What do I do if I'm in love with my ex?
adoredBlossom87
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Nov 27, 2014
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That depends on the circumstances. I'm still in love with my ex, and I think a lot of people have applied a very cookie cutter approach to my situation. I think there are a million scenarios. I can be healthy to move on if the breakup and the relationship was tumultuous. It can be difficult to let go if you were together for many years, or things were really incredible. It can be difficult to let go even if not. But I think you have take some time away from each other and give yourself time for you to cycle through all of the emotions that come with a breakup, and then you have to be honest with yourself about your feelings and the situation. When you do act make sure you are acting out of love for yourself and love for your ex, and ask yourself, "What would love do?" Would love let go for your ex's happiness or your own? Would love make positive changes to work on insecurities or mental health in order to rebuild the relationship on a healthier, solid foundation? Whatever you do, act out of kindness and patience for yourself and for your ex. Don't let the fear of losing love create a desperation that causes you to act brashly or try to force something that the timing is not right for. Be true to yourself and be patient.
Breakups can be hard
IceQueen
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Dec 31, 2014
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If you really love you're ex boyfriend you should call him up, and talk to him, and tell him how you feel. You never know maybe things will workout after all. You just need to explain to him you're feelings, and I'm sure he would understand
Uniqueg
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Nov 27, 2014
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Maybe you can make a chart with the pros and cons of the relationship you had with your ex and if the good out weighs the bad maybe you can contact your ex and see if the feeling is mutual but if the bad out weighs the good maybe you guys ended for a reason
Anonymous
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Jan 5, 2015
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You could tell her/him how you feel. The chances are that she/he might feel the same about you! If you don't get the answer that you wanted don't be upset. Atleast then you'd know. Keeping these feelings hidden within you will probably bother you even more!
Anonymous
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Dec 8, 2014
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It makes sense to sit down and sort out your feelings. There is a possibility that the love you feel might be because of a fear of being alone or not finding someone else. If you are sure that that is not the case, it might help to understand what went wrong in the first place. A friend would be helpful here because talking brings clarity to our own thoughts. You should also evaluate if there is any chance of you two getting back together.
If after going through all of that, you feel like there is no way you could get back together, it may be time to seek help in the form of a support group or friends. Maybe just going out and meeting new people might make the difference.
Anonymous
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Jul 27, 2015
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I would not carry any feeling of hurt or pain. I would be glad that he/she is happy in his/her life and move on ,still loving them and thinking good about them.coz love is all about giving and not having
Brok3nHeart
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Aug 24, 2015
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This is POSSIBLY one of the worst situations to be in. When you have no control over the other person but all they would have to do is say a few words to make all the pain in you're heart go away. What you should do if you're in love with an ex is the most trivial question because at the end of the day who's emotions are on the line? Their you're emotions so do what you think is right regardless of what other people will say about you and regardless of what they will think about you.
DatGuy112
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Nov 27, 2014
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Acknowledge those feeling first and for most. Second understand, weather it forever or if its only for a little bit, you two are not together now for a reason. Give you self time to get right with your self and things will fall into place with or without them.
rayofhope11
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Dec 2, 2014
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Your ex Im sure is an ex for a reason, take a look at the bad times as hard as it may be. Reconnecting with friends or getting out and enjoying a hobby is a great way to try and separate yourself from the situation.
Anonymous
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Oct 26, 2015
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Being in love with an ex is very common but, I try to stay focused on my future. Everything is a learning experience.
kristinshere
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Nov 30, 2014
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Well if he still loves you try and work on things but if he's over you respect that and try to place your mind on other things such as involving yourself in a food drive , volunteering or simply doing things that make you happy to keep your mind off of him/her
Arkelight
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Dec 27, 2014
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There is plenty of research out there to suggest that completely ceasing contact with your EX is one of the best things you can do for yourself, of course it's easier said than done. Giving yourself some time to think about why the relationship ended, and being honest with yourself is good. Find some time with your friends or hobbies and try to enjoy yourself, find talk to talk about what happened but also find time to have other things on your mind. It will be hard, but time is the only real cure to this wound. The actions that you can take in-between decide how long it will take for you to get over your EX.
LittleMissy1994
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Nov 10, 2015
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This is actually a lot more common than people think. You just have to remember that, no matter what happened in said relationship, an ex is always an ex for a reason. Moving on can take time, so go at your own pace. If that includes sitting on the couch and eating ice cream until 3 in the morning, then that is what you do.
juanitod15
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Jun 25, 2019
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Ask if he feels the same way. And what can you do to get another chance, or at the least be friends and work your way up. To make things the way they used to be. Make sure that both of you guys are on the same page, and agree on where to start. Like for starters, listening helps a lot. To make sure for both of you guys to be in a happy and healthy relationship. Another way is to rebuild trust, and be open about everything. Not a secret to be kept, if so how can someone trust one another.
zoeyglee
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Apr 3, 2015
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Surround yourself with friends, and find other people you like. Find those qualities in other people that you're looking for, and give yourself reasons you like them. Then you can begin to get over your ex.
Anonymous
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Apr 4, 2015
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well 1st of all you need to move on... if your ex still cares for brings up good memories well you might give another chance but you need to move on and forget... cause there are alot of fishes in the sea.....(boys not only one)
heavenlySun21
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May 3, 2015
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write him a letter? If you don't tell him will you still be asking yourself this question 6 months or 5 years from now?
beautifulCandy40
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Sep 15, 2015
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Think of why you broke up in the first place and if you are ready to go back and trying to start over with them.
courageousBeauty49
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Nov 2, 2015
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I wish there was a simple answer to this. I think for me, I may always love my ex. Who knows! I try to remind myself that I have a future of my own to look forward to! I try to keep hope that I will meet someone that I love even more! (and that loves me just as much)
Anonymous
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Nov 3, 2015
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i try to meet me other person to forget the old one and try to make my best not to think of him that a my answer