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How do I independently motivate myself?

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Last Updated: 01/20/2022 at 3:41pm
How do I independently motivate myself?
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Top Rated Answers
July 27th, 2016 5:01am
By confession and repetition. Ever heard the line, 'tell yourself a lie enough times and you start to believe it's true'. Well the same logic applies here. Make it a must to constantly remind yourself that 'You can do it' and 'You are worth it' and soon you start to believe it. This causes you to act differently. You start to feel like 'you can do it' and 'you are worth it'.
July 8th, 2016 2:47am
Tell yourself that you want to achieve all that you want to achieve and reward yourself whenever you achieve something that you really wanted to achieve.
July 15th, 2016 6:29am
Write down your end goals but more importantly WHY you want to achieve this goal. For example if you want to start eating healthy, write down what your ideal end goal would look like. It could be to look your best, feel your best etc. This could apply to anything. Make sure there is a way for you to be reminded of this on a daily basis. For example, write a note in front of your mirror in the morning. But always make sure to take care of yourself as well. Don't get discouraged if you make mistakes. Just pick up and try again :)
July 9th, 2016 9:47pm
Write down your goals and try to achieve them. When you achieve them, be proud or yourself!
October 13th, 2017 2:50pm
Well you could start by setting small attainable goals for yourself, take action to achieve them and consequently reward yourself for achieving it and the next time aim marginally higher and follow the same cycle of rewarding yourself. Once you get into this cycle you'll form a good habit that needs to be kept up routinely.
August 17th, 2016 8:33am
I motivate myself by watching motivational videos and by browsing images of motivational quotes, also some courses regarding positive psychology can be of great help
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September 22nd, 2016 2:24am
If you are trying to do a project and it is immense, try breaking the project into smaller steps and doing those one at a time instead of tackling the project as a whole. If you are having trouble motivating in general, try making little goals for yourself. Silly goals are helpful because the act of getting up and doing stuff helps motivate us in the long-term and we still feel good when we accomplish tehm. Set goals for yourself like "Walk around the building today," or "Look out of the window today," or "Do one chore today." It's hard to be motivated when we see the full list of everything we ever want to do in our heads, or even just the daily list of things we want to do can be overwhelming sometimes: smaller steps will help to motivate.
November 5th, 2017 10:16am
Look for things that make you happy. Find things that motivate you to get out of bed in the morning, or start that school assignment, or do some exercise of whatever it is. Create a goal and work towards that. Don't make it too unrealistic but make sure that it's something you actually want to work towards. Just find something you love and that you're happy with and use that to motivate yourself to do things.
August 18th, 2016 6:27pm
By breathing and maintaining a calm state of mind. Enjoying life to the fullest and taking obstacles head on.
April 29th, 2018 3:09pm
Affirmations.Because we or our brain works in patterns only and patterns are always formed by repetitions. It may sound funny or boring but every word you day to yourself matters. Every scene you can imagine in your head creates a little chemical change inside you. I am not talking about external words or picture. Make your affirmations what you wanna achieve or motivate urself about. Repeat it, write it, record it, write on ur wallpaper, wall, mirror everywhere you can.!
October 18th, 2019 9:15am
One thing at a time. Make a goal. And then keep a daily log of actions you take to achieve that goal. I like to keep it simple, and just write down what I worked on, and how long I worked on it. Then a month from now, even if you haven't yet achieved your goal, you'll be able to review the log and actually see how you've progressed. You'll be amazed when you add up the hours, and seeing how far you've come will motivate you further and give you faith in the process that you're developing. Keeping the log will help you find out what is and isn't working. And when you see that the log has a few blank days in a row, that should motivate you to get back to work.
October 23rd, 2020 1:51pm
This can be difficult. Not having a support system around you can make it difficult to stay motivated. But it's not impossible, because the only person that can really motivate you, is you. Consider reminding yourself of your goals when you're feeling down. Watch motivational videos if you're interested in those. Celebrate your little "wins" so you stay on track and motivated towards your goals. In addition, try not to put too much burden on yourself - one step at a time - because it might exhaust you out you'll be burnout in no time. Lastly, trust yourself and the process.
