How do I see the positive in the world again?

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Last Updated: 11/16/2015 at 8:22pm
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Owlie
December 10th, 2014 9:29am
Try to practice gratitude. Make or say a list of what you're grateful for. The act of either writing it down or saying it out loud really really really helps. You have to do something physical or tangible. You have to do it every day.
PerfectlyImperfect9090
December 10th, 2014 7:23pm
Despite of all the chaos around, I can still see and feel positivity in the world , whenever I see children smile, an old couple holding hands, grandparents sharing their memories with family, a wife who cares for her husband, a man who respects a woman, a gentleman who holds the door open for a woman, a boy giving his chocolate to his sister, a friend who can sacrifice even his life for friendship, a friendship that grows into love, a love that strengthens into marriage, a marriage that leads to a happy family, cute small animals make me see the positivity, cute relation of babies with pet dogs and cats make me see positivity, there is positivity all around, we just need to see, the birth of a child signifies that God is not hopeless of humanity, there is still humanity, there is still positivity!! Stay blessed :)
thisismejessica
December 29th, 2014 5:27am
You must have been through a lot of negative stuff previously. I'm sorry you had to go through it and got hurt before. I believe the only thing to see the positivity starts with accepting the negativity and make peace with it, although it is not easy. I also believe, one experience can change the whole experience, so I would recommend you to try to have at least one thing to be thankful each day, whether it is a person you encounter with, a beauty in front of your eyes, a strength you find in you, or any other thing. I do really hope you can see the positives again soon.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2014 7:50pm
Just look around, look inside and try to observe. You can find positive practically anywhere. There is beauty in every person, every tree and every rock. Look at the sunlight on a leave, catch the smile of a passer-by, try to feel the air you breath, the taste of a food you swallow. Beauty lies in small things and we tend to ignore them when we feel down.
JelayMe
June 23rd, 2015 4:43pm
Choose to see it. It's a decision, actually. Look at the learnings you have learned in every thing. Life is beautiful even though it's not perfect. People are beautiful even if they are not perfect. The world is beautiful even if it's not perfect. Choose to look at it in that way. Do not miss out the imperfect, they are part of the world.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2014 6:08am
Find ways to be grateful for the things you have, even the smallest things. You have life, thoughts, and the ability to think. There is much to be thankful for when you think about it.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2014 12:06pm
Personally, spending quality time with the best friends I never thought I'd have and volunteering amongst strangers has given me more laughs and love, the riches of life, than I thought possible. There is much good nature in people and the environment. I truly believe there is more good than bad. Life itself — that we exist here at all — is marvelous and rare. We share this odd speck of a planet. That alone is positive to me. We don't manage it perfectly, but I believe we can do better, and I can make a positive contribution. I hope we can make the most of our finite meaning together, and enjoy our life adventures while we can. I find meaning and positivity in attempting to make this life experience better. How so? Well, what do you think would make it better? 'Be the change.' :)
Anonymous
December 13th, 2014 8:57am
Remind yourself of the positive things you love. And remember that people share your interests and that not all people are bad.
WarmthInWinter
December 14th, 2014 5:52am
I think sometimes we have to look for it. At least, I know I do. When I get really down, I have to consciously and actively choose to see the positive in the world, the good and the love. I look for it in places I know I've found it in the past. :) I look for it in children, in their wonder and excitement at everything being a first. I look for it in animals, how often times they are just endless wells of love, how they will so often try to comfort someone in need. I see positive in nature; in the woods or clouds or water or rocks, whatever is nearby! Sometimes it's flowers, this time of year maybe it's snow. :) I have to start small and build my way back up to seeing most things positively in the world. I start by looking at the concrete things, the things that can't hurt us because they are so innocent.
Viva
December 19th, 2014 10:40pm
Learn to find beauty in the little things, things that you like, that others would miss and hold that to your heart. You don't have to share, you don't even have to always remember, just create and capture the feeling that only you have because it stays with you forever - like a good luck charm you give to the world to light your and others' path. Every little feeling.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2015 4:53am
sometimes i understand it's really hard to, realizing all that can go wrong, the injustice, etc. but there is also beauty and you will learn to appreciate that more, the smallest of things, that make a huge difference. my love towards nature and animals helped alleviate my depression, experience with PTSD and helped my eating disorder I suffered from a few years ago. you can also acknowledge the beauty in beautiful people. not everyone is self serving, and there are a lot of people that you will even stumble upon in life that will change it in the best ways :) see the world for the good. know the bad, and do what you can to change that. but ultimately, want to bring out and support all the good things and beauty in life and the world.
fougere
March 26th, 2015 8:29am
When you have big stuff going on in your life or you're dealing with difficult events it can be easy to lose track of the positive things. I start small, every day there's at least one thing I'm thankful for even if it's just that I made it through the day in one piece. Finding wonder in the world around and the actions people do that do make a difference cheers me up.
Aviendha
July 7th, 2015 2:39pm
Look within yourself and see the beauty you offer the world. Look to the people you love and see the love reflected in them. Look to nature, and how beautiful it always is.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 7:10pm
First learn how to see the positive in your presence, get professional help and eventually you'll start seeing positive in the world
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 8:52am
first see the positive in your each day of your life and people around ,then you can see positivity in the world.
Zozozeen
November 16th, 2015 8:22pm
check this article: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/01/24/8-suggestions-for-strengthening-self-esteem-when-you-have-depression/