Surviving Infinitely
I feel like a doormat. I went through infidelity with one husband and ended up in another marriage going through the same thing. I'm not perfect but I have done everything both husband's asked and wanted me to just for them to cheat anyway. Children have been involved in both marriages and I'm just at my wits end. I don't know how what to do anymore and I feel like I must be rhe problem.
@amicableLime1277 I'm going thru the same thing. I have held on as long as I could. And I have decided I'm just going to morn the man I feel in love with like he is gone passed away. I call the new guy that ate my husband Richard aka ***. *** had no remorse no empathy no simpathy for what he did to me. Even tho I was very upfront and honest about what I needed from him. It always end me in me being the problem. How in The world can be even see it that way. I can't take it any longer.
@amicableLime1277 A relationship is about trust and respect, there is no room for cheating there and that is on them. No person is undeserving of those things in a relationship.
I hope you'll find a decent partner in the future.
You are not responsible for their decision to cheat. Cheating is always something a person decides to choose, and nothing you did or didn't do will never constitute as reason for them to cheat. Please don't take the blame and weight of their actions on your shoulders.
sending lots of love
@flinders504
edit: meant to say "will ever constitute" instead of "will never constitute"
@amicableLime1277
Relationships are a living and changing thing. That includes feelings too. I feel many partners simply do NOT know how their partner is feeling day to day or going thru. That is on both for either not sharing or a person Not listening to what their partner is saying. They think they are happy so other one must be too.
Cheating IMO is not a one size fits all or reasons. While no excuse if someone has committed to someone. That commitment also not holding someone if they do not honor it. My partner cheated once many years ago I did all the thinking it was me, or what more could I do thoughts. It was not me it was them. The choice to cross a line is them, but what no one says is often that line to cross is very fuzzy and not as clear cut as some think IMO.
