People are too busy to be my friend, or lover.
I work bad hours. 2:00pm - 10:30pm. I am on my feet for 8 hours. I clean over 20 class rooms, multiple restrooms, a gym, a laundry room, and a kitchen. I may have missed a few. There are days when I got to cover twice that. This job has given me bad feet. I've had to see a foot doctor and upgraded my shoes and this stuff is expensive. I even had to take anti inflammatory medication. I'm no longer allowed to take it because it is bad on my kidneys. About 4 times in my life I have had to get a cortisone shot in my feet. Often times my legs are tired, and my back aches. That's not everything in my body that bothers me. But that is about all that bothers me that is caused by my job.
The purpose of me writing that, isn't to complain about my job. But I could write a whole post about the frustrations my job causes, and how and why people look down on me. It would be a sad post to write. My purpose of bring all of this up is about my frustration with people and how busy they are.
On the weekends I'm very tired, and a large portion of Saturday and Sunday I spend in bed, trying to rest up so that I can do it again the next week.
I am frustrated with how many people tell me "I'm just busy". It makes me wonder what are you so busy about? I know a lot of people my age have families and kids and sports to keep them busy. But what is so frustrating is how EVERYONE I meet is always too busy. Now days people are so busy that they can't even respond to emails, or carry on little tiny, one line, conversations with me. It is not just a few people I run into like this. It has got be at least 98% of the people I run into are like this.
So whenever people say to me "I'm just busy" I want to rip my hair out. They say it like they don't care about how it makes me feel to hear it.
Another thing I can't understand. All the people who are "too busy" for me. Have lots of friends. It kinda makes me wonder. To those that have a lot of friends then they are too busy with them. To those like me who have no friends, will never get any because those other people have already taken them all.
@tryingtosurvive2024
Hello there. Thank you for sharing this post and letting us know how you are feeling. First of all thank you so much for your work❤️ I work as a primary teacher so I have seen the other staff working hard all day and keeping our surroundings clean. I try to help them as much as possible and after reading your share I'm going to help them even more. It must be so difficult for you to work along all the medication and health issues.
*I'm too busy* This definitely is one of the most significant issues arising nowadays. People are either so lonely that they are unable to bear it or they are too busy to talk to anyone. I'm sorry to hear that you don't have a friend. It must be difficult to not have someone to be there for you. If its okay for you, i can be here and listen to you whenever you need a friend 😊 I know I can't do much but I'd like to help you in any way possible. Because you are important and we are always here to support you ❤️ it'd be my pleasure to have a friend who is so wise and works so hard. You can pm me whenever you want:)
@dtanushree I appreciate you wanting to be my friend, and I want to be your friend too. 😃
I feel that I need to make something clear. I speak for my school, and my situation there. I don't speak for every school, or for every custodian/janitor out there.
@tryingtosurvive2024
I've understood that :) I was sharing my experience only.
That sounds like an unpleasant experience. Sorry to hear that 😕
Haha at our school every class has one cleaning staff appointed and they work according to our instructions. So, I always try to keep my class cleaner and I ask my kids to do the same. She looks happy with my efforts so yeah I am going to keep helping them whichever way possible.
@dtanushree I never heard of as a school setup that way. Your school must have money.
@tryingtosurvive2024 I never heard of a school setup that way. Your school must have money, to afford a lot of janitors.
@tryingtosurvive2024
😅😅 Lol yeah I guess
@tryingtosurvive2024
How's your health? How are you doing?
@dtanushree Thank you for asking. My answer depends on when you ask. Today is Friday at 11:08 AM. Currently both feet are hurting me, and I'm feeling sleepy. I'm just about always feeling burned out and low at the end of the week. However I am very thankful that tomorrow is Saturday. I am looking forward to listen to a Bible based podcast as I drive to the grocery store tomorrow. I am also looking forward to my Saturday nap. Sunday I'm going to watch two sermons on the smart TV, and listen to something Christian when I fly a really small radio controlled plane in the gym at the school I work for. Then I will come home, and who knows from there. I'm curious where in the world do you live?
@tryingtosurvive2024
Wow sounds like a great weekend plan! Hope you get some good rest.
I'm from India 😊 What about you?
@dtanushree I am sorry that it took me 3 days to get back with you. The 7 Cups notification didn't notify me that you commented again. I live in the USA. The State I live in is Indiana. I have had a lot of people online, mistake that state for India. I hope all is going well for you. It does make sense why things at your school is a lot different then the way things are at my school.
@tryingtosurvive2024 I feel that I need to make something clear. I speak for my school, and my situation there. I don't speak for every school, or for every custodian/janitor out there. If I speak about frustration with teachers, I speak about my frustration with the teachers at my school only! It would be unfair of me to lump everyone into the same category.
@tryingtosurvive2024 I believe your modest job is very important. In my country there is a saying that NOBODY would notice if a politician was missing for a year, but EVERYBODY would quickly notice if a cleaning person was missing for a day.
@jacek73 Thank you for the comment! My co-worker wrecked his knees at one of our schools. He got one knee replaced, and soon is going to be out getting the next knee replaced. 3 years ago He bought himself a scooter so that He could ride around, and hopefully reduce how much time He has on His feet. 2 years ago, I bought myself the same scooter. It has reduced how much time I am on feet a little. Yet my feet still hurt. It doesn't reduce it enough, but any little bit helps. I also have lots of shoes and different insoles to put in the shoes. The idea is to keep changing the pressure points.
I have found in my experience, that someone saying they are busy, is code for " not willing to make time". I would search for connections and meet new people. I'd rather have 2 or 3 amazing friends who get me, contact me to check on me..etc. Not waste any more of my life chasing down people who are not emotionally available or of a deeper mind.
I'm a newbie here hoping to get guidance and support for my social challenges as well. My story not the same, but I can empathize with you
@redflagslookgray I understand what your saying, and I agree with you. But I have discovered that people around me just doesn't want to be that kind of person for me. I've been at this for years and years, and haven't been able to find good people that love me.
@tryingtosurvive2024 Hey don't worry. Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I know how it feels to be ignored as I spent my life till now like that but don't worry, I can be your friend.🙃
@goldenOwl8174 Of course. I try to be friends with everyone that wants to try it with me. Some people here have mentioned Private Messaging. I know how to PM a listener, but anyone that is not a listener, doesn't seem to have a button on their profile for messaging.
@tryingtosurvive2024 I can relate. If you feel like chatting, feel free to message me
@Ark2783 Looks like you got a message button on your page. I shall leave you one.