October 24th, 2020 11:10am
Time and again, we face many obstacles on our path and journey towards some goals we are trying to achieve, and while it's okay to rely on external motivation, the real deal is when one is self motivated, when the motivation comes from within, we really try our best to achieve those goals. One can independently motivate themselves by reminding them what makes the goal so important for them, is it something they really look forward to and want to achieve , if the answer's Yes, You got your own motivation, the task itself , the impact that task or goals might have in our lives determine how willing we are to achieve it and if that's something important and crucial to us, We got this necessary motivation to keeep going till we complete that task or achieve that goal ! Positive affirmations and rewards on small victories, works well too ❤🌻
January 8th, 2021 3:42pm
Everybody has a different way they get motivated. And to find a way that works for you, we need to look a bit into various aspects of motivation. There is intrinsic (the one where you are motivated because you are interested or enjoy doing something) and extrinsic (the one where you are motivated with something outside your interests as some kind of award (money, compliments from others, etc.) or expectations of society and other). It would be great that we all have intrinsic motivation without the need for outside awards, but let's be real, most of the things we have to do aren't that enjoyable and intersting. So for the beginning of the motivational process, I'd recommend experimenting with various external factors to find what award system is suited to you. For example, if you struggle with motivation for studying some experts recommend making studying fun (e.g. making a song out of the material you need to learn) or rewarding yourself with something sweet after you finish let say 50 pages. If you have no idea what rewards to use, try getting to know the topic a bit more, and also it is possible to google "how to motivate myself to ___"
July 10th, 2016 2:58am
"Nut up or shut up!" Do it, it works. It really does. Just give it a shot, repeat it as often as you need to in order to get that motivation going.
July 10th, 2016 9:50am
I look at each day as a new start and new opportunities and try things, meet new people If you see rain look rainbows if see darkness like for the stars
July 14th, 2016 4:27pm
Making goals, keeping track of them by working towards them, and working towards them by setting out a step by step plan.
July 30th, 2016 3:34pm
Find what you love doing, me personally, I like eating, every time I do something like tidy my room or finish a chapter in a revision book I reword myself with a handful of jelly beans or nuts or fruit
August 3rd, 2016 3:59pm
I am not an expert on the matter, but I believe setting life goals that make you really excited about the future can help. Throughout my years in college I found it difficult to stay motivated when it felt like there was no end to the amount of stress that came about because of work, school, and the future. However, instead of just not thinking about these things I decided to face them head on and ask myself what I would like to happen. I set goals that would require me to work hard in those areas so that I could reach my dreams. The more extravagant the dream or goal, the better. Dreams of living luxuriously and having the money to travel have kept me in college and helped me reach my last semester. Goal setting can work wonders for motivation. Even if the goal seems small.
August 3rd, 2016 8:45pm
Set personal goals around things you enjoy. Be them long-term or short-term, once you start seeing some progress, you'll feel better (you can do some exercise, improve your eating habits, learn a new language, it's up to you!).
August 7th, 2016 3:09pm
1.make your Goals . complete them 2. decide what do you want to look like in next 5 years 3 Effective time management will help you lot 4. learn new thing as possible 5. make your own sources so you dont have to depend on others
August 20th, 2016 10:32am
You can stare yourself in the mirror and give yourself a 'Brave Heart' pump up speech or even write encouraging message on post-its that you leave around the house for yourself. There are heaps of motivational videos on Youtube as well as awesome happy songs that make you get up and dance around the house. Make a to-do list for your life and pin it up somewhere where you will see it everyday. Give yourself a reason to get out of bed every morning and work towards your ultimate goal in life. The road may be difficult and filled with challenges, no body said it would be easy, just that it would be worth it!
August 21st, 2016 1:17am
Set yourself little goals, to eventually reach a bigger goal, keep at it and do these things regularly along with your natural routine, even if it's just getting out of bed, then brushing your teeth, set goals along the way, over time it comes naturally but goals are helpful when trying to focus and get motivated, don't forget to reward yourself when you have achieved a goal!
August 21st, 2016 7:16pm
You have to set goals! It's as simple as that. If you're not giving yourself any specific target, you're not truly going to challenge yourself and you won't become any more resilient. Achieving goals that you had to work hard for is one of the most rewarding things for an athlete. Make sure the goals you set are: attainable, realistic, time-specific (give yourself a deadline to meet the goal), and direct (be specific with your goal and focus on it).
August 21st, 2016 10:37pm
#maintain a notebook with monthly or weekly aims #maintain a regular fixed routine #reach the checkpoints and reward yourself #fix a phrase that reminds you to get back in track if you get distracted. #dont be too hard on yourself if you miss the checkpoint. but be careful next time #quit procastinating
August 25th, 2016 12:42pm
Self talk is amazing, talk to yourself and make it a challenge or a fun game, use words that make you feel empowered, YES,YOU CAN!
August 31st, 2016 7:34pm
I independently motivate myself by saying my prayers first thing in the morning, then taking a fast past walk while enjoying all the wonder things around me.
September 1st, 2016 8:20pm
Find something that you are really passionate about. It's easy to be motivated when you like what your doing. However, especially with school and such, that is not usually the case. My motivation generally comes from my results when I put a lot of effort into something. I like feeling good about myself and doing well on work, so that motivates me to do well. Also, when I do perform poorly, it motivates me to be better next time.
September 2nd, 2016 2:02am
Listening to inspiring music and setting a goal and figuring out to get there step by step, nothing big can happen in a day, remember that.
September 4th, 2016 6:37am
I self talk my self get up you can do this this project isn't so hard your smart and funny you can do this