Why do I always fail even when I try my hardest?

Find what you're good at and do that. Remember this quote... “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” - Albert Einstein.

Firstly, the word 'fail' is subjective. What does it mean to fail? With this question, the opposite comes naturally. What does it mean to succeed? Society has largely defined success very narrowly, when in reality, real success is when someone gives it their all and tries their hardest, pushing themselves to their maximum potential. The truth is that you aren't failing at all when you're trying your hardest, but succeeding honorably and greatly.

First, you feel bad because you perceive that you fail at everything. I assume by coming here and sharing this pain you are seeking relief... maybe you have succeeded. Maybe the act of just having the courage to post your question is a success. So, in this sense, I see you have succeeded. Next, you are human, you will fail - you may fail often. I think accepting this helps us to not ruminate on our past failures. If we are entangled in those past failures, the chance that we will fail again is much higher. When we accept the possibility of both success or failure, in the here and now, our anxiety tends to lessen, allowing us to focus more effectively on the task at hand rather than being bothered the whole time by thoughts of past failures and the expectation of a current failure. I won't say think positive, I would say try to accept that you are human, you will fail, you will succeed, breathe, and move forward with your next task. If I appeal to your logical mind, then statistically, you will succeed eventually ;)

No one ever fails. We set our own personal standards so high that we are never likely to reach them.

First off, I am sure that you do not "always" fail! However, you probably feel this way because there is something that you really want, but unfortunately, your efforts do not seem to translate into positive results. Secondly, give yourself a pat on the back for trying your hardest. That in itself isn't easy, and I'm sure it must have taken a lot of strength and determination. And thirdly, I know that it is very disheartening to feel that your everything isn't "good enough", especially when we have always been fed the expectation that "trying your hardest" equate to success. I bet that it's very exhausting to think that you've got to put in the effort again, to maybe, possibly not attain something that you're satisfied with. But that's what you gotta do. Keep trying. I know you might not want some motivational talk (or perhaps you do), but that's life right? When you fall, you just got to pick yourself up. Of course, give yourself a break and take a rest, and when you're ready, try again :) We all do it. Don't give up! You are not a failure! :)

Life is set up for us to have failures and set backs. It is what makes life not boring. If you didn't fail, you would never learn any lessons. When you fail. don't think of it as the opposite of success. Just think of it as a stepping stone to it. No one would be successful without failure.

Failing is a normal part of human nature. Even the most successful people have failed many times before succeeding. Practice ,strategy,concentration,planning, hard working,and determination are a few words to describe what you might need to succeed. Success is not easy, but if you really want it , then you will find a way. It might take time and you might even make more mistakes. Sometimes you even need to find new paths, be open minded and creative about decision making. When you put your mind into "survival mode"(meaning trying your best) then you are able to be much more effective in how you do anything. Success might require a lot of skills and maybe a few really well skill(s). Try to find out what your skilled at and want to be skilled at and what you enjoy. Many people are skilled very well at the things they enjoy the most because it makes it much more easyer for them to do so. But even then it can get very hard and you might want to quit. Just remember, as long as you try in life, you no longer will be worryed even when you failed something. Because you will still have a other chance to succeed. If your chance to succeed is even 0.00000001% then you can still succeed.

When things don’t go the way you’d like them to it’s hard to believe you’ll ever improve, but just because you don’t do so well now doesn’t mean you won’t succeed in the future. It’s okay to make mistakes, they’re opportunities for life experience.

What/who are you failing? If you're trying your hardest, and you still consider yourself failing, then maybe you need to reconsider what you think of as a success

Your generalisation is not accurate. Because people tend to fail than succeed. So if your success rate is 10%, which means every 100 things you do , you succeed 10 things. However, if you do TOO FEW, like you only try 5 things, then chances are you cant gain any success. So you always find failure , it's just becasue your doing are not enough in number.

In your lifetime, you will fail many times. But that is how you succeed. Failing is not meant to be taken as a bad thing. Once you fail, you will know what to avoid doing next time. Trial and Error is the best way around something. If you don't succeed, try try again. Sometimes your best isn't enough. And that's okay.

We try our hardest and the result isnt what we wanted, nor was it fast enough. 'WE' judge the result of our actions and desires. The warfare is in the mind, its how we think its how we feel. We always judge ourselves too harshly. We can be very fast to come to the aid of a friend with encouragement. But when it comes to ourselves are often the worst critic. The only 'failure' is in giving up. We give up when we cant tolerate the pain and discomfort. pain and discomfort from feeling we're falling short of our expectations. Wait you say, its other people telling me this too. Anyone who ever tells you you're a failure is a liar, period. Why do we seem to take their negative comments to heart without thinking about them? Why are we so ready to think the worst of ourselves? Human Nature and the teachings of our society. Concentrate on the process over the product. Dont look just at the end result, look at the deep process needed to get there. It takes alot of time, hard work and working properly. yea, all the things we dont want to do these days. We want to skim along and 'try' things. YOLO, right? It's cool to have a look around and taste life. But if you really want to be good at something then suspend your disbelief. You believe you will fail and you look at you're progress and comapre yourself with everyone else and the stress and anxiety make it alot harder. So relax. Try and believe in yourself but give this thing time. Decide you really want to do this. understand it will take time and effort. Its not about being great for awhile. For awhile its all about learning. Study, try, learn from mistakes and change ...LEARN FROM MISTAKES...and keep pushing. From my life...if you're inner dialog is about how you cant do or dont know how to do then youre not giving yourself a chance. Change that dialog to study. If you cant or dont know how to do it then dig deeper. Establish a routine of work/study. maybe it takes you longer, no problem. If it say takes you an extra two years to get your degree who cares, cause you have that degree. So relax, dont be so hard on yourself. Dont set yourself up and catch your negative inner dialog and say it out loud if ya have to..."I CAN and WILL do this". Tell yourself you'll spend the time and effort and GIVE yourself that time and not judge yourself. Do it because you enjoy it and just get lost in the PROCESS.....Life is a process....live.

It's ok, that's just because you expected a lot more from you and had really high standarts so you feel like you're failing when you not necessairily did :)

We never fail when we try our best. Your effort just isn't being recognised, but you shouldn't see it as a failure because we always grow a lot by making our hardest. Maybe the way you are trying hard isn't valuing you effort. For example: if you need to study for a test and you try to just study all the time and every day, you are probably going to burn yourself out. It's important to be healthy in all aspects of life (social, phisical, mental, spiritual) so that your performance keeps good. So if something like that is happening, you can learn with your mistakes and make much better in your next try!

You will get results when you put this effort in the right direction & when you sharpen your axe before cutting down a tree.

We decide a limit for ourself, we give our best and think that I have tried hardest, but try but push yourself more than that and eventually you will succeed.

Sometimes your brain is consuming to much and you need to relax and take a deep breath and not over work yourself since there is only a certain amount we can all take

Did you choose something out of your skill level? Did you allow yourself mistakes, knowing that nothing is perfect? Are the things you 'fail' at difficult in any way? Were you too stressed, sick, or multitasking? Did you spend enough time thinking about the exact outcome, not just the one you hoped for? Did someone simply not appreciate what you did? All of these could lead to feelings of failure.

Sometimes, even after trying so hard, we don't get those opportunities that we need or the platform where we can display our talent. Consistency & patience, maybe, is the key besides hard trials.

Maybe you need to look at your task from a different angle, and create a new plan - then try again.