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How do I get her back without seeming desperate?

Profile: Normaaeb
Normaaeb on Dec 23, 2014
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Treat her as a friend. Of course, take some time before doing it again, but do try to make her fall in love again with dates, details, etc. And make sure she accepts them, maybe she feels awkward.
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Profile: KendallNichole
KendallNichole on Jan 6, 2015
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Not knowing the exact situation this is definitely a tough question to answer! But, I think that if you can show someone how you truly feel about them and make them understand how much they mean to you, you have a chance of getting them back! If it doesn't work out, always know that there will be many more people you meet in life!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 29, 2015
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For me, i'm quite open and honest so i would honestly just say, express your feelings to her. Tell her about how you feel, doesn't matter if you sound desperate, if you love her you will be desperate, Don't worry about feeling embarrssed, if you express how you feel you have more of a chance and you will only regret not saying something later on down the line. if she wants you back she will, but if she doesn't then i'm afraid the best thing to do is to move on, distract your mind
Profile: LadyCee
LadyCee on Jan 24, 2016
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Don't rush things. Take your time but also give her time to remind her why she fell in love with you. Make her fall in love with you all over again.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 4, 2014
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'If you love her let her go." It's an old proverb for a reason. Significant Others are not boomerangs; we can't always expect them to come spiraling back. Everything happens for a reason and if it isn't meant to be, it isn't meant to be
Profile: smileforawhile
smileforawhile on Dec 7, 2014
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Be up front and honest with her. If you truly lover her and want her back, you won't worry about seeming desperate. Honesty and communication is key!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 17, 2016
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Tell her how you feel straight foward, it's better and easier for you AND her. I wish you good luck!
Profile: simianchan
simianchan on Jan 28, 2016
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If you do nothing, nothing can go wrong. Giving space and time to the situation can help with healing for self as well as the other side to process their thoughts. This process is hard and can take months or years
Profile: Uniqueg
Uniqueg on Nov 13, 2014
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Take care of yourself first so you can be at your best, so you can be the best person for her and she'll realize the difference and start from there!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 24, 2014
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The best thing is to seem happy, don't show her you're bothered by it. When she sees that you can be good on your own then you can start trying to get back with her
Profile: vinilovesyou
vinilovesyou on Dec 16, 2014
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Find ways to spend time with her, think about why it is you two broke up in the first place, and try to change things for the better. Because getting her back is one thing, but keeping her requires work on both ends. Also, dont go begging her to get back with you
Profile: JackCarterr
JackCarterr on Jan 27, 2016
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Talk to her! Become friends and be honest with her! At the end of the day you'll either gain her back as a friend or gain her as a girlfriend again, what have you got to lose? Honesty is key in all relationships, just don't say "I'm nothing without you" or something corny, try "can we try us again and see if it works out?" Etc! Good luck!
Profile: HazelEyes2
HazelEyes2 on Jan 29, 2016
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I think a better thing to ask is how can I accept that she isn't in my life anymore? It's hard to "give up" your dreams for the person you desire but you may end up being healthier mentally and emotionally if you do.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 31, 2016
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I would suggest to maybe give her a little slack if you know what i mean. Let her be and let her have some time to herself so you don't seem clingy. I would suggest after you have done that, to occasionally message her, try to spark up a conversation. Ease your way back to her but do not come on too strong. If she doesn't answer you back right away or within an hour, just let her be. She will eventually come around. If she doesn't at fist, then again, just let her be to herself. Sometimes us girls need that. Good luck.
Profile: divinewillpower86
divinewillpower86 on Feb 7, 2016
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I guess girls like to see the full devotion to prepare to say yes. Whatever you have been and she have been, the relationship has had some strains and both had hurt. Now think about the positive note. Do you know someone has to make a start! So it might be you or her. What matters is if their is any EGO then it's not gonna work at all.
Profile: Caringmagic60
Caringmagic60 on Feb 9, 2016
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Be yourself.. True to your heart and to her. Don't push yourself.... You'll get her back someday....
Profile: bubblyNight88
bubblyNight88 on Sep 6, 2016
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Show her that you've changed for the better and if she's willing to give it another shot, you are too
Profile: chamomilecompanion
chamomilecompanion on Nov 20, 2014
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If a person is in need of some space, respect that. People recognize when you put their needs before your wants.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 20, 2014
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Just tell her how you feel..straight to the point and accept her decisions no matter what it will take time..be patient
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 22, 2014
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Try and talk to her about how you feel, explain to her the thoughts you may be having lately. Ask her if she is willing to fix things that may have went wrong in the relationship and work with her if she is willing.
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