryingtosurvive2024 hey you aren't a loser at all. I'm here for you, I'm your friend. You can talk to me, message me, chat with me whenever you feel like you need someone or are alone. I'll always be here for you!☺️
I know exactly what you mean. I’m in the same boat🙏
That you can’t share w anyone but yourseld
totally get it
i feel you
i really do
My conclusion is:
live for yourself
also what I got reminded from one stranger is also:
just fight for yourself not anyone else
✊🏻💔🩵💓
And also, things like going for mindful observation of nature, your diary, or venting the thoughts here, all safe spaces n much better than the temptation of convos that end up meaningless
we all got this
👏🏻💚❤️🕊️💛
one step at time
if that’s a lot
then just let it be n flow
@tryingtosurvive2024
You feel at a loss and feel lonely and desperate unlike other people who you consider to be more occupied and have things going well. Your have a sense of worthlessness because you are not doing enough. You blame yourself for what you see as people withdrawal from you for failing to reach an agreeable standard of standard.
🥰@tryingtosurvive2024
