Why do I feel like there's a need to please so many people?

Because it's an inherent part of human nature to seek acceptance and validation - when we don't get that, it chips away at our self-esteem and leads to self-doubt and feelings of unworthiness. It's not healthy to feel this kind of pressure, because it masks what lies within - our true character, raw and untethered - the version of ourselves we should always present to the world, but instead keep hidden for the fear of rejection.

Some people feel like they've got please everyone and it's hard to deal with sometimes. I can't say for sure why you feel the need to please so many people, but I can say you're not alone in feeling this way and there are ways to get past this feeling.

You sound like you have a caring heart! It's nice to want to please people-- it even feels good to know that we made someone else happy. However, this can sometimes get out of balance; we need to weigh our own happiness by that of others. It's okay to want to help people, as long as you don't forget about yourself.

i feel the more people i please the better of a person i am. Its almost like i need it to feel good about myself

That's a good question. I may not have the best answer per say but I can tell you why I think I have to please so many people. I feel the need and some others feel the need to please so many people because they want to feel loved and cared about. They want to feel like they are doing something right, they want to feel proud even though trying to please people doesn't always make them feel proud. I feel like no matter who you are or who you're trying to be, its not the most effective decision to try to change who you are to please others. If you are happy with yourself, great! If you aren't happy with yourself, make some changes to help you be happy with yourself. You don't have to change who you are to please others.

Because society tells people that they have to be perfect and that they need to have everything be good in their lives. And that's stupid

Sometimes, we get the need to please many people around us because of the lack of love, care, and attention that we need.

We feel that if we please people, we feel secure. If we please people, then we believe that they must love us for it and we as humans strive for love.

You seem like a person who has a good heart and good hearted people tend to want to take care of everyone else and sometimes you need to relax and take a moment to please yourself..

Societal conditioning + other's people's expectations of you. Just focus on pleasing yourself and you'll be much happier.

It may be because you feel you want more attention. It could also be because you want more friends in life.

There's nothing wrong with that, it only shows that you're a kind hearted person, unless it starts to interfere with your personal pleasure then you need to slow down and think about yourself for a bit.

Humans are naturally social beings, it's easy to be caught up in what others think of us since our behavior and who we are is molded by the social interactions we face daily.

I guess that it is Because I've always been afraid of disappointing others and I've always been afraid of people abandoning me.

I feel there is a need to please so many people because I feel that if they are not pleased with things I do I can not be pleased.

You don't have to make them happy, be yourself, you can't please them because the only person you can please is you so never try to please anyone

I know what you mean. I'm the same way, and if I have to blame it on something I say instinct. The more time spend the harder it is to satisfied people. But the more I experience life, the more I feel stupid trying to fit in their mould when I could just easily create my own. So I give up trying to please others. Now I'm working hard for myself and my happiness.

This seems to be really bothering you. You may be a really nice person or you might need people's praise. Why don't you talk to your doctor about it?

Because you don't want to let them down, you want to make them feel proud of you but what really matters is your happiness

Because you like to please people, and don't want to dissapoint anyone for it. It's more about being a people pleasure.