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Is it normal for people to feel bullied but technically not be? Who decides what bullying really is?

Profile: Narniebre
Narniebre on Mar 2, 2015
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I believe the person who is being hurt decides who is being bullied. As an example, when I was in school, my friends would make fun a the way I dressed. They thought they were just being 'playful', but it really hurt me.
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Profile: TaranWanderer
TaranWanderer on May 2, 2017
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Ultimately, if you feel that you're being bullied, then that's all that matters. Bullying comes in all different types, and all different severities. If the way you're being treated is negatively impacting you and it's without good cause, then that's good enough reason to call it bullying. There's no set boxes that define what bullying is or isn't.
Profile: ItsPreeti
ItsPreeti on May 20, 2015
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Yea, its normal for people to feel bullied but technically not be. Its the self that decides what bullying is really. Bullying means when once you feel harassed and you get affected by those emotions.If you stop thinking about the bully or just the treat the bully as your critic,you would no longer feel bullied. Bullys according to me, are the critics who help you to find your flaws and tell you to correct that,critics are Angels. So, I feel , just change your point of view, you would feel longer bullied
Profile: Cloudberry
Cloudberry on Apr 20, 2015
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Bullying is defined by both the feelings of the bullied and the intentions of the bullies. If someone attempts to bully you and it doesn't affect you, then it'll be short lived. If someone makes a comment with the intention of being funny or sarcastic but not purposefully trying to hurt you, they're not bullying you, and talking about it will usually solve it and get you an apology. If people bully you and you are affected, then it's full blown bullying and action is needed.
Profile: NicholasW
NicholasW on Apr 28, 2015
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No because no one should ever be bullied because of who they are. And bulling really is messed up and should really be stopped because I was bullied lots of times when I was in high school. Hints to why I was kicked out because I was ditching one class.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 29, 2015
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Fun at someone's expense starts to be bullying, when that someone can't laugh about it themselves. Some people feel bullied quicker than others, there's not a fixed line when something becomes bullying. If you feel bullied, perhaps speak to it about a friend and find out what they think.
Profile: awesomeOcean55
awesomeOcean55 on May 21, 2015
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Bullying can take up many forms. Through my personal experience I have learned that bullies sense the most emotional and sensitive among us and start attacking us. Whether they are trying to make you feel worthless by just useing words or they physically attack you - it hurts quite a lot. Nobody can decide what bullying really is. If you feel like someone purpously tries to make you feel bad for no reason - I think then you are being bullied.
Profile: resourcefulCupcake48
resourcefulCupcake48 on May 30, 2015
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There isn't really a set criteria for bullying. Everyone has a different definition of it. Person I feel that bullying is anything where someone is making a joke at your expense but you're not in on the joke. Bullying doesn't have to always be a long-term thing, it can occur short-term too.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 11, 2015
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If you feel bullied, tell a trusted adult. You decide what bullying is. There's no such thing as not being tough enough to handle social pressures. If you feel you're being bullied, you are. An adult can help you take steps to get yoursekf seats from that situation, and resolve it.
Profile: itsfranziskaaaa
itsfranziskaaaa on Nov 3, 2015
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Yes it is fully normal, personally when i was on the basket ball team at my school i was the only 9th grader everyone else was a senior, i was always benched at every game, i thought the coach was bullying me by purposely putting me on the bench just cause i missed one practice. you decided weather its bullying or not then you ask around and you hear opinions on weather its bullying or not,but there is no set person who decides
Profile: DonnyJames
DonnyJames on Nov 23, 2015
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In the adult world, it does not matter who said what, or when, or why, or how... Only how the 'victim' perceived it. So yes, if a person feels bullied, then they are... as long as they are honestly feeling bullied.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 24, 2015
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Bullying is basically a general term for intentionally and purposefully bringing somebody else down & practically ruining their mood. but then again, who decides what 'normal' is? I don't think it's a common thing to feel bullied and technically not to be, but don't be worried! there is always help for you, you've just gotta seek for it; talk to somebody, express yourself and sooner or later, you'll feel better!
Profile: Autson00
Autson00 on Mar 28, 2016
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It is normal to feel bullied if your not. The only now who can really decide what bullying is. The question you could ask yourself is why do you feel bullied?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 5, 2016
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Yes, it is possible. Bullying is a form of degradation where a person is put down. Nobody does, they did.
Profile: Remina
Remina on Aug 15, 2016
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It is normal for people to feel bullied even when it technically is not bullying. They might feel like someone is not treating them how they should be feeling. The person who decides what bullying really is the person feeling bad.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 15, 2016
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Everyone has been mean before, and we all have had our feelings hurt. But, bullying to me is where someone does it for fun, and does it consistently. You decide what bullying is, and no matter what if someone is mean too you, even if it bothers you. Just say, that you don't care what they say, because if its something mean it doesn't matter, and you don't deserve to be hurt because of it.
Profile: Ginieboops
Ginieboops on May 30, 2017
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The victim decides if they're being hurt, and therefore bullied- your response and handling of the bullying depends on of they were making a conscious effort to be hurtful- if someone is making you feel horrible on a regular basis, purposefully or not, something should be done. Make your feelings heard- it could be frequent for people to feel bullied but it is far from normal.
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