Married SIngle Mother Overview

TW: Marriages/Women problem/ Overview

Hello everyone, and Happy Timezone! 

It's your lovely forum supporter InsightfulPhoenix, and I wanted to speak on the widely known term that has been classified as "Single Married Mother." 

What is a Married Single Mother? 

A Married Single Mother is a woman that marries a man who does all the thinking, chores of the household, childcare, sometimes working, and carries the marriage on her shoulders. 

Single Married Mothers have been on a rise as of late, and before I get into the researched information. I wanted to lay down my perspective first, I feel that this generation of husbands have been taught by their father's the ways to repel responsibility and dodge accountability for the distortion of what true equal share of responsibility looks like. As women, I feel that from a young age we were not taught to be independent, we were taught how to submit unfairly, and take on the burden. From being taught how to fold laundry, sweep the floors correctly, mop them to pristine condition, care for other children (especially if you are an older sibling such as myself.), and much more. 

Now let us begin the researched information, this term has surfaced because of the viral video that went crazy a while back when the mom is handling everything, and the man (her husband) is entranced in his phone. This video angered many of women, and including the older generation of mother's because they are recognizing that this generation of husband's are disinterested in responsibility, and find ways to deflect it. The reason why this video was upsetting is because he did absolutely nothing to help, and the reaction time was very poor.  Mind boggling right? Here is another reason why the term has becoming effective, and stuck to public. There was another viral video that went crazy awhile ago, as well the husband was recording his wife's reaction to him coming home, and playing his game inside of stepping up to help her. Why this was a problem? The woman said, " I am your wife, you decided to put a ring on my finger, the moment that you chose me. I became the person who guides you to do the right thing. Here is the thing, responsibility does not stop the moment you clock out, there are other responsibilities that need to be done from cleaning, taking a turn with the children, and helping me out." The husband recording proceeds to gaslight her, and emotionally manipulate her by threatening to show it to the divorce lawyer. She then says, " I'm not taking away from the fact you are tired, I can respect that however if you are tired then that is what the bed is for so you can go to bed. It's not for you to use it as a ploy to skip responsibility, and play games all night." 

These videos have been used as prime examples as why Married Single Mother has been coined the biggest problem in women's lives. Why? Due to the simple fact that mothers, and women overall are looked as the "default" facilitator or parent. Which over time is daunting, because then it leaves us scrambling for time not only for ourselves, but our friendships become non-existent, and family time becomes a mental chore. Which is why the song from Paris Paloma called "labor" has started to bring women to their feet, and remember it's about partnership. 

Here is an image I found to help back up the information: