Over 50 and still hiding my sexuality
Hi, I’ve spent my whole life hiding my sexuality. I’m 52 now, a lesbian, and in a happy relationship with my girlfriend, but I still feel very stressed about going out in public with her or introducing her to my friends and family.
Is there anyone else who has hidden their sexuality for most of their life? Sometimes I feel like it might be too late to come out. I grew up in Ukraine until my 30s. I’ve lived in the UK and the USA for over 20 years, yet I still feel like I carry this trauma deep inside.
@ivanaberg
I am not in your position but am a family member to someone who came out. Although they thought they were hiding it most if not all involved knew on some level. I realize this is a situation where sometimes it does not go well but there are also several where it is does go well and is accepted and they may even feel bad you felt you had to hide from family. Even from some family member we assumed would NOT approve.
it must be hard on both........ you not being yourself and your partner feeling hidden or ashamed of.
