I think I'm falling in love with someone online. Is it possible ? I feel so bad

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Last Updated: 12/13/2019 at 8:04am
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Anonymous - Expert in Relationship Stress
November 6th, 2018 6:22pm
Online relationships are becoming more popular because people are able to become more connected over the internet. Online relationships aren’t a bad thing (as long as you make sure everything is true and you’re being safe) and it’s okay to feel strong attraction and even love to people you’ve met over the internet. It’s nothing to feel bad about. Online relationships are just as real as relationships where people have met in person. If you feel truly in love with this person that’s great and it’s okay to see where this relationship is going to take you and to follow your heart.
ASilentObserver
February 2nd, 2018 9:30am
You may like someone online but can't love. To love someone, you really, really need to get to know someone. Probability could be that they may be really nice or may be pretending to be nice. Online we just see what others want to show. Online chatting is a way to connect and decide if there are possibilities for the two of you but online relationship isn't real. You need to know them personally and that could be possible when you meeting them in person and spending some amount of time together. Think about it.
Maridas
August 13th, 2018 10:52am
Of course it is possible! Love has no rhyme or reason. Why would you feel bad about this? The only downside i see are the ones that come with falling in love anywhere!
warmheartedCity8277
February 5th, 2018 7:10pm
It is totally possible to develop feelings for someone online, but you have to make sure they're genuine and not tricking you. Actually, a bit more than 1 in 5 people in relationships met their partner online. So people do fall in love online, it can be hard to because you can't be physically intimate and it's harder to get to know them and it requires more trust. It can also be easier because someone can find out your ideal type or swoon you with exactly what you want to hear and make you believe what they want you to believe.
Melissame
January 30th, 2018 11:55am
It is possible! I met my boyfriend online and we got together before meeting but now we are very happy! We Skype often and are meeting again in summer. Nothing wrong with it but be sur they are genuine!
CaringSweetheart96
February 1st, 2018 10:22pm
There are two sides to meeting someone online: meeting someone genuine and meeting someone who only comes across as genuine but they really are not. If the person is genuine, then it is not bad to fall in love with them. However, the only way to actually determine how genuine the person is, is to spend time with them; to get to know them and their family and friends. Those who only appear to be genuine, it is best to stay away else it'll only end in betrayal or heartbreak
Anonymous
April 14th, 2019 6:28am
I experienced this, I don’t know if I’m totally inlove, I had special feelings for him, I tired hard to fight it, but the situation made me distracteddistressed because I can’t get him out of my head. So one day I told him because I want to make sure it will passed. I cant imagine having a relationship with him. He kind of took it positively. He said he understood if I’m confused and yes he’s not into me and I accepted that. But I still have the feelings for him and continuously fighting for it, for myself not to fall hard. And we were never normal after, I felt he doesn’t want me in his life anymore, so yes I understand.
BlueberryPuffin17
March 19th, 2019 10:40am
I think like this question will become more and more common as time progresses! To answer it, though, most people are a little fooled by what they imagine the person to be versus what that person is actually like, in real life or not. But with online relationships and communications, the pitfall is wider, so you should be cautious. If you find yourself getting attached, do not shame yourself for it, but do bear in mind that the real person is still yet to meet. They might or might not fit in with what you or they set themselves up to be.
Elot
June 17th, 2019 2:03pm
Any opportunity to feel strongly about another individual is a great opportunity and nothing to feel badly about. In all relationships, there is a chance for halo effect to occur, which is a social bias where a first impression/ limited information about a person can cause you to perceive their overall character, especially unknown aspects of their person, as being extremely positive. With online relationships, there tends to be a higher chance of this due to limitations in communication, but that does not mean that you can't still have genuine feelings for someone you meet online or get to know them better and develop a very healthy and positive relationship with them in the long-run.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2019 8:59am
It is possible but falling in love with someone online is like talking to a robot! You don't know who's talking or chatting, and you can't blame them if you find out something that hurts you. Falling in love seems easy these days but no, it requires trust, the connection between the two, mentally and emotionally, the support from each other, any one can love when the atmosphere is all about love and attraction but true one will stay in your hard times. Not against online love but prefer to interact more with people around you. Love is beautiful. Love!
Magicallykermit58
December 13th, 2019 8:04am
I am not sure if you can actually fall in love with a person but you can feel an attraction or develop certain feelings for the other person. It could be situational or on emotion interpreted as something else too. I would say give it time and see if this feelings and emotions persists. Dont be in hurry, we all get attracted to people be it real life or online. But ensure you are safe coz anyone can be anyone online and we see them as they show us to be. And often we paint a mental image of the person which may or may not resemble them in real life.