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Is it normal for me to be silent when I get verbally abused?

Profile: Dannus
Dannus on Apr 25, 2015
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Often many will retaliate, however by being silent is a clever technique. This gives the verbal abuser no ammo to use, and the will often get bored. They will want a reaction, and by not giving this to them will help them to stop.
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Profile: Br33zyS3tz
Br33zyS3tz on Aug 31, 2015
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Being silent does not mean that you lack strength, that is for sure; sometimes silence brings peace sand safety, even in the most troubling of times, silence is sometimes a coping mechanism, dont fear silence. As well, verbal abuse is extremely troubling to endure, hence, silence may accompany this kind of behavior or treatment; of course its normal and even okay to be silent; its important to understand and acknowledge your voice, too; never forget that you are powerful and worthy of being treated appropriately.
Profile: joyfulVision77
joyfulVision77 on Dec 1, 2015
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yes it is normal but it doesnt mean that it is right no body should have to go through the pain of feeling like they cant speak up about the abuse
Profile: Remina
Remina on Jul 18, 2016
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Yes. It is normal to be silent when you are getting verbally abused. Sometimes people are abused in any way don't say anything because they are afraid of what might happen if they were to speak up so they don't say anything.
Profile: avphrodite
avphrodite on Apr 13, 2015
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Some people do not say anything back when they are being targeted verbally by another. If someone you know is being mean to you and hurting your feelings, it's important that you speak up or tell someone so that the abuse will stop.
Profile: RayvenNightfall
RayvenNightfall on Jul 27, 2015
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Well i have autism so i dont react very well to loud noises. When your being yelled at it is normal for your body to go into fight and flight mode in which case you remain silent during the episode.
Profile: BookChunky
BookChunky on Apr 27, 2020
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It is absolutely not okay! You need to have confidence and belief in yourself as well as realize you do not deserve to be abused or treated in this way. You have to stand up for yourself in any bullying or abusive situation. If it's happening at school talk to a teacher or counselor and get some help. If it is happening at home talk to your parents or guardian. And if it gets really serious then talk to some authorities and get help to resolve the situation. It is not your fault as long as you don't engage with the abuser and stay safe!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 9, 2015
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It's normal because it's a defense mechanism. You feel that if you don't say anything, the abuse won't last as long.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 24, 2015
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Of course it is normal to be silent when verbally abused. Different people have different responses such as anger, before physical or become silent. It's the body's natural way of dealing with trauma.
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Anonymous on Aug 17, 2015
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Yes. But some people stand up for themselves and be strong, brave and courageous to be able to defend themselves
Profile: Park2015
Park2015 on Oct 27, 2015
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Yes. Being abused take a toll on the human brain. Everyone reacts differently. Staying silent is normal but make sure to go to the cops and speak up at some point.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 17, 2015
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Of course! Majority of victims stay quiet, and this is the abuser's goal. Do not allow people to use their words to hurt you. Physical harm may break your bones, but words scar the soul.
Profile: blazingwolf
blazingwolf on Nov 27, 2015
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Yes because you are smart. You check what are the good outcome of being chaotic, versus the outcome of being calm. So to answer your question you are smart. One thing, though, defend yourself, explain or else they wont respect you at all, and they will continue. So just explain yourself, a simple, clear explanation. If they wont respect you, say ""you dont talk to me like that, please"".
Profile: BatWings89
BatWings89 on Dec 1, 2015
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Being verbally abused is tough. People react very differently and being silent is a normal reaction. It can help to know where this silence comes from - apathy, fear, anger, indifference. That can help you change matters if you want to. Also I would recommend talking to a third person about it, so you're not alone with those negative words.
Profile: dreamNarwhal58
dreamNarwhal58 on Jan 18, 2016
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I personally think being silent is the right thing to do, never ever answer back , never put yourself on their level, let them talk, let them say Bullshit about you or whatever cause silence is the key to be stronger, silence kills them. My only advice is stay strong and ignore everything. Nobody has the right to judge you.
Profile: Littlemisssuzy0
Littlemisssuzy0 on Apr 19, 2016
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Yes, in a way it is because you are being abused in a verbal way. That can frighten you, make you feel embarrassed and insecure. But you don't need to feel ashamed of it, you should think about talking to a professional, to help you more than I can in this situation.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 14, 2016
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Yes and no. The only person that will be able to tell you if it is ok is you. Are you comfortable being quiet when you are being verbally abused?
Profile: VerdictEndgameOver
VerdictEndgameOver on Sep 5, 2016
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Yes, it is. We have different ways of reacting when we get verbally abused. Some of us choose the more aggressive approach of retaliation. Others choose the less aggressive approach of remaining silent. Either way is okay, as long as we know that what the other party is saying does not define us.
Profile: RheanaHazel
RheanaHazel on Apr 24, 2017
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Absolutely :) Being verbally abused has many effects on how victims will express themselves. They have seen the power of words, and that may cause them to not want to speak. Abuse has also lead to introversion, and that causes a lack of expression in oneself. Your silence may not be 100% due to your abuse, however it is definitely a plausible symptom.
Profile: OpenHearted865
OpenHearted865 on Jun 6, 2017
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Absolutely it is normal to be silent when you are being verbally abused. Being the victim of any type of abuse can strip you of your power, dignity, strength and ultimately your ability to speak. You may feel weak and unable to speak, and that's okay, but make sure that you aren't scared into not getting yourself help or out of the situation because you don't deserve to be abused.
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