Divorced father's
I'm looking to speak with other divorced fathers whose ex only wants your child to make you miserable. And how do you ever get over your child being away from you
Hi @EliasISeverything! There are so many people,man and women who struggle with relationships,and they usually fell apart and divorce, I'm myself in a halfway,yet still being in a marriage i have one child, Its very touchy subject, I hope you go trough these brave!
@EliasISeverything
I have been dealing with this issue for the past 7+ years. I know first hand how difficult it is. You're used to having your kids near you every day.
Make the best of the time you are with them and make sure you let them know how much you love and miss them. Do not talk down about the ex. Focus on the kids.
Happy to answer any questions you may have.
@EliasISeverything Hello, I may not be the person you're looking to talk to, but I’m a child of divorced parents, and my dad went through something very similar. My biological mother’s only goal seemed to be making his life miserable. Both of them did not have any liabilities, and my mother even had a high-paying job—yet she still dragged us all through the courts and made our lives a living ***. My sister was only three months old at the time.
My dad suffered a lot, but he never let it show. He never spoke badly about our mother. But kids pick up on things. He was miserable, but he was always there for us. He wasn’t a perfect husband, and as a dad, he made some questionable decisions that we didn’t always agree with—but at the end of the day, whenever we have a problem, we call him first. Even now. We don’t lie to him… well, not outright (sometimes we omit things, lol). We disagree with him, but we never speak to him with anger (Even my brothers do not raise voice against him). We respect him. We love him...eh...most times.
Even when he fought hard and won custody (though, ironically, our mother didn’t even want us), he couldn’t raise us himself—he was a busy man, he had lots of responsibilities, so our grandparents did. We were angry at him for being absent. Sometimes we wouldn’t see him for months. He could not attend every birthday or PTAs. But he was always just one call away. He was miserable too, but he never let that stop him from being our dad.
What I’m trying to say is—even if at worst, you don’t get to see your kids every day, you can still be there for them. And until then, fight for your kids, not against your ex. One day, they’ll understand and appreciate that. I know that because my siblings and I appreciate our dad.
