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How do I independently motivate myself?

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Last Updated: 05/12/2022 at 1:16pm
How do I independently motivate myself?
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Anonymous
December 3rd, 2020 10:46pm
Take a break. Usually we procrastinate to avoid work we have to do. There is a great difference between watching videos because you are avoiding work, and watching videos to wind down and relax. Take a break, and tell yourself that this is your pre-work break, and that afterwards, you will focus solely on work. By doing this, you are separating the world of work and leisure. Before you begin to work, be sure to set realistic and quantifiable goals. For example, how many practice problems do you want to finish in an hour? Realistic goals allow you to set expectations. Sometimes we are unable to meet those goals, and that's okay, because there are other days where you will surpass them.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2020 2:21am
I independently motivate myself by quick little reminders that I leave around the house, on my phone, pc, etc. This helps me stay focused on a task, goal, or whatever I may be doing. Sometimes it really helps spark motivation by just reminding myself why I am doing it. Another way I independently motivate my self is to reward myself when a goal is complete. I've learned its easy to get overwhelmed focusing on goals, its helpful to take a break and treat myself with a small reward every once in a while. These are some ways that help me independently maintain motivation.
SvenTree
February 4th, 2021 12:26pm
I personally always found it tricky to find motivation by myself. I always relied on others to make me feel like whatever I'm doing is truly worth doing. Community does indeed seem to hold a very important role when it comes to motivation. I have tried a multitude of tricks to get myself into the habit of being productive or consistent when it comes to my goals and some of them worked for a while, not many worked for long. After all, trying to employ your motivation in order to generate motivation is like trying to get a knife to cut its own blade. If you lack the motivation to do something, no amount of force will change that fact. That said, I believe there's two distinct ways in which one may motivate themselves, based on what they expect to get out of it: Extrinsically: If you feel you need motivation to fulfill a task because it is necessary rather than enjoyable, what worked for me most was splitting the task in small, bearable daily chunks and then gradually increasing them until I reached a performance I was satisfied with. I believe consistency is the most helpful tool here. Intrinsically: This is a bit more tricky. Trying to motivate yourself to do something you feel like you should be enjoying already sounds like a suspicious endeavour to begin with. I believe the key lies in moderation here. If you truly enjoy the activity, it's best to trust your body to tell you when the proper time for the activity is rather than attempt to compulsively force yourself towards it, that will ultimately just spoil the enjoyment of the activity altogether. If still, you never end up feeling like engaging in the said activity, it may be better to drop it if it's not crucial you do it. After all, the whole point was to enjoy it, if you don't, there is no point. My key takeaway would be: When trying to achieve a higher goal, always split it up in bite-sized chunks and approach them kindly and consistently without overworking yourself. Listen to your body and trust its signals. Secondly, don't feel compelled to enjoy activities you may not really enjoy, that just leads to stress. Once again, trust what your body is telling you and learn to be kind with yourself, everything else should settle out in the meantime.
Anonymous
February 19th, 2021 9:23pm
Motivating yourself can be hard, but here are a few, I hope, helpful suggestions. Listen to some music that's encouraging and got a little bit of a beat to it. Spend some time in nature to collect your thoughts. Settle and make yourself do something productive, even if you don't really feel like it. You'll often find once you start something and truly give it your all that you will feel way better. Also, set goals in your day. Have a routine and try to stick to it. If possible, take up exercising or try doing something you have always want to try. Just a few suggestions!
Anonymous
March 28th, 2021 12:48pm
Motivation sometimes is useful...especially when it comes to things that you have to do, but you are bored of doing them. A kind of motivation is finding a person (you are obsessed with or you are really happy seeing them) and having them to do the thing you want to be motivated for. It works for many people. Though, you may try just setting one goal each time and having your life organised. Also you can try doing things with music, if is that possible. Last but not least, a way of motivating your self, is loving yourself. Those really help most people find their motivation. Have a lovely day!
