How do I know if I did the right thing?
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Updated: May 25, 2022
JourneyWithFriends
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Jul 7, 2016
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It is sometimes hard to do the right thing....and second guessing ourselves is human nature. However, if you truly act with your best interest at heart keeping in mind the best interest of others as best you know how second...then I believe it is a pretty sure bet that you did the right thing.
If in hindsight you find that it wasn't the best possible choice, then so be it. Clean up what you can of any damage that may have been done and then FORGIVE YOURSELF, because everyone makes mistakes.
Lastly, no matter what...if you did the absolute best you could with your given situation....let it go, sleep well and know that you learned something important that will help you do better tomorrow.
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ladycat946
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Jul 8, 2016
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I think time will tell you if you did the right thing, but in the end, if you are asking this question to yourself, i think you did the right thing in the simple fact that you are worried about your decisions and the impact of them on people. I think you are trying everything you can to do the best thing, so this is a good thing ;)
OlgaParis
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Jul 8, 2016
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If you felt like it was a right thing to do at that moment, then probably it was the best choice.
CheeseandCrackers
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Jul 1, 2016
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You won't always know. Whatever happens happens, and once something has been done, you usually can't change it. So whatever you decide to do, stick with it and make the most of it.
ValRuberto
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Jul 27, 2016
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This is a tricky question to ask yourself. If you felt like in the moment it was the right thing to do, usually it is. If you put a lot of thought into your decision then you must have had good reasons for doing the thing you did. When we look back on our choices it's easy to think good things were worse than they actually were and bad things were better than they actually were. Something could have been making you upset at the time you had it, but now that you're without it you may feel nostalgic and not remember how much it was hurting you. You'll never know for sure if you did the right thing or not, but what you can do is trust yourself. Trust that you made the right choice for you.
CaringGuy79
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Oct 16, 2016
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Sometimes doing the right thing feels wrong but there are moments in the future where you'll know you did the right thing.
youlive
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Jul 7, 2016
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If you feel right about it, you know that you did the right thing. If not, you should look into and search for the problem. Believe in you
Anonymous
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Sep 8, 2016
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What is interesting about this question is that people often evaluate the right thing exclusively on the basis of the results or the outcome. That has something to do with it ("did things turn out ok?") but not everything. A big factor of knowing if you did the right thing is whether in your heart, your gut, you are ok with the actions you took. It is possible to get to a good result through lies, deceit and cheating - does the end justify the means? Many people would be uncomfortable with that (including me).
Evaluate if you did the right thing in part with your sense of the results, but listen to and trust your own instincts. Do you feel good, right, comforted, by your own actions? That tells you the answer.
Ezraforhelp
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Sep 3, 2016
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You don't. That's the beauty of it.. You just have to go about in life doing what feels right to your heart. If you do what your tells you, then trust it to be right. Never doubt your decisions, your gut feeling.
And anyway.. there's no such thing as a right or wrong thing. They are all choices. You just gotta make them at some point and NOT worry whether they are right or wrong or good or bad.
YourPalAmy
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Jul 10, 2016
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Sometimes the right choice isn't the easy one. A lot of the time you just have to consider pros and cons, and trust your gut. If you think you made the right decision, you probably did.
s3venteen
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Oct 23, 2016
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You will know that the outcome will help encourage a healthy environment and bring happiness to everyone the decision involved. You might not feel good or things may seem bad right now because it was a tough choice or it immediately negatively affected someone but you will know that when you and they get through it, everyone will be much better for having been a part of that.
julialovesyouu
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Jul 7, 2016
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When something agrees with your morals, puts you in a positive direction towards your major goals and makes you happy, you have done the right thing.
Anonymous
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Jul 7, 2016
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It depends on how you feel about it. If you're really feeling conflicted, I think making a pros and cons chart can really help make your thoughts clearer and help you understand your thoughts on it.
Anonymous
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Jul 2, 2016
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Does it feel right in your heart? Personally, doing the right thing gives me a warm feeling in my belly!
Alexisgkr
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Jul 5, 2016
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I believe the ultimate personal goal is trying to hear your instinct. If your instinct tells you that the particular thing is right, then it probably is! Try and hear what your heart says sometimes!
Anonymous
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Jul 1, 2016
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Trust yourself. You decide if what you did was right or wrong. If you think you are right stick to it regardless of what others say on the matter. And if you feel you are wrong, accept it.
Peregrine
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Jul 13, 2016
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You know you did the right thing when you are happy and healthy, or the action you picked was the one that most greatly benefited the welfare of yourself and those around you.
Anonymous
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Jun 29, 2016
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It depends on what it is! If you feel right about it, it's most likely the right thing! If not, you may want to look into it and see what the problem may be
Danielle806
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Jul 3, 2016
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If you feel bad mentally about it then it might not be the right thing to do in my opinion if it didn't hurt to do it it could have been the right thing to do but if you did it to hurt someone it was wrong
YuukiKuran1996
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Jul 21, 2016
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If you respected and thought about others , considering their feeling , and still you were able to be brave enough to follow your heart and act for the right reasosn , then You did the right thing :)

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