I am struggling with loss of loved ones and am not sure how to learn to live with loss? I know being lonely causes me to look back on happier times with them in my life.

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Last Updated: 01/23/2019 at 11:56pm
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January 23rd, 2019 11:56pm
Losing a loved one is never easy. Accept how you're feeling, it's better to acknowledge your grief than ignore it. This might sound somewhat counter-productive but denying how you feel or pushing away your pain can make you feel worse and you might reach a point where it becomes too much. Everyone deals with pain in their own way, and the losses might make you feel like you have no control over anything, but with time your feelings will become less intense. Adjusting to the loss is going to be difficult but you also have every right to reminisce and miss them. It'll take time to process the loss so it's important to be patient and kind to yourself while you're doing this. It's alright to mourn and cry and hurt. When you feel lonely, try to remind yourself of your support network – spend more time with people in your life and if your feelings become too much, give them a call or go outside in public areas with people around. If you need additional support, they have bereavement services you can take advantage of as well.
January 19th, 2019 10:46pm
Grief is a natural response to loss and is one of the biggest challenges in life. Most people loose someone close at least once in there life, yet there is still no clear way to dealing with it because everyone is different. You'll probably feel a range of emotions, from shock and anger to disbelief and profound sadness. if you find looking back on happier times helpful, you could create a scrapbook full of memories. People express there grief in many ways and it will always come out at some point. Don't be afraid of being upset, let the happy memories carry you through this hard time.
January 20th, 2019 3:41pm
Personally I completely understand this question, you are always going to miss a loved one that you lost. There is no one way to learn how to live along the side of loss and grief, you can always try to understand but truth is you probably never will. You never fully get over loosing someone, you just learn how to live with the feeling. With help from certain people learning can be easy.