Anonymous
March 31st, 2021 5:16pm
One way to independently motivate oneself is to look for what it is that drives us, or think about the aspects of life that are interesting or important to us, and organize our actions around that. For instance, it can be very difficult to wake up and go to school or work in the morning, however, if we are going to school or work because of something that is important to us, it can be a lot easier, due to internal motivation. For example, it might be easier to want to wake up for school if you are going to school to become a doctor because you want to help people. Similarly, it might be easier to go to work if you are going to work to save up money to buy your dream car. When we are working towards something that is important to us, like a goal, we become more willing to endure in the name of that idea, because that idea is a form of internal, independent motivation.
circusmirror123
April 22nd, 2021 8:39pm
One really good way I've found for motivating myself is thinking about my goals, aims, and aspirations, and then thinking about what I need to do to achieve this. For example, I motivate myself to study by thinking about the university I want to go to, and the career I want to have in the future - and I know I need to study in order to achieve this, and so I find it really motivating! You can also try short term motivations such as rewarding yourself when you complete a particular task, or thinking about the feeling you'll get when you do it. Good luck!
SoShellie
April 28th, 2021 10:52pm
I stay motivated by setting attainable goals and then rewarding myself when I’ve completed them. A recent example of a goal I set for myself is to complete portions of a long-term project I’m working on. Each section of this specific project requires a lot of focus and can be frustrating, so I’ve broken it up into smaller pieces that are more manageable. After I finish one, I reward myself with an episode of one of my favorite shows on Netflix. It helps because I know I’ll be able to complete the project as a whole without feeling like there’s too much to handle at one time... and I get to take breaks that help me come back more refreshed and ready to get back to work.
hwylhywl
May 5th, 2021 11:28am
Sometimes, breaking things down into manageable chunks can help achieve an overall goal, no matter how small or large the goal is, for example, lets say I was having trouble cleaning my house; the first thing I would tell myself to do is to put my laundry away, or even just fold up some socks. You should also always be gentle with yourself, and reward yourself in a healthy manner when you feel as though you achieved something you may not have done, this can be as simple as listening to a podcast you enjoy, or taking a nice bath.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2021 9:14am
I sit down and take a moment for myself. I try to find the good qualities I posses and try to think of the good things I have done in life. I also try to talk out my worries to a trusted acquaintance for self-assurance. Then, I find out ways to relax and spend some time on myself, and calm down completely. I go online and listen to speeches of motivation or even read such books! Motivation is a tough thing to build up, but once we have it in us, nothing can bring us down! Thats how strong the power of motivation is!
Saturn0001
May 23rd, 2021 2:56pm
1. Think the “end” rather than the “beginning.” Your house/apartment is a mess and pretty dirty too. If you can’t get yourself going, walk into each room and get a visual of what it will look like when it’s clean and orderly. Sometimes that visual is all you need. And here’s a related “trick.” When you first wake up in the morning, visualize your day from start to finish. See yourself getting things done. 2. Set up a competition with yourself. This works if you are naturally competitive. Say to yourself, “I bet you can’t get that one wall painted in 45 minutes. Set a timer and go for it. Turning tasks into a competitive game is both fun and motivating. 3. And what’s a competition without a reward? You’ve brought some work home and you just can’t get started. It’s boring and tedious, and there’s no one there to pitch in. And you have to meet a deadline. Plan what you “get” when you get it done – something good, and don’t cheat. When you finish it, you get to go for your favorite burger and a beer or order pizza. 4. Tell others what you are going to do. Your yard is looking like the forest primeval, and you have told everyone at happy hour last night that you are going to spend the entire day getting it cleaned up. Once you have told others, you pretty much “own” it, and you should be able to muster up the motivation, so you won’t have to admit that you failed. 5. Break a task down into smaller chunks. And write each chunk down in order. Attack just the first chunk. Then go check your email or get on Facebook, but just for 15 minutes. Set a timer. Go back and pick up chunk #2 and so on. 6. If the task is physical, get that music on Upbeat music tends to energize people. So, while you get to that project that has been half-finished for the past 3 months, attack it to the music. Get the last of those Christmas decorations down and put away; clean out that fridge; go through your closet and drawers and throw stuff away; go into that horrible place, the garage, and clean it. 7. Turn off your phone You can’t turn it back on until you have put in two hours on the tasks you know you have to get finished. Negative reinforcement sometimes goes a long way to motivate people. 