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How do I get over this feeling that I wasn't good enough?

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Last Updated: 09/03/2019 at 7:23pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 5:44am
"one person's inability to see your worth does not decrease your value" 'You ARE good enough' to begin with. Most of the time we feel we are not good enough because of many factors. But it's usually because someone we values.. Chose to see our shortcomings rather than our strengths. And when our flaws are put in the the spotlight.. Any human being is bound to feel unworthy. The difference is.. You are not one of those people that choose to pick on your flaws. It takes time to gain back the confidence that was scrapped off.. It takes a lot of self love, self affirmations and understanding and patience to heal and grow into an even stronger individual.. But.. You were never.. 'not enough' . We all are beautifully flawed. .
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 11:28pm
It takes time a lot of time. But some day you'll look back and say that they weren't good enough.
neverendingStar20
June 21st, 2016 10:31pm
Remind yourself that you were enough. Sometimes it is not us that wasn't enough. When someone in a relationship was too good and enough, the other person can not always handle that. You are enough
littleredx1
April 4th, 2017 9:13pm
I taught myself to accept that situations are not always controllable. You cannot change another persons thoughts directly, and at the time you did exactly the best that you could do.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2015 10:02pm
I used to feel like I wasnt good enough at anything, like I had no right to try at life because I would not succeed, but I talked to a close friend whom I trusted because their support made me feel like I was good enough and that I had as much right at life as everyone else, I also went on runs and long walks outside to distract messed a bit and to get away from life for a while, I found that it cleared my head a lot, and I also find that music can cheer up up no matter how you feel.
lilypad360
August 11th, 2015 6:39am
Just remember that you are only human and there is only so much that humans can do for each other. I am sure you tried t make the best choices in the moment with what you could and thats all you can really do.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 5:49am
Don't let someone else opinion to be your reality. You are unique because no body in this world can take your place.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2017 9:50am
An activity that I find useful is the daily affirmation. When you wake up in the mirror, smile and tell yourself positive affirmation like "I'm good enough" "I'm strong and capable" etc, even when you don't feel like it or when you don't believe it. Overtime, you will start to see positive results.
Tinygreentreefrog1234
September 22nd, 2015 1:57am
Realize that you are not perfect nor is anyone else. We are not meant to be. We are supposed to help each other and grow together. Perhaps other people said or did things that you internalized as you not being good enough. You must realize you are unique and valued.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2015 1:59am
Just don't think like that, you are good, and you just have to realise it! You will understand it! Good luck!
Anonymous
January 10th, 2017 5:54am
I try to think about what I did that was positive. I also think about how when you roll a dice, you won't always land on a 4. Sometimes you make it, sometimes you don't. Sometimes it comes right away, sometimes it doesn't. Life is the same.
Surruh
August 28th, 2018 7:41pm
Sometimes we aren’t good enough for other people. We don’t always meet their standards or we aren’t what they want. That does not in any way mean we aren’t good or even great! It just means we aren’t everybody’s cup of tea 😉 and that’s ok. We need to be good enough for ourselves because at the end of the day we have to live inside our minds nobody else’s. If you think you weren’t good enough truly because of error, then take it in stride. Learn from me. Always continue to be a better YOU but only for yourself.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2015 9:43pm
I think it helps to think about what you have accomplished instead of your failures. Don't compare yourself to others. You set your own standards and you don't need to follow the standards of someone else. You and the people close to you will know how far you have come and what you have accomplished and that is what matters.
gentlePudding78
December 8th, 2015 2:14am
continously tell yourself that every little thing is an accomplishment whether you believe it or not and soon u will believe your good enough
JuliaCho
September 3rd, 2019 7:23pm
It’s not easy. Just remember that you don’t need to become a millionaire, get that A+, or make everyone around you happy to be good enough. Everyone has failures, but think of all the good things you did today! Just getting out of bed in the morning can be so difficult, but guess what? You did it anyways, you woke up and decided to face the day without knowing what you would have to go through. You got yourself meals, suffered through hours of work or school, and maybe you helped someone else out and made their day a little bit better, too. I think seeing other people smile after you do something nice for them always gives me this sense of fulfillment, even if all I did was ask how their day went. All of these little everyday things that you do are accomplishments that you should be proud of. You’re not just good enough, you’re more than enough. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise
arthritisfighter
April 14th, 2015 12:50pm
I understand that you are feeling that you weren't good enough for something or someone. Sometimes we get this feeling because we are telling ourselves that we aren't good enough. I would start with telling yourself that you were good enough and things happen for a reason. Start to value yourself, build on your confidence and see that you have a lot to offer people. You are good enough.
originalLion57
June 4th, 2015 1:29pm
Talk to people you can confide in. Whether it's a friend, family member or a professional. Do things you dream of doing, that makes you a little anxious, but take those chances and do it and when you succeed in doing some of those things you'll realize how brave and strong you are and you'll feel your courage and sense of self worth rise.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2015 2:38am
I remember that I tried my best, and that I cannot help someone everytime that I try to come to someone's aid. If I think I wasn't good enough, I would recommend seeing another listener about it so that I feel like I at least helped then by bringing them to the next person to talk about it.
friendlyEars42
December 8th, 2015 6:04pm
You are good enough, to everyone and you should just smile and keep your head up and all you have to do is smile :)
Anonymous
March 15th, 2016 8:06am
Your feeling is because of your thoughts that you are not good enough. Your feelings change when your thoughts about yourself change. You may want to focus into qualities about yourself that are beautiful and unique more than your weaknesses.