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Why can't I just find someone who will love me for who I am?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 11, 2015
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You can. And you probably already have. The real trick is finding out who they are. Open your eyes to people you never thought about in that way before. Love likes to hide.
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Profile: Drimezan
Drimezan on Aug 30, 2015
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Sometimes people look for love in the wrong places. Other times people search for it too much that the result would be finding someone who is not really meant for them. It has always been my belief that there is a right time for everything. Waiting might be difficult because not everyone wants to wait. But once that person enters your life and accepts you for who you are, you'll be able to say to yourself and to that person "it was all worth the wait". For the mean time, try to establish first who you are in such a way that whether that person is the right one or not, you would not lose yourself and be confused.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 29, 2015
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you will find someone one day. There is someone out there for everyone, the best time they will come along is when you are least expecting it. Just live happy, concentrate on yourself and your life, and you will find it :)
Profile: lovelyLynx18
lovelyLynx18 on Jun 21, 2015
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In my experience, love finds you when you least expect it. So just do what you love and maybe you will find someone who loves the same thing.
Profile: AprilM110
AprilM110 on Nov 23, 2015
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You will. I promise, it takes time. I have dated people who I thought were the one but they ended up breaking my heart. You got to hold on, it takes time, but it will come. I promise!
Profile: Boxqueen
Boxqueen on Apr 5, 2015
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You will, just stay true to yourself and be who you really are. First, love yourself, accept yourself, don't try to be somebody you're not.
Profile: frostyTurtle27
frostyTurtle27 on Apr 5, 2016
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You will eventually find someone who loves you for you, don't change yourself for someone else because that's not who you are and who you are is all that matters. People are loved for mostly their personalities and you will find someone who loves yours.
Profile: lovelybeans
lovelybeans on Aug 29, 2016
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One day, in time you will. You are amazing just some people may not realize that. Just wait and someone will.
Profile: purpletragedy
purpletragedy on Feb 1, 2017
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You will find someone who loves you more than anything, and really cares about you. That person could be anywhere. It might take some time to find them, but give it some time and you will meet some really great people and someday, you will find the person you love the most. It's okay if you feel like you won't find anyone, because you don't know what the future will hold: focus on yourself and the most important things in life for you at the moment. :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 24, 2017
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You will not today or tommorow but you will some day. You just need to wait and good things will happen eventually.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Aug 2, 2016
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Do you love yourself for who you are, if you do then make sure that that person loves you the same way too.
Profile: Funfloor
Funfloor on Apr 25, 2015
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I will just say one thing you are doing great and never stop searching. You will find someone. Trust me.
Profile: aisforawesome524
aisforawesome524 on Nov 21, 2017
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One day you will find that someone and when you do, it'll feel like they've been there all along. They will see the light in you like no one else. The happiness they will bring you will be worth every minute you had to wait. All you have to do is continue to be you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 15, 2016
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Okay, the first step is to love yourself the way you are. That is so important and if you have people around you that care about you... You already found people that loves who you are. If we're talking about relationships,the right one will come.
Profile: ColdWinterNights
ColdWinterNights on Feb 2, 2017
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Truly loving someone is scary. Opening your entire mind and body to someone is difficult for at least both of the people involved. You may be having trouble finding someone willing to open themselves up like that, or not loving yourself. If you're lacking confidence in yourself, try to raise that, and find someone. Loving someone completely also takes time; we can't as people expect to find love on the first swipe.
Profile: Aibrea
Aibrea on Apr 18, 2017
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It may take some time to find someone who will passionately love every aspect of you. The world is big and filled with many different types of people, but don't give up hope. Many people are looking to find someone to love them too.
Profile: holysmokes
holysmokes on Aug 17, 2015
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In middle school, I had this same problem. I felt pressured to look for and find love, but it just wasn't the right time for me. There's someone out there for yoy, you just have to wait.
Profile: Loveheart22
Loveheart22 on Aug 25, 2015
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I want to accept myself. Know who I am and what I stand for. Others will look and desire, and I will give, but still hold.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 30, 2016
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Because probably you spend too much time worrying about whether or not someone will love you for who you are , rather than focusing on on yourself. After all, if you don't love yourself for who you truly are who is ever going to do it?
Profile: Jazgotgoodvibes
Jazgotgoodvibes on Jun 25, 2018
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It can take what seems like forever to find the right person. They often find you when you are not looking. Learn how to love yourself first. Understand that you will never find peace through someone else, because peace comes from learning trust, understanding and love within yourself first.
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