How do I know if I'm the one making the relationship toxic?
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Last Updated: 03/03/2020 at 2:22pm
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Anonymous
March 3rd, 2020 2:18pm
In my experience, if you have the emotional intelligence to even ask yourself that question and be able to reflect on it, it most likely is not you.
Further, if your relationship partner is telling you you’re the one making it toxic, there’s a pretty good chance that they’re behaving in a toxic way, which may be bringing up toxic behaviors in you that you wouldn’t normally act out.
If you examine your behavior in the relationship and find you’re honoring yourself and you’re setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, you’re almost certainly not the toxic one (though the toxic person may think otherwise, if your boundaries and self care gets in their way)!
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2020 2:22pm
Toxic relationship is obviously the most dreaded thing one can connect to all the complications of his life.If you are the one imposing decisions on your partner,your partner is a bit not open around you or uncomfortable with you,he /she is refraining from you,and he/she is staying with you as a kind of obligation or duty or another pressure or fear,you are making it suffocating my friend.
It's a toxic relationship
But don't be extra aware or careful of your actions buddy
Just get out of the way and approach your partner openly and discuss the case.
Hope it helps my friend.Best wishes to you
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