8. Post-it notes with inspirational quotes Put them in places where you usually go to veg – like on the TV screen or your game console, or that stuffed chair you sit in and fall asleep. 9. Make a list in advance Here are a couple of things about lists. It’s psychologically very rewarding to cross things off as they get done. And crossing things off tends to motivate us to move on. The other thing is this: you have to start at #1 and you are not allowed to move to any other item on the list until #1 is finished. If you put the least favorite task as #1, and stick to this “rule,” chances are you will get the rest done. 10. Take a cold shower This will definitely wake you up and will actually get your blood flow going. 11. Do not multi-task This clutters your mind. There’s a great old saying – “Only one potato at a time”. You can only plant one potato at a time and you can only harvest one potato at a time. The same goes for tasks that require your focus. 12. Let in the light There is something stimulating about having all of the blinds and curtains open, letting in all of the light you can. And if weather permits, open up windows. Fresh air keeps you alert. 13. Do something aerobic When you feel yourself drifting off and you’re ready to go veg, do some jumping jacks or running in place. This will restore energy. 14. Do the visible things first There is something motivating about physically seeing the results of our work that motivates us. De-cluttering your workspace just makes you more emotionally ready to get going; printing out that report or post you just finished, rather than only emailing it off, gives you a physical reminder of what you have accomplished. 15. Talk to yourself as you are working If you can give yourself little pep talks while you are attacking those tasks, you can motivate yourself to continue. And do it out loud. Say things like “C’mon. You can get this done – just a little more to go.” Be your own cheerleader. No question about it. It’s tough to motivate yourself when there are no others around you that you need or want to perform for. External praise and encouragement is a huge motivator. But if you can get into the habit of motivating yourself from within, you will have developed a skill that will serve you for a lifetime, under any circumstances. It gives you an independence of action that will serve you well.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2021 3:23pm
its not easy to motivate yourself independently..it may be difficult to start. but when you practice it so long it become a habit..there are simple ways to motivate yourself..first thing dont wait to work only after you are motivated .. you have to work.. when you are working youll get motivation to do more... making a time table.. Having a plan..can help you.. but dont have a strict time table.. it will demotivate you..have some fun in your day ..keep a time to exercise, listen to songs..meditate or anything you love...you should follow your plans at least for 3 weeks..when you see results you will be motivated
Anonymous
June 7th, 2021 8:51am
It's more about self discipline than motivation. Motivation is unreliable. But you can always take control. But I do find that music helps me when I need a little boost. Life is a process and it's important to know that there will always be set backs. It's about knowing that progress is rarely a linear thing. One day you'll be a little ahead of where you were and somedays a little behind. The setbacks are just as important as the good times of not more. That's when you're really tested and that's when you really grow as a person
Anonymous
June 24th, 2021 11:42am
It's easy to stay motivated when others cheer you on. Your friends and colleagues can be supportive and encouraging and even help when you have projects or tasks to complete. Think of the “end”, not the “beginning”. Your house / apartment is a mess and rather dirty. If you can't bring yourself to move, walk into each room and visualize what it will look like when it is clean and tidy. Sometimes this visual representation is all you need. And here is the related "trick". When you first wake up in the morning, visualize your day from start to finish. See how you achieve your goal. Give yourself a competition. This works if you are naturally competitive. Tell yourself, “I bet you can't paint this wall in 45 minutes. Set a timer and go for it. Turning tasks into competitive play is both fun and motivating.
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2021 6:44pm
Everyone is motivated within their own pace and own tactics. Think of ways you were motivated in the past and what had triggered it and try to replicate those into your everyday life. What are some goals you would like to set for yourself? Having goals to work towards can create a motivational path as you know exactly what you are working towards. Self-reflect and jot down notes to help keep aspects organized and help you adjust or create new goals. It is also ok to feel unmotivated at times, just remember to pick yourself back up and continue to progress.
Anonymous
September 18th, 2021 10:12pm
I find it easy to motivate myself when I am excited and make schedules. I feel that if I set small goals, I can achieve success but if I procrastinate, I will never get anything done. Being excited about what I am doing gets the ball rolling. Whenever I have small goals, that do not require a lot of time each day, I make long term progress. Staying motivated when I am by myself is not always easy. When I succeed in the weekly goal, I treat myself to a concert or a movie. This helps me to feel good about myself and continuer toward my end goal.
