Spying on ex's social media - since my breakup I can't stop from monitoring. Is that okay?

I wonder what you are feeling at the time when you see his pictures and stories? its not uncommon to want to know what the ex is doing but really it comes down to why. Are you still in love with them ? Do you want to try and get back together ? Are you jealous they might have found someone or are happy ? really I think right now its a good idea to focus on you rather than the ex and decide what you want in your life, and perhaps start making some plans for that direction

This is totally normal, but extremely harmful to your own mental health. The problem with social media is that we only put our best, happiest and brightest moments. We are particularly susceptible to harm of this effect when we ourselves are in a bad place because we get an extremely skewed perspective that everyone else is 'so much happier and more together'. Breakups are really tough for everyone, but they can also be the most perfect and beautiful excuse to be a little selfish and just focus on you and what makes you happy. Take advantage of this wonderful opportunity and you'll be surprised at how much you can love yourself when you learn how great you can be :)

do it if you want to. do as much as you want and one day you'll get bored and realise this is so nonsense and that will be the same day his name doesn't effect you anymore.

It will cause you stress, and you will keep your mind on your ex-partner and their behavior. In my experience, if you don't give yourself a break from this, it will be much harder to get over the break-up. The best thing you can do for you to heal is to go 'no-contact'. Ask your friends not to discuss your ex with you, remove/block any notifications from them, block yourself from being able to look at their online life. Do this for at least a month or so to give yourself the chance to heal some more. It will be very tempting to contact them, but isn't it more important that you can get past this? Good luck and take care! You can do it!

No, it just brings up old feelings and doesn't allow you to move on from the relationship. Seeing what they're up to every once and awhile is fine, especially if you are still friends. Otherwise, it just makes the breakup more difficult for you.

It's normal to still want to feel connected to the person you spent so much time with. Many of us have resorted to spying on an ex significant other or friend in order to be close and keep lookout. Going from being the first to know something to the last is hard to adjust to. It hurts to think of them moving on, but it feels even worse when we witness it. Think about your emotional and mental health and reassess whether or not this is something you should keep doing. Although, by asking this question, it seems like you may already know the answer.

After my last break up i did that as well but I learned that by doing that I wasn't moving on. I might have even seen some things I didn't want to see and wouldn't have seen if I wasn't spying.

Do you think its helping you? To bring sadness to yourself its not a good idea, its bad for you, dont you think?

You shouldn't be spying on your ex. If you want to speak to him or try and see how hes doing, why dont you take a chance and talk to him in person? It couldnt hurt to try and be friends with him :)

Well i'll tell you from personal experience that it's okay, i've done the same thing you have done, you'll get over it eventually, you just have to give it time

Doing so will only feed the sad and negative feelings you have. It's better to not dwell and to go outside to take your mind off of your ex and do the things that you enjoy and love.

Ethically - sure it's okay. I wouldn't necessarily describe looking at his social media updates as "spying," as your ex is knowingly & willfully putting whatever you're looking at out there on the internet for everyone (including you) to see. Emotionally - maybe not, but that's up to you. Is monitoring his profiles taking up an excessive amount of your time that could be better spent on more productive activities? Is seeing a fun status update or photo he posts causing you to feel jealous & insecure? If you feel that doing this is negatively impacting your life & preventing you from moving on after the breakup then this behavior may be harmful for your emotional well-being. It's a difficult first step but ultimately the easiest way to resist the temptation to "spy" is to remove yourself from the situation - block or unfollow his accounts. As the old saying goes, "out of sight, out of mind."

It's natural that you would be curious as to what your ex might be doing. Time will help heal you, and I think when you pass the point in which you truly care about what he/she is doing, you'll stop. Is it okay? I can't answer that. Will you overcome it? Yes, yes you will.

from personal experience i would reccomend not spying on your ex's profile because then you are re living all of the horrible memories you went through which will make you upset or the great memories which will also make you upset. An ex is an ex for a reason and especially if your trying to get over them leave your ex in the past .

No, that's not okay and it's also not healthy for you. Supposing you check out your ex's social media, and all you see is them having a good time and being themselves. It will only depress or anger you that they've managed to get on with their life without you in it while you are still recovering from your breakup. This will only lengthen and worsen the process.

Whether it's ok or not isn't clear cut- but it's definitely not healthy in getting over them. It's a lot more common than you think- don't feel guilty about it. Just know that it's only going to make it hurt more and do no thing towards easing your suffering. Best case scenario if it's really over, is to delete/block/unfriend them and deal with the initial pain. It will get better with time, I promise.

From personal experience, it is not okay. Every person needs time to heal from a breakup, and monitoring social media can cause reflections of the past and that can lead to hurt emotions.

you will have a difficult time moving forward. It is absolutely necessary for you to get past your obsession for which you will need to sit down and reflect on why you are doing such things.

well what to say?? spying on your ex after break up on social media handles is like you are looking at the spoiled ice cream on road and still wants to pick it us. its truly useless.