How can I stop feeling easily frustrated with inconsiderate strangers?
Last Updated: 07/30/2018 at 9:40pm
Cynthia Stocker, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
My approach is direct, kind, honest & collaborative. My clients appreciate that I help them in a way that cuts through the jargon and gives clear explanations.
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Don't take their attitude too personally. Remember you are dealing with a stranger who has no knowledge about you to be able to judge you. There is no point to take what they do to you personally. Majority of the time, people are just inconsiderate due to some issue and they try to express their emotions by picking on others. Best thing you can do is to set some boundaries and disengage instantly with someone who disrespects you.
Just remember that you are considerate and the world needs more people like you in it! Karma is real!
I try and remember that I have no idea what's going on in their day. Just like I have bad days and hope that I can be forgiven for not always being as considerate as I hope to be, I have to extend that to strangers.
This may sound a little simple but, count to ten! Each time as you count to the next number take a deep breath and release all the frustration. Meditation is another very helpful technique to improve patience. You can start worth as little as 5 minutes a day. Guided meditations are on youtube and very helpful. There's even an amazing app called Headspace. It's a guided meditation app and very useful. Hope this helped, peace and love ♥
I have to stop and take a deep breath and tell myself that they probably have no idea that they're being inconsiderate. We all have moments where we're lost in our thoughts and don't notice that someone may need something from us, whether it is to move out of the way, or move more quickly, or even to pay more attention.
You could remind yourself that they may be going through tough times too, and that's why they're irritable and inconsiderate.
By trying to understand that every person is different and unique and we cannot control their thoughts or actions. By understanding this we look at ourselves and learn patience, tolerance and understanding.
Be kind in return, lead by example and know that sometimes people who are rude or inconsiderate are the ones who most need forgiveness. Do not take their behaviour personally, it's not about you, it's about them and where they are at. If the stranger is someone you are doing business with, and their treatment is inappropriate, file a complaint with the manager. Not in front of them, but by phone or email to someone who has authority to see your complaint resolved.
Check out some anger management tips from the self-help guide :) Some useful methods you can try are to close your eyes, take deep breaths and move away from the environment.
When dealing with people like that you have to remember that ignorance is a terrible thing and you shouldn't waste your time or energy on ignorant people
If you're that fragile then you can't. You can be more powerful by working out or joining self defense classes and that might change the way you look at yourself because that's what frustrating you, yourself. As long as you're allowing them to get to you, they will!
Perhaps you can try to see the goodness in strangers; after all, a stranger is but a friend that you've yet to meet! (;
To reduce frustration, we must remember why these strangers are contacting us. They are going through a crisis. We need to be considerate and patient. We also need to remember that they are not actually upset about themselves, but instead frustrated with their situation. The best thing to do is take a deep breath, stay neutral, and do your best to stay calm.
You should be empathetic. Think about what inconsiderate strangers are doing and why they do it. This will help you feel less stressed.
It may be a trigger to you if someone is inconsiderate, thus making you feel frustrated. Try to be patient with them, strangers tend to make assumptions because they do not know you. Stay calm and try to tell them how their comments make you feel.
Inconsiderate strangers can be frustrating, but remember we all have bad day's or wake up on the wrong side of the bed sometimes, try not to take it personally, just know that they are most likely having a bad day or going through some stuff so if they are inconsiderate towards you it is not necessarily because they have anything against you. and try not to let them ruin your day or frustrate you too much just keep the interaction as short as possible and go on with your day and do something nice for yourself, after that maybe have a tea or just a few moment to breath and relax a moment or speak with a friend or co worker.
Just try to remember that you don't know anything about what they're experiencing - they might be going through a hard time and end up projecting their feelings onto other people.
This is no easy task, but take deep breaths and understand that they might be going through a hard time themselves and maybe they never meant to be rude or inconsiderate.
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