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Am I wrong for preferring to be alone, even when I have the opportunity to spend time with my peers?

Profile: CoffeeTeaAndHonesty
CoffeeTeaAndHonesty on May 1, 2015
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There is nothing wrong with seeking solitude -- especially so when one is an introvert (introverts generally thrive in solitude and generally become very "drained" after partaking in social gatherings of any kind). If, however, one's solitude begins to contribute to or cause depression, it is then that greater exposure to social gatherings may need to be reconsidered.
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Profile: Myreylle
Myreylle on May 23, 2015
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Why do you think that? It is totally ok if you like to spend time by yourself. It can be a great way to find who you are and what you really want to. It is very important, so when you feel like starting to spend time with others you are a better person, and you can be a better friend to them.
Profile: Kristynn
Kristynn on Jan 13, 2015
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Not at all! Alone time is much needed. Sometimes you just need some space and time for yourself to get everything situated. :)
Profile: calmsunshine89
calmsunshine89 on May 27, 2015
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No. Sometimes we need time to ourselves to work on our hobbies, meditate, reflect, and learn about ourselves. We are the most important person in our life.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 13, 2015
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Absolutely not! It's totally okay to not want to spend some time with others. Spending time alone can be extremely beneficial, and some of us really need it to recharge. There's a lot of pressure to spend time with others, however if you're feeling like you need that alone time, take it. Listen to your needs, and follow them. They're important!
Profile: Salingerfeelings
Salingerfeelings on Jul 21, 2015
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Every person is unique and they enjoy different things. If it makes you happy to be alone, then be alone.
Profile: helpfuldot
helpfuldot on May 6, 2015
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I don't think you're wrong at all! Some people like keeping to themselves, and some like having plenty of friends around them. Everyone has a different level of socialization and varied personalities they like to interact with :)
Profile: miraculousPiano89
miraculousPiano89 on May 20, 2015
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I think some of us are just naturally inspired from the inside out. We enjoy the comfort of others but also take pleasure in enjoying our own space. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to spend time alone; if anything, alone time can help us to think and focus on areas in our lives that we might want to improve on and perhaps find ways to enhance personal growth.
Profile: Salsashark
Salsashark on Jul 16, 2015
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Some more social people can make you feel like this is a problem but it is absolutely not. We all have different personalities and needs and for as long as you really do feel happy in your own company, there is nothing wrong with that.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 24, 2015
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No way! This is totally normal! Sometimes you just get sick of everyone and need to get away for a little bit, I think this is fine to do :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 3, 2016
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There is nothing wrong with preferring to be alone, that just shows that you have self confidence! And plus, you should do the things you prefer.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 6, 2016
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No you are not wrong to prefer to be alone. Some people are just more independent than others. Try occasionally being with other people because in life you are with other people without a choice so try and ease your way into it
Profile: WorkInProgress11
WorkInProgress11 on Oct 18, 2016
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I don't think it's wrong to prefer solitude. Socialization is important, but so is knowing ourselves and being comfortable alone.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 23, 2019
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No one is ever wrong for wanting to be alone. Alone time is good for one's mental health - it is good to be able to be at peace with being with yourself and working on being at peace with the fact you need to make yourself your first priority. Not everyone enjoys the company of others and is more introverted and there is nothing wrong with that, no matter how many extroverted people may say it is wrong. I would say make some time for peers and family and friends at least on occasion however since completely isolating yourself is also unhealthy.
Profile: Serenityangel1983
Serenityangel1983 on Jan 10, 2015
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Everyone has times when they prefer to be alone. However, being alone too often can lead to isolation which can lead to depression. I am often alone when I go out, yet I make a conscious effort to reach out to others because it helps them feel better, and I feel better, too.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 22, 2015
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You aren't wrong for preferring that! You're simply an introvert, and there's nothing wrong with that at all. It only becomes a problem if you're alone time begins to make you feel lonely or isolated, and that's when it's a good idea to spend some time around others. Finding a healthy balance of alone time and socializing is important, and everyone's balance is different.
Profile: HighHopes25
HighHopes25 on Jul 14, 2015
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I think it's absolutely normal for one to want to have some alone time, but perhaps you could occasionally socialise with you peers. Whenever you feel comfortable to do so, of course.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 28, 2015
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No, of course not. It's your life and if that's what you enjoy, as long as it doesn't harm anyone, go for it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 4, 2015
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No , I think it's fine that you save time to be just with yourself , I do this often like just stay by myself :)
Profile: Bamachick
Bamachick on Dec 8, 2015
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Sometimes, I think a little alone time is a good thing. Of course, I also know that too much of anything isn't good.
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