Shwe31
October 21st, 2021 6:38am
There are numerous ways to independently motivate yourself. Because, the actual motivation comes from inside of us. So, write down your three major goal and values in a clean neat paper. Now , thinnk and come up with best ten possible solutions that helps you achieve your those three major goals while having inclusion of three top values of yours also. Now, if you are able to pick up three methods among these solution, wou will not be requiring any external motivation, instead since you have discovered solutions on your own, you will be always motivated. You can also listen to videos or read books that motivates you to become best version of yourself.
radiantVoice
November 14th, 2021 8:20am
Think about what made you discouraged in the first place. If it was someone else telling you something, if it was you seeing that others are better than you, or if it is just a random thought that popped in your head. Finding the root cause is always important. Then think about the following questions- What should you give back to the society and the people who feel like that? Would you like to be a role model for them? What is the change you want to bring that would make your today better than yesterday? This can be a way to reflect on yourself and a step towards self motivation.
AvrilGraceofGale
November 19th, 2021 4:53pm
🌿Avoid What bothers you is things and actions that bring discomfort. Try to define your condition, understand yourself and find ways to get rid of it. And while it takes time, it's worth it. 🌿Ignore That you don't care. It's no secret that the distribution of attention to several things / objects at once can weaken you. Concentrate on what is important and necessary to be productive. 🌿Analyze And remember your feelings in happy and not so moments of your life. Try to describe your condition to the smallest detail. Reread what you have written and be inspired to work more efficiently. 🌿Smile And laugh more often. Laughter will help prevent stress and relieve you. Watch comedies, have fun with your friends at concerts - enjoy your free time. Try the exercise for yourself: Every day, find 5 things around you that made you happier today. 🌿Exercise Physically: do not forget about everyday, even small, workouts. Exercise or go for a short run. This will help put the body in order and keep it in good shape, as well as experience pleasant emotions. 🌿Create A suitable environment for yourself that can motivate you to work. The space around you is as important as the people around you.
AndrewLupis
December 17th, 2021 10:47pm
Independent motivation relies on satisfaction with results and an interest in whatever subject matter is in question. It is more challenging to be motivated for things that do not interest you, however there are some things that are essential to complete. You may find it easier to be motivated for something that does not spark your interest if you adjust the conditions so that the task is more entertaining. For example, if you do not want to wash dishes and using the dishwasher is not an option, then perhaps turn on music or an audiobook and wash dishes while enjoying whatever audio you like to listen to. Motivation comes from many things and sometimes it helps to foresee the end results or what is to come of completing a task. This may help by taking your mind away from the immediate matter of having to do something that does not interest you. For example, if your television needs a minor fix that you can do on your own, telling yourself that the sooner you fix it the sooner you can watch television would be more helpful than dreading the task. Positive thinking helps with positive results.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2022 9:06am
You set goals, you create a vision board. Just have something that will remind you daily why you should work hard. Like maybe put your dream car as a wallpaper. Every time you touch your phone you are reminding yourself the car you have promised yourself. Every day you need to remind yourself why you are waking up and going to work. I think independent motivation is just you finding something that will remind you of the goals you've set and the dreams you've promised yourself to achieve.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2022 3:41pm
Lack of motivation is a common thing, so try not to feel disheartened about it. Take a break, listen to music or activities that help you relax and then you can carry on working. To motivate yourself, firstly remember what are your goals and why you are doing the task in the first place. Make sure that whatever goals you set for yourself are attainable and be specific, so that you can achieve your goals and be motivated to further continue doing your work. Also, maybe try rewarding yourself after you accomplish a certain task. It could be something as simple as rewarding yourself with chocolates if you work for 2 hours. Also maybe having a comfortable environment helps.
