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How should I feel after being rejected?

Profile: Willofheart
Willofheart on Jun 12, 2015
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Realise that getting rejected is a part of life and theres really no need to worry about it. Rejection is not your fault! The other person rejected something in particular that didnt work for them. The earlier you accept the rejection and attempt to move on from it, the easier a time you're going to have. It will also mean that you won't let rejections in the future absolutely flatten you. It probably hapened for your own good and know that if one door closes another one opens up for you somewhere, so dont confine yourself! Stop dwelling in the past, move on and in time you'll be laughing at what happened.
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Profile: happyhelp
happyhelp on Feb 19, 2015
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You should not let it affect u or urself esteem it will boost the guys ego! Do things u like keep urself busy show him u are happy
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 19, 2015
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After being rejected its important not to beat yourself up about it. The person who has rejected you is allowed to say no and that is something that you will soon get over by yourself. There are plenty of people out there and however much they might've felt like the one, they werent.
Profile: MirauzeAkilah
MirauzeAkilah on Apr 17, 2015
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Well you shouldn't feel to down about it! Because if they couldn't see the beauty in you then they dont deserve you!
Profile: Lpmae
Lpmae on Jun 29, 2015
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Being rejected is one bad experience for me. i feel sad and disappointed to myself. It feels like I'm a mess and I don't want to remember it.I usually pretend and tried to forget that it actually happens.
Profile: Lieke
Lieke on Feb 19, 2015
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There is no rule on how to feel after being rejected. You might feel sad, or angry, or confused, or alone, or maybe you just feel relieved to have clarity. What you feel is entirely up to you, and all these feelings are completely natural. Feeling sad or angry or rejected does not make you a bad person. It's how we deal with these feelings that shows our character.
Profile: DipityEnigma
DipityEnigma on Apr 16, 2015
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It's normal to feel demotivated after being rejected but the simple fact is, whoever rejected you doesn't deserve you. Aim high but keep it realistic. Always be in the middle of positive and negative; expect the best but also expect the worse. This way, if either situations occur, you will be ready for either scenario.
Profile: WhitneysSafeSpace
WhitneysSafeSpace on May 29, 2015
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There's really not a specific way someone should feel after that. Everyone reacts to things differently and as long as you aren't hurting anyone (including yourself), then I would say you're doing it right, and having the right reaction.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 17, 2015
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you should think that u r not rejected u r saved from that bad situation... think everything positive
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 8, 2018
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It’s normal to feel hurt and embarrassed and that’s totally ok!! Don’t feel like you shouldn’t feel upset you’re allowed to have to have your reaction! But everyone is different and there isn’t a specific way you should feel
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 27, 2015
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There is no specific way you should feel because no two people are the same - being rejected could make you feel angry and upset, however to another person the same scenario might make them feel frustrated and anxious. However you may feel it is totally normal and okay.
Profile: Cupcakisaurus
Cupcakisaurus on Aug 11, 2015
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Honestly, you should feel however you feel right now. Your feelings are authentic and are part of what make you... well... you! Rejection can leave all sorts of feelings, such as anger, sadness, depression, frustration, or sometimes even relief depending on the situation (such as not hearing back from a job for weeks and finally hearing something, even if it is negative).
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 2, 2015
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Everyone feels rejected sometimes even though they are not. Some people think they don't belong somewhere when in fact, they do. Teens feel that way in puberty because creating individuality and your own self is something that takes time, and feelings involved are something new for a young person. Some people are rejected by a nice girl you wanted to have coffee with. Some people are rejected by a nice guy you wanted to take to the movies. Some people are rejected by their friends or family sadly. It is a feeling of faulure and isolation. You feel you are not good enough. You are afraid to approach people out of fear. They will say no. Why should they care? I will be rejected again. It can lead to depression and low self worth. Key to understanding rejection is that people have the right to say no and that you just have to deal with that, move on and keep trying. You will find someone who will not reject you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 28, 2015
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You should feel, like any other human being, a little upset. But you should note that maybe they weren't the right one for you in the first place. By thinking of this, it might help you not dwell on the rejection.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Feb 16, 2016
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It depends on you as an individual and how you deal. Some people gets very effected when they get rejected and react negatively about it. Then there are others who take it as a lesson and take the positive way out of the rejection and learning and growing from it.
Profile: SunshineCeline
SunshineCeline on Jun 7, 2016
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There's no answer as to how you should feel, for every feeling is valid. Some people take rejection harder and more personal than others.
Profile: LucasClaus05
LucasClaus05 on Jul 19, 2016
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Rejection and mistakes are life's greatest teachers. You will learn more from your failures than you will from your successes. So learn! Learn and fail. Then do it again. Surely, after much of this exercise, you will reach a level of thought that without failure, success feels less effusive and more plateaued.
Profile: sweetgrandpa
sweetgrandpa on Dec 30, 2019
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I believe that after being rejected you should feel terrible, upset and wondering why they broke it with you. I think we all agree on that, we are sociable beings and we need to feel accepted in the community we live in, whether at school, work or at home. However, despite that being the feeling we have to try to meditate on the following, there are people who reject us for various reasons, but interestingly, this happens because we are unique beings in the universe, absolutely no one in all existence is like you and that can please or not other people, remember that just as there are people who do not like there are always others who like us.
Profile: supportall15
supportall15 on May 25, 2020
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I can not tell you how or what to feel. Generally people of all identifications feel sad and maybe even confused, just know that this doesn’t define you and you’re amazing. Keep your head up and be the best you can be because that’s all you could ask for:) Know that the person who rejected you missed out because you are amazing, loved, worthy, and do not need them. You deserve someone who understands your worth and what you deserve, do not settle for anything less than you deserve. The feelings will pass one day and this will feel like a distant memory:)
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