If you loved each other so much before a breakup, why is it so hard to stay friends after the break up?

The type of love and affection we display towards boyfriends and girlfriends are a lot different than those we share towards a friend. The translation of seeing them as "yours" to just another friend is incredibly hard, almost like you're loosing some part of yourself - when in reality you haven't

It is hard to stay friends because you love them. You want so much more than friendship, you want that love to remain and it will never remain the same because your broken inside after the break up.

Break ups are very hard and only a small handful of people who endure break ups come out of it perfectly fine, and everyone differs. Honestly, from my personal expierence, it is hard to break up and try to remain in a positive friendship because you have that sudden change in the relationship, you can no longer say "I love you" without knowing, they may not mean it back anymore or the relationship is no longer like that. It is hard, but as time goes by, you'll subtly forget about them and possibly the deep feelings you had for them. You will be okay from it and you will grow flowers from it all.

Because it's like constantly seeing yourself torn away from someone you love. It's like being addicted to something and then trying to quit but still being forced to see that thing you so desire.

It's hard to stay friends after a breakup because you realize that feelings that were once there are no longer there. It hurts that the love is no longer there and it's hard to face the person who you once shared the love with.

Between true Boy and girl friendship, there is no space for sexual attraction and they just feel like they are beyond the gender and just they share their emotions through speech and at the most hugging. But in boy and girl loving relationship, there is a sexual attraction and there is more closeness and more space for physicality. So normal friendship is not possible after breakup if the couple had really loved eachother and agreed to be life partners.

You constantly are having memories or feelings of when you loved each other. It’s hard to have a friendship when you’ve had a different kind of relationship.

Because of that love. Loving someone as a friend is very different than loving someone as a companion in a relationship. If you break up with someone and try to remain friends, the love you have for them runs so deep that it's difficult to be friends with them.

Sometimes it is the best for both parties who take distance to avoid more damage to the situation or the way of seeing the person to switch to a bad.

perhaps it's too soon for friendship. Jumping right into friendship is like jumping out of a frying pan and into the fire. Your wounds are still raw, understand that it's a process and allow yourself time to really heal. You both have to get there at your own pace.

Because love isn't the same as friendship is. Breaking up doesn't mean stop loving, and once you shared all your heart with a person, it is hard for you to stay as "friends" because you can't really see them as that. Even if you were the one who break the relationship, your mind will always be focused on what where you before, and even if you don't love them anymore, there's the remain of the feeling and it makes imposible for you to just view that person in a not-love-way.

Maybe its hard to see the person who meant the world to you once, drift away apart. Maybe there is a lot of anger and resentments stored up. Maybe its hard to the person with someone else ...or maybe we are just scared we might never feel the same way again for someone else...that we wont be able to let it go. But then again isn't love about letting the other person be happy...about growing ? So if the person helps you to grow, inspires you ..still respects you and vice versa.. then its worth the friendship, So what if you two had a break up or don't feel the same way about each other...like i said maybe love is about letting the other person be happy. So maybe for the sake of all the good times and happy memories it might be worth being on good terms. All you need is to have clarity.

i believe that the reason why mostly anyone cant be friends after a really loving relationship is because they would feel weird being together after one of them broke up with the other. or maybe simply they just believe its better for to move on from each others life.

You can't befriends with someone you love. More probably it's because you don't want to face them. Things change, you might burst out on them because of all the anger and pain you've stored inside. And you don't want to 'cause pain to your loved ones. So it's better to just getaway from them completely if you fear your emotions can mess things up.

A lot of things will never stay the same, especially after a breakup. Regardless of the reason of breaking up, there will always be a barrier between the two of you. However, staying as friends may only seem impossible at first, especially if the breakup just occurred. There is a higher tendency for either of you to bring up the past and blame one another. After both of you have completely healed, however, i do believe that it is possible to stay friends. Time heals all wounds, and if it's meant to be, things might just go well for both of you again.

it is so hard because not enough time has passed for your heart / emotions to catch up with your brain. Our brain can see it is over and list the reasons why, but the heart is slower to let go and accept this new reality.Also, love is a powerful force that acts chemically on the brain, and until those love chemicals have time to slow and stop poring you into memories and longing, any contact just renews hope of reunion. Given enough time and maybe even new love, you may be able to be riends.but given enough time and not holding a torch any longer, you may not want to anymore,,, or the ex may not want to be friends.

Knowing that you guys are officially over. And through everything you have done or said, it’s hard to see them in the friendly manner. You’re so used to the relationship part, that being friends was never a thought.

It is difficult to stay friends with someone after a breakup because there are always feelings there. It also depends on the reason why the relationship has come to an end. If one person or both individuals are hurt than it can be difficult to be friends because of the memories. Whether it was a relationship of a few months or years, memories always make it difficult to remain friends with an ex partner. Sometimes staying friends with an ex partner can actually be more damaging than the break up itself because you are constantly being reminded of the feelings there once was or are still there.

It is hard becuse if you love someone so much you can be friends with him/her.Being friends mean teling everything and isn't easy to listen your ex telling about his/hers now boyfriend/girlfriend.

It can be hard because emotions from the past have not settled yet, and being friends can bring those emotions back up.