Looking for someone to connect with/talk to!
Hello! I'm a 32 year old female living in the United States.
I've been going through marriage problems so it's been kind of lonely over here.
Recently I've been enjoying watching anime and knitting. Feel free to reach out to talk about anything though! Or if you need someone to listen to :).
@enthusiasticKitten5924
Marriage problems make people feel lonely .....IMO ..... many people have them...... but do not admit it.
if i had a dollar for every person who said my issues with spouse were small / or they NEVER had these issues even when i KNOW they had .... i would be set for life....
we may not want to share details with people in real life cause what if we re- connect and they know what we went through. Or perhaps afraid some have big mouths and it will come back on us.
I have come to realize sometimes marriage sucks... literally had a fight this weekend because he put in his phone the wrong date of our anniversary ..... i had suggested dinner out and he was like tomorrow is our anniversary i said "nope it is today " .
He was accusing me of keeping it a secret so i could hold it over him ..... told him it was insulting that he put wrong date in his phone and wants to turn it on me.
I totally agree with you and I'm so sorry about the fight that happened between you and your partner. I can only imagine how frustrating, exhausting, and defeated you must feel from what the fight was about..
My partner always thinks I'm attacking his character when I bring up something he doesn't like even when I'm doing my best to say it kindly. He does the same things to me that he doesn't want me to do during arguments like getting defensive or bring up past examples. But it's okay if he does it because he feels entitled to hold on to his pain when he says I'm the one who needs to learn to forgive.
If you need someone to listen or if you're lonely, I'm here!
@enthusiasticKitten5924
It seems universal that even when they are in the wrong they flip the script ....
holding on to items that should long ago been let go.....or refusing to move forward.... we made a vow yet the players are no longer contributing to the future or just day to day upkeep.
they want to claim changes in them but still think we are exact same and can not change. How that works in their head i will never know.
Mine thinks i like the exact same foods / drink from years ago................ like we are some sort of toy that sits on a shelf until they decide they want to play with us again.
@toughTiger6481
Same here. I don't understand how both our partners can project so much onto us without feeling guilty. And once they're done being mad and blaming us, they're ready to come back to us all happy and ready to move on.
All your points hit home for me. Mine hasn't tried to connect with me for almost a week because of an argument where I was misunderstanding what we were talking about even when I apologized after and tried to make it up to him. He tells me he doesn't believe he should try to be a loving husband to me when I wasn't supportive of him during the argument.
Thanks for sharing your experience with me and letting me vent 🙏.
I’m here for you