Udaythelistner
January 29th, 2022 11:45am
There are many ways to it! it really depends what & how you would like to do it. You can simply be pay gratitude to the things which you have in your life. For example being alive or getting food everyday. It's the biggest motivation for some one who is lacking it. I personally pay gratitude every morning to random things which makes me feel alive & grateful. Motivation is nothing but emotions which our mind produces based on our thoughts & mood which is completely in our control, which we think is not in our control which is a myth. If you want to be happy or sad it is completely dependent on you & not the external factors. Thanks
Anonymous
February 12th, 2022 3:35am
To independently motivate myself, I like to make a list of daily and weekly goals. I give them a deadline to complete them by and then I try to follow this goals list. I also like to use this other technique where I tell myself to count to five and then just get up and start doing whatever I need or want to do. This really works for me, especially those morning when I am finding it hard to get our of bed. I just count to five and then it feels so much easier to jump out of bed and start my day.
Fadedletters00
February 17th, 2022 1:27pm
Setting up small manageable goals each day and successfully carrying them is something I do to motivate myself. Your To-Do list need not always have the serious job/academic stuff, it can be a simple 'watering my plants', 'reading an essay on a topic I love', 'watching a nice documentary', or 'making a cup of coffee.' As you work on this, slowly you will feel more enthusiastic towards the larger goals. Also, affirmations really help some people to feel encouraged, so you can also try that. If you want, you can send me a text and I would love to help you in this regard. All the best :)
049taliat
March 12th, 2022 4:47pm
motivation should really come from your inner self that is wanting to improve the old habits and overcome maybe bad thoughts or even feelings. To motivate yourself there's so many ways, however you are the only person who decided how to motivate your own soul self. For instance, I personally feel motivated when I put m earphones in my ears and play the most amazing songs and my favorite songs ever. I consider music my only motivational path, as it pushes me to do stuff since it takes my mind off of things that hold me back and keep me unmotivated. So for me is me and my music that boosts my motivation. If you want some music you can hit me up and I'll put you on some real good music.
MrAnonymous1989
April 9th, 2022 9:31pm
Keep telling yourself you are great you have greatness you know what you need to do in order to sail through the day. You have the power to change your destiny put negativity out of your life. Keep your circle small, keep social media to a minimum, dont get sucked into mainstream critics and ignore what people think and say about you. You have the power to make the world a better place and to have a job that is perfect for yourself go out have fun wake up not knowing what the day will bring that is the joy of life
reverecrivain
May 7th, 2022 9:54am
This is a rather open ended questions. Leaves a lot of room for debate. However, if you are looking to charge your motivation for certain things, without any external forces involved — there are many ways to go about doing that. Firstly, you need to figure out what you want to be motivated to do. And then ask yourself why you want to do or achieve that. After you have been convinced with your answers to WHAT and WHY, develop your plan to achiever your goal. Make it as simple and feasible as possible, but enough to keep it challenging as well. Once you start executing your plan, start following it religiously. Track and assess yourself and keep reminding yourself why you began with your plan in the first place. Do note that it is very common to feel demotivated and you may even end up questioning yourself. But consistency is the key. Keep going at it and you'll eventually get to where you want to. Hope this helps.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2022 12:23pm
Motivation. The definition is to bring someone up through positive affirmations or other ways of energy(paraphrased from a dictionary). Self-motivation is an important thing for a person because it keeps up your self-esteem, which in turn improves how worthy you feel. Some ways to self-motivate are simple: -Break down large goals you have into smaller, easier steps. -Surround yourself with people that support and care about you. -Ask and offer help when people want it or you need it. -Embrace positive peer pressure. -Reward yourself at small wins and embrace the losses. -Get enough sleep to be able to function the next day. -Work hard. Good luck❤
Anonymous
May 12th, 2022 1:16pm
You should have notes, symbols and reminders to remind you of your dreams and goals in your office, home, and wallet. Thus, you will be able to motivate yourself for the work you will perform in any situation you may experience. You should choose a knowledgeable role model from whom you can learn something. Your role model should be someone you respect and want to be like him in the future. If there is no such person near you, you can take people such as leaders, celebrities, scientists as role models. There are thousands of different quotes that will inspire and motivate you in many different books or movies. You can find these quotes in a very short time, especially using the internet. When you read these quotes in the most negative moments, you will find the power to change the situation you are in. When you do what you want to do or take a step towards it, reward yourself with a small reward. The content of the award is entirely up to you; You can take a little trip, eat out with your loved ones or do something different that will make you happy.