Problems in my relationship with my parents and my boyfriend.

Hi!

I need to make a decision in my life. But I have no one to turn to for advice. I'm very nervous and I'm very scared because this is a very important step in my life.

After I met my boyfriend, I began to have conflicts with my parents. I met him before my eighteenth birthday and they didn't like the fact that I started a relationship. Every time I went on a date my mom came with us. After another conflict where my parents were very rude to me and said mean things about my boyfriend I made the decision to leave him. For half a year I felt very bad about leaving him. So bad that I hurt myself and almost killed myself. But at some point I decided to make up with him and change my life for the better.

We made up and I felt very happy. We went on dates and everything was fine until the start of the war in Ukraine. I had to leave my hometown with my parents where it was quite dangerous. I haven't seen him for over a year and because of that my boyfriend and I also have conflicts. He doesn't like long-distance relationships and I do too, but there is nothing I can do about it. I'm eighteen now, and I've decided that I want to move in with my boyfriend.

And when I told my parents, there was a big fight.

The problem is that my boyfriend doesn't work and I want to work. It's okay for us to share responsibilities. He will do the housework, I will work. My parents say it's a man's responsibility to provide for the girl and say my boyfriend will beat me up, make me work and clean the house. Use me for sex and money. Such words offend me very much.

My boyfriend said that if I do not come back before the summer, he probably will not be able to continue to date me and we will have to break up.

I love him very much, and in the interval of six months without our relationship, I have made many conclusions for myself. I am very determined that he is the perfect partner for me. We have a lot in common, we can talk for hours on any topic, understand each other easily and care about each other. I really don't want to lose him. For three years of relationship we have become very close, despite all the difficulties.

But on the other hand my parents will never let me go so easily.

I probably have a choice to run away from them or leave my boyfriend.

I can't sleep because of the panic. What should I do? That's why I need help. Any advice or solution to the problem. Thank you for reading.