Hi there…

Hi there. I joined because I feel very lost in life. I’m 35M, been single for over a decade, and live alone. I just made a career change that’s going pretty well this year, and I feel like I’ve got a good handle on my finances, but I feel like I should not be so lonely at my age.

I feel lost because I’m straight but not into “guy stuff” like sports, cars, fishing, etc. and people (especially women I’m trying to date) are constantly weirded out by that. I grew up being bullied for being “gay” as a result. I don’t have a whole lot of friends, and the few I do have are always busy with their partners and children. I do go out and do stuff by myself, but it’s getting cold in my region and what little fun was allowed due to covid is ending, so the seasonal blues hit harder than usual this year.

Usually what happens when I do date is “Aww you’re so sweet and my ex is an a-hole!” followed by her running back to the ex-boyfriend while complaining to me about it. I have a couple of dear female friends, so I don’t like the term “friendzoned,” because that’s not a real friendship, but I feel like I’ll never be good enough to be the boyfriend, which makes me question myself a lot.

Figured I’d try this because I was hoping to not feel so alone or “out there” I guess.