Relationship
I haven’t been the best my and my boyfriend have been having a lot of up and downs lately to the point he gets up set with me and ignores me or won’t speak to me for.ldays leaving me to figure things out on my own of what I did or if I say he did something it still gets flipped to me he just refuses to communicate with me. He don’t express his self to me but will go to the internet and say how he feels and he knows I doesn’t like that and I always confront him to the point he blocked me in every social media. I constant beg and call his phone over and over text him over and over a to the point he turns his phone off just to avoid me. Somtimes I feel like he hates me. Last year he went through my phone to find old messages of my talking to other guys when we first started talking and I explained to him that was just me simply dating he lived out of town and I was back in our home town and he would visit frequently until he moved back for good I didn’t know how things would go with us we stared of as friends and things just naturally progressed he was always my main priority the main person I walks talked to he had my attention he has like me since we where in high school and always tried to talk to me even after and we are 27 now he my first boyfriend first real everything so I feel like I’m still learning and that I’m not perfect neither of us are that why I don’t hold his feet to fire one day he loves me and treat me so good the next day I’m nothing to him he always tells me and people that I changed him a lot for the better and how I came into his life and did all these amazing things but sometimes it’ confuses me because I’m the person he communicates wthi the least I love him so much he has taught me things as well how to express and open up to him in the begging he was on me about and and I changed and opened up more because I was a quiet person too still am but for him I express everything I do anything to make this work because we always said we wouldn’t give up and no I feel like he his
@faithfulSea4344
Maybe you are just too much... many guys cannot open up with their feeling very well but your bf is able to online or on socials just not with you. Perhaps it is how you react to him if he has tried to talk to you. Texting and calling over and over where he feels the need to shut off phone or block you from his socials seems like over done. let him have space and come to you not chase him down until he talks to you. That will never make him at ease to feel like opening up to you.
Communication or interrogation.
@toughTiger6481 I feel like I do give that space as well but we almost 30 years old if u can talk to the internet why not be adult and talk about what’s wrong. He the same person that says I don’t talk to him and that’s just not true when he constantly denis me of any conversation. I’m trying to communicate not integration. My birthday just recently passed and he was nice to me everyday leading til my birthday and not on my birthday took me out and paid me dust the entire time. I really wasn’t in the birthday spirit this year but he convinced me to still go out so since ik he had things planned for me I sucked it up and still celebrated my birthday even though I didn’t want to still did because ik he took his time out to plan something just to talk to me the whole time just regular conversations i had to make convo and at times he wouldn’t even say anything never have me a compliment ain’t touch a door for me nothing things he do. When I confronted him he said didn’t need some type of validation because I didn’t get a compliment or birthday post which I didn’t really trip about that because I don’t do to much social media
@faithfulSea4344
After hearing your response i am thinking i understand better. I have a bit of that too .... how did this person who is suppose to be close not get me. When did it become so hard to talk to someone. Why do others so easy to talk , Listen and appreciate us.
Ask him straight out do not contribute to the disengagement. That was my error. we both walk around on eggshells and quit talking to avoid the confrontation. If a person we talk to especially on socials gets mad or something ......... no big deal but when a partner does more to lose...
I have in talking around things and never just coming right out and say what I am feeling ...it is frustrating and the rift gets wider and then ... I speak to other friends/ co-workers etc .... it is a cycle and to end it takes us willing to say stuff out loud.
@faithfulSea4344 Relationships thrive on communication, understanding, and mutual respect. It sounds like you're deeply invested in making things work, and that journey is filled with learning and growth. If you're looking for ways to rebuild trust and establish healthy communication, exploring relationship counseling or open dialogue strategies could be helpful. Everyone deserves a connection where they feel heard and valued.
@faithfulSea4344 communication is key for dny relationship, not silence, not sulking, none of us are perfect but if you want a relationship to work, you listen and you build. You don't ignore. Please never beg anyone for attention. People do need space but if I had to text multiple times, that would be it for me, unless he gave an honest explanation for the immaturity , I really hope he meets you half way and that you can sort this out 💜🥰