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What is considered "clingy" in a relationship?

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TheSavior
February 25th, 2015 3:38pm
In my experience, "clingy" has basically been just me caring too much a person and becoming too attached in a short period of time. Following the person around a lot and always urging them to fix their problems is for some reason, also a sign of clingy-ness. To put it briefly, it's just being very attached to someone, to the point that you miss them for every second they're gone and you keep asking where they'd been and such.
CaringDemon6
September 21st, 2015 12:06pm
When in a relationship it is important to show the person that you care that you are there for them. Clingy is when you become very obsessive with a person and don't give them their own space. People like their personal space even when in a relationship.
Smrtbibliophile
April 24th, 2015 3:06am
I don't think you can really determine that because it varies relationship to relationship. I personally like to hear from my partner once a day, even if it's just a "hi, how was your day?" or "goodnight" - some people would consider that clingy. I think it's important to communicate your needs with your partner and if they don't watch with what they can give to find a compromise.
SupportiveSam1
August 29th, 2016 9:56pm
Clingy in a relationship is when you are talking, checking up and with your partner 24/7. A healthy relationship requires personal space and development.:) and not being clingy gives your partner a chance to miss you and appreciate you...
Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 6:45pm
Everyone is different, so defining "clingy" is whatever you think it is. For some people, "clingy" is calling/texting frequently, and for others "clingy" doesn't exist. It's entirely what the people in the relationship want it to be.
dlpeter
April 26th, 2015 3:20pm
It depends on how both parties feel. Feelings of having your personal space constantly invaded. Thinking the worst of something by over analyzing such as unanswered text messages. Feeling "rejected" if you're not involved in all of their plans, even families matters. Needing constant attention to remind yourself that the person is still there. The feeling of not being able to be happy without the other person.
GTheOddOneOut
February 28th, 2015 5:50am
It depends on the individual truly. One thought that would come up would be someone who is a bit obsessive of their partner wanting to know where they are at all time . Another thought would just be someone who does not want to leave their partner's side. There are tons of definitions for every word and each word has a different meaning per person. ♡
Anonymous
November 8th, 2016 6:27pm
Being clingy in a relationship is when you're overly dependent on the other person. You have so many feelings for this person that all you want is him / her. The world revolves around that special person in your eyes.
calmZebra60
February 14th, 2017 6:37pm
A codependcy is generally 'clingy'. It means, in the short form, that the partners sacrifice their own health for the others regularly.
TheLovableSunshine
May 16th, 2015 7:38pm
When someone doesn't let you have the freedom to do what you love and be who you are, that person is becoming clingy.
Mila76
January 24th, 2017 8:48pm
You will be considered ''clingy'' if you are so stuck and addicted to one particular person. examples of being clingy would be: - stalking them on social media - always following them around and never letting them out of your sight - you get furious when he/she talks to someone else - easily jealous
Greatlistener87
June 27th, 2016 6:34am
If you are the type of person that wants to be all the time with your partner and you have to talk to him/her and be involve in everything he/she does all the time then you are clingy. Its different if your partner asks you too rather than you telling him that you want too.
dancinglion24
March 14th, 2018 3:34am
Being 'clingy' is basically just hanging on to the person all the time. Like you ask where they're going, why they're going, who they're meeting with and stuff like that. It can also be like controlling the persons attitude and behaviour
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 1:56am
Clingy means where you're constantly needing to be with your partner! Knowing everything that goes on in there lives. Reading there messages, knowing where they are every hour of the day, and what they're doing.
naturalSoul17
May 24th, 2016 8:05pm
Umm! I guess possessiveness. And more I don't know because I am not in a relationship with anyone so idk.
Anonymous
September 10th, 2018 1:12pm
there are lots of different meanings for clingy in relationships, it depends on your own feelings and what you feel is 'too much' but in my own opinion i would say, someone that doesnt give you time to be yourself, who wont give you time to grow as a person. Unfortunately clingy can turn into controlling so keep an eye on whether you feel you can be who you want to be. Time to yourself, and time away from your partner is just as important as spending time with them. unfortunately with the other being clingy if you say to them that you dont like something in particular you should make sure that you arent doing that thing also.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2020 8:21pm
This answer very much depends on partner preference. And your preferences as well. It should also be noted that clingy is a little step away from codependency, which shares a lot of things with clinginess. I can only speak for myself what is clingy, but it generally appears as obessive behavior such as texting you loads of times in the day, not letting you have space when you want it, or general people-pleasing behaviors. This isn't to say you shouldn't not talk to your partner often, but if they ask for space or ask to cut back it is important that you respect that. Most often they will use the label "clingy" not to be rude, but to make things right because they do care.
Skybringslight
April 4th, 2015 2:46am
It depends on your partner. Be straight forward with them, and ask if they feel like they do not have enough space.
AnIris4you
June 23rd, 2015 8:16pm
When a person is "clingy" it usually means that he/she needs to be constantly by your side or to always have your attention. This could make you feel suffocated and like you need more space.
scarlet25
August 3rd, 2015 4:47pm
Clingy will be when you don't provide the other person with their personal space. Acts that make them feel bound and uncomfortable
courtly25
September 1st, 2015 4:02am
People begin to label someone as "clingy" when they are constantly texting that person even when they might not be getting a response. Also another sign of this could be, always having to see that person and being angry when they can't or do not want to hangout. Not letting someone see and or talk to other people, and only letting them speak or see you is very possessive and could be considered clingy as well.
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2015 8:51pm
Messaging too much or wanting to meet him/her like 24/7 and not letting him/her meet anyone else or do anything else in life.
CharmingShrek
January 19th, 2016 9:21am
Over care and too protective behaviour can be considered as clingy. There is also sense of fear of loosing.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 11:06pm
You're 'clingly' when you're sending them multiple messages, calling them numerous times in a day, or constantly insist on being with them.
hipsta
November 20th, 2017 10:21am
I guess it depends on your S.O. but if you say generally then I’d say it would be a situation where you’re always with them and not giving them any time to themselves or for others.
SupportiveSockMonkey
March 12th, 2018 7:54pm
Clingy is when they are constantly contacting them however, there is a difference between clingy and dependent. Both characteristics are not highly recommended. Clingy to some people might be talking 24/7 but if both are happy with that then it will not be classed as clingy.