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Why i cannot be skinny like every girl ?

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Last Updated: 07/27/2021 at 12:40am
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Top Rated Answers
April 30th, 2015 2:21pm
The danger in life is seeing in yourself what you are not. It's a losing battle, For every girl that feels she is not skinny enough, there may be someone looking at them wishing they had a nicer figure. Curly haired girls straighten their hair in the same salon that gives perms to straight haired girls. The question isn't "why can't I be something I am not?" but "Why can't I accept myself as I am?"
June 13th, 2015 1:55am
I think it's an issue of perception. In our society, being skinny is valued a lot and we tend to look around us and notice skinny people, which are the people we want to be like because that's what society tells us is good. But really not every girl is skinny. We notice them more, but that doesn't mean there are more skinny girls and our perception of our own bodies makes us compare ourselves to them in such a way that we think they are skinnier but maybe they aren't. So that's part 1: not every girl is skinny and I think it is important to realize that. Part 2 is that we all look different and have a different genetic make up. There's nothing wrong with that, but it does mean that we all look unique and our bodies are unique. Some of us just aren't skinny and that is okay. Society says "hey, no that's not okay" but it is okay. I recently saw a picture of about 6 girls that all weighed 154 pounds and while none of them looked "fat" per se, there was a girl that was very skinny and weighed that much but there was also a girl that looked like "hey, maybe she does weigh about that much" -- in my perspective, which is based on what I've been taught by society. It's okay to be who you are as long as you are healthy. Own your body as your own, love it, and take care of it because it is unique, special, a part of where you came from...and it might not be skinny, but then again a lot of people aren't skinny and if they are, well, they may have made themselves look skinny and might be taking away from the uniqueness that is actually really them. Take care of yourself.
June 22nd, 2015 6:38pm
Because everyone is different. Don't focus on your weight. Focus on your life. Do what makes you happy, do your best to try new and healthy foods, and most of all love your body like goddess you are.
October 2nd, 2015 1:13pm
Maybe you'll have to get use exercising daily, eating nutritious foods, proper sleep, and maintain proper diet
September 27th, 2015 9:08pm
First of all, not every girl is skinny, keep that in mind. Second of all, you're beatiful having the body shape that you have. Not everyone weight the same, you know? This society is all about variety. You're perfect, and you should love yourself. You're an unique and irreplaceable being!
September 21st, 2015 5:06am
You don't need to be skinny! your body is your body. do whatever you want with it. if people make fun of you, then ignore them. you don't deserved to receive rude comments. be confident! :)
December 10th, 2018 5:21pm
Body image is something that isn’t given the respect and support it deserves. The perception that “every” girl is skinny is false, because girls are unique with so many different shapes and sizes, each and every one beautiful. Try not to compare yourself to others as that will never do you any good, but know that the representation of a “perfect” girl with a “perfect” appearance is based on what society and the media deems beautiful. It’s really hard when you see that image painted everywhere, but try to make your own image. Redefine beauty, and defy all those stereotypes. You are beautiful, regardless of your flaws
February 23rd, 2015 12:28am
Everybody is unique. Not every girl is skinny, not every girl is fat. Each one of them has their own qualities and flaws. Skinny is only a label.
April 28th, 2015 1:16am
Own body are made the way our society is fit to our lives. We have so much in life then modeling other's to be thankful for.
September 15th, 2015 10:08pm
Every girl is different. Some have different bone structures, some have slow metabolisms, some are just prone to gaining weight quicker. And I promise, not every girl is skinny. The important thing is that you don't let your weight define you. Don't let that number get in your head. Every girl is different. Some girls hate being skinny because they're underweight to the point that it's unhealthy. It depends on the girl and genetics. Just love you for you, and then everyone else will love you for who you are also.
January 25th, 2016 11:42pm
Being skinny is not everything. Trust me i know. I'm a former bulimic and when i was skinny i was miserable, After i gained weight and began to realize that my weight doesn't define me i became much happier.
November 15th, 2016 4:52pm
to begin with, every girl is not skinny. I've beaten an eating disorder so I understand the thoughts that I'm not skinny enough or that every other girl seems to be thinner than me. It took me a long time to realise that it's my distorted thoughts that are the problem, not my body. I understand that you can't see that right now, and in some ways that's okay. Begin by challenging those thoughts and asking what proof do I have that is causing you to believe you're fat or huge? Just be kind to yourself and the rest will follow :)
November 25th, 2019 6:44pm
Not every girl is skinny. We may perceive this from media, magazines and social media yet most images we see on a day to day basis are highly photo shopped and filtered. Many factors contribute to weight such as genetics, eating disorders, medications, body shape etc.... Weight can affect the way we perceive ourselves yet we are just the same people no matter what size we are. If we are unhappy with our weight we can see a GP to determine how we could change that whether it be physical or psychological. However, weight should never define us since beauty begins within.
May 22nd, 2018 1:26pm
You are beautiful just the way you are, not every girl is skinny. Accept you for you!! But, I'm not saying you shouldn't ever achieve the body of your dreams or that you can't, if you want to, you must work for it! Hope I've helped you in some way.
August 11th, 2015 11:58am
I am not skinny too, and there are so many girls like you and me.First i was trying to lose waight but then i realise that all girls are beautfiul.You need to love your self the way you are. Thr nature made us this way for a reason.
December 2nd, 2015 10:46am
Not every girl is skinny. And thin does not necessarily equal beauty. You have to accept yourself for who you are and love yourself for all your imperfections and perfections.
April 4th, 2017 10:35am
I really suffered with feeling the way you do after my son was born, I was tichy before just like all of them, but after childbirth my hips were wider and even though I managed to lose weight my hips wouldn't allow me to ever fit into the sizes I used to. But you know what I spent some time learning to love myself and damn I love my curves! No man is interested in dating a surf board skinny girls don't have love handles and real curves, being under weight can be harmful to your body and so can extreme dieting I learnt that when I was dieting and my hair and skin became in a horrible condition! Love yourself because you don't need to be a skinny girl! You're beautiful!
January 16th, 2018 3:54pm
You are beautiful in every way. No girl is perfect and you should love yourself the way you are sweetheart. You are beautiful inside and out.
May 15th, 2018 9:38pm
Not every girl is skinny. This isn't a problem that only you face- lots of people, girls and boys and everything in between, feel this way. Just know that although you may not be "skinny" you are still beautiful, and you can still love yourself for it
July 16th, 2018 2:22am
Every girl is built differently. We are made that way. Acceptance is key. If you try to be like every other girl than you are just every other girl. There is nothing special about you. BUT there is something special about you when you chose to be you. NOT her.
January 28th, 2019 1:07am
I relate to this so much because this is something I struggle with and think about too. The reality is that you are your worst critic, and that no one else notices your flaws as much as you do. Most girls I know are self conscious about some aspect of their appearance, including myself. Learning to love yourself and do what is best for you can be super difficult and challenging, but support and love and self love can really help. Focusing on what you love about yourself instead of the negative is good. Also making positive comparisons (i.e. 'wow she loves reading just as much as I do!') is better than negative comparisons that make you feel upset.
July 27th, 2021 12:40am
I understand that it may seem like every other girl and woman has the "perfect" body, and you may feel like you are ugly, wrong and an outlier. But as another girl, I can tell you that not every girl is skinny. In magazines, almost every photo is Photo shopped or edited in some way, making everybody seem skinny. Remember, your body is beautiful, and just because society doesn't see it that way doesn't mean its not true. We girls are held to impossible beauty standards since literally the time we are born, and its really difficult. But you ARE beautiful