Feeling Conflicted
Hello, I'm pretty new to this app so my first attempt at this may not be great. I've been in a relationship for a little over four years now. We live together and we engaged. About a week or so ago I found out that he had been flirting with a girl online. When I asked him about it he admitted to what he'd done and he apologized saying he'd take care of it and even said he had cut off communication. A couple days ago I had fallen asleep before him and when I woke up I noticed he was texting someone. It was her. I waited till the next day and confronted him about it and he lied about it at first. After I explained to him that I saw it first hand he showed me his messages and they weren't there. Turns out he had them archived on his phone so it wouldn't show like a normal message. He was hiding it. No he says he's working on things and showed me that he had actually cut off communication this time. That said I don't know how to handle the relationship from here. I Know lost will say to leave him which would make sense, but its not quite that easy. I just don't know if I can trust him anymore 🙃. Advice?
@inventivePeach8079 hey! first of all, sending you lots of hugs, i've been in your position and it sucks. i'm sorry you're going through this. :( i think what you want is the most important here but i'll leave you with some questions: do you think you can bring yourself to forgive him? it's not going to be a fun time spending the rest of your life with someone you resent. why did he do what he did? is he unhappy with the relationship? with himself? and as you already mentioned in your post, do you think you can trust him again? is he taking responsibility for his actions? or is he making excuses? people can change but he really needs to prioritize you if this is going to work. i also think therapy can help if you want to speak with a professional! regardless of what you choose though, just know that what he did isn't your fault. take care. <3
@inventivePeach8079
Hello, i'm Blue and well yea..just a teen girl..but um ma'am, i just wanna let you know that honesty, in any kind of relationships in this life, it's really important...
i know that it won't be easy to end it up but does it feel worth it for you ma'am, to keep on living with his lies? And are you ready for his next lies? Maybe not today, maybe not now... but if he never want to improve himself to be a better man then you'll just put yourself in suffer ma'am. But of course, this is just what's on my mind and i hope it can helps. Talk it out to your heart and mind to make the best decisions in your life ma'am.
Take care and hope you have a good day ma'am 😊