how can i stop thinking about our memories together?
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Updated: Mar 29, 2022
sweetlinda22
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Nov 11, 2015
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Do not be afraid to think of your memories together, but remember they are just that. when you find yourself thinking about them, appreciate the good times and remind yourself that it was good while it lasted, smile and carry on with whatever you are doing. Do not overindulge, soon you will think less and less because you allowed the memories to rest in good faith.
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magnanimousStrawberry75
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Jun 20, 2016
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It's okay to think about the memories but remember they are memories. The person in those memories is a different person, they've changed and you've changed.
Harshit1202
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Jul 18, 2017
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You don't have to think about, how to stop thinking about something because more you'll try to forget about something more you're gonna think about that! better you get to indulge in your hobbies and whatever you like to do. like playing the guitar, listening to music, talking to friends you love, Sports etc. , don't let yourself free enough to think about anything you don't want to
musicalDew34
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Nov 11, 2015
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Memories can never be forgotten... but u can try to avoid those thing which can recall those memories
indigostar56
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Mar 27, 2017
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I wish I had a better answer for this one but the only thing I know that heals is time. If it's really bothering you then you should remove all the reminders. I like to make a ritual of it by throwing them into the ocean or safely burning them to be released by the air or burying them back in the earth to symbolically let go... Then get busy doing some activity you enjoy or working or exercising! Find something else positive to put your attention on. The best revenge is success. Use your hurt feelings to create your dreams. Maybe there was something you wanted to do but didn't because relationships can be all encompassing? Now is the time! You can do this. I believe in you!
kindrose302
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Jun 27, 2016
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Try and distract your self with things that make you happy like hanging out with friends
maddie10
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Feb 23, 2015
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Fortunately and unfortunately, you will always have memories with people that you used to love and care about, but the best thing to do to stop thinking about those memories is to create new ones!
AlloTheHelper100
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Jan 4, 2016
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Think about someone elses memories with him or her Then think about your best memories weigh the 2.
librabrandi89
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May 10, 2015
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Sometimes it is important to power through these thoughts as a part of mourning what once was. take it as a part of the healing process
Anonymous
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Nov 23, 2015
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Put away all pictures and memorabilia. Each time you start to think about them, say out loud that you're not going to go there, and find something to change your direction of thought. We should move forward in life and not look back. No need to dwell on something you can't change. It is a waste of precious time. Make new memories.
AyeNattie
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Feb 15, 2016
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You just have to think about the present and not what you two had but focus on what you will have with a new person.
JohanDwanian
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May 9, 2016
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I believe you'll always have moments when you think about memories with someone else, in different ways. So stopping it completely is rather impossible but also not needed, I think. It is more in the sense of how you deal with it and process it as well as accept it. With time these will also be more manageable and you'll learn from it as well. As long as you can move on and create new memories you will be okay. The way you look at memories and react to them will change over time.
Zebrasarcastic
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Jun 7, 2016
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Make new memories ,memories are not something that can be forgotten just overcome don't dwell what's in the past and live the present
Anonymous
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Mar 29, 2022
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You honestly don't. I've been in many situations where it feels like you can't get over one person or you can't stop thinking about them. It depends on whether they still hold an important role in your life, or are even apart of it at all. It takes a lot of time to be able to completely stop thinking or obsessing over someone and their history and past events with you, especially if they were really important in your life before. Sometimes you just have to know when to let go, but first, you have to figure out if you really want to since you're still thinking about times you shared together.
FeatherIce25
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Apr 17, 2015
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Accept the fact that your time together is over and move on. Give yourself time . Get a hobby . Go out with your friends. There is a lot to be explored.
heretohelp5555
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Apr 22, 2015
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by doing things you love. Work on your passions by setting goals and achieving them. the memories will fade slowly.
Anonymous
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Jan 4, 2016
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By making yourself busy. Grab something that you can work to keep your mind off of him or her.......
amoyrycorazon
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Feb 2, 2016
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this is something that cant really be answered ...you can always distract yourself to keep yourself from thinking about it but it is something you will always rememeber
cosyheart21
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Sep 19, 2016
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If you have anything around you that reminds you of your ex, get rid of it, or put it away. Surround yourself and your environment with other things, old and new, that make you happy.
Kalkoengebraad
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Nov 1, 2016
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I don't think you should stop thinking about them. They're memories and they are part of who you are. cherish the good ones, and let go of the bad ones. but if you do want to stop thinking about them - keep yourself busy. make yourself a busy schedule, and as soon as you start thinking about any of those memories, remind yourself to focus on what it is you are doing right now, for example studying, working out,...