Helping others has a limit
So you may be wondering, what do I mean by this?
Well, lets chat!
Helping others can be good for you and the person youre helping, its feel good, and it can be a win win, however, its not this case all the time.
Sometimes, we need breaks! Your friends that help you with your problems? They need breaks! You helping other peoples problems? You need a break too!
Helping others is important, but dont forget to help yourself too. Sometimes its not healthy to dump all of our issues onto others, but its also not healthy to accept all of the issues being dumped either. Both parties working to better themselves is the most important thing, and should be a give, take and relax relationship <3
@WorldRondo
This is something I struggle with a lot honestly - my parents call it being a "people pleaser", meaning you want to help everyone no matter what it does to you.
I am the one in the friend group who looks after everyone (the mom in the group I guess), and incidentally the most mature even though my friends are some 4 years older than me. I am dealing with things right now as well, but they need me so I can't be a burden to them. This is the case even in my own family, because out of my 7 family members, 4 have mental health problems and 2 of them are very severe (my sibling is currently in a mental hospital because of it).
I guess I just want to know how to take care of myself when I feel such guilt if I don't help others.
Thank you for reading :)
@adventureawaits777 Thanks for sharing, because I struggle with this a lot too. I recently moved to a new state, and I've been ducking my friends' phone calls ever since. I couldn't figure out why until I read your post. I was so emotionally drained by ceding emotional ground to their many problems (some insignificant and some challenging) that leaving was a huge emotional weight off my shoulders. I don't know if I can be friends with them the same way again. I feel like I have nothing left to give.
One of the more reasons to put the self first, self care is number one so you can help other people.
@WorldRondo
Yeah, if we help others, we may get help one day from another.
