Why do people want to bring other person down when no one is perfect?
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Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Updated: Jun 23, 2020
HighHopes25
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Feb 14, 2015
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People do this because they are jealous. They want to bring you down with them into the place where everyone is horrible and ruin your streak. No body is perfect but they think you are, they want to bring you down so that you aren't better than them. Don't let them get to you, they just wish they were you..
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TheCup5893
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Apr 23, 2018
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It probably makes them feel sufficient. Like they're better. Or it could be from the release of all the anger they've been holding from being treated badly. Either way, I don't agree with it. They need help. I've encountered such people and life was hard with them around. I hope this person either changes or you get away from them for your own mental health. :)
laylac09
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Sep 14, 2015
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It can be because they are insecure themselves and feel better when the bring people down. It's not right but that's what people do..
ambershae
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Jun 12, 2015
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I was always told that you have to have something to build your mountain with. In other words, if someone wants to build them self up and feel better about them self, they need to push someone else down to stand on.
colorfulGrace98
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May 14, 2015
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By bring others down they would get a sense of achievement and feel more superior than the ones that they brought down. This makes them feel like they are more 'perfect' than others.
Cariad1234
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Feb 13, 2017
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Often people who aren't where they would like to be become annoyed at themselves when they see others succeeding. Remember that it is not a reflection of you. Perhaps ask them why they feel the need to bring you down and you may even help them identify why they're achieving their goals. Try not to compare your goals and your journey to others.
Engineeringhappiness
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Mar 6, 2018
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because it makes them feel better and more lifted when they bring others down. but you should know your worth! dont allow anyone to discourage you
kindDreamer93
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Aug 21, 2018
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Because people fill themselves with hate and they take things from their own experience and they try to bring others down to make themselves feel better about that however they shouldn't do that and get the help they deserve to grow as a person, sometimes people just do it because that's who they are and they can be full of hatred, however someone can learn from this purely by acknowledging what they've done wrong and try to put it right , people tend to pick out other peoples imperfections when they think they're immune to being imperfect too.
Anonymous
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Jun 22, 2015
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Some people have to lower others confidence to make themselves feel better. They don't have a great self esteem so they put down others to reach there goal
heycrysteezy
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Aug 31, 2015
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My biggest theory is that they either have way too much time on their hands, that they fixate on other people because they're ashamed with their own life.
My next theory, is that they're intimidated by that person.
Power14
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Jul 2, 2018
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Yeah no one is perfect despite of this fact people are running after perfection it makes them do various negative things. Brining other person down is also one of them. People feel if they bring you down they will excel. This is not healthy practice but many people try this.
TheCaretaker
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Aug 22, 2017
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People will bring you down to make them feel better, because you are better than them. Don't let them know that they get to you. There are people out there that care. People will help you. Yes the world may cheat, but that doesn't mean that we can fight back. Believe, and thing will come true.
Anonymous
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Jun 23, 2020
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Hello most of the time there's a reason behind why they're acting like that 1 usually people who bring others down are jealous of the other person, they might say they're better than them but what they say is different than what's on their mind 2 maybe they're subconsciously comparing themselves to the other person 3 they're taking their anger out on that person or they are just really bored and for some twisted reason they're taking it out on others however no confident person would actually bother to bring another person down thank you for reading i hope this was helpful
Anonymous
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Jun 23, 2015
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Some people just don't know how to put themselves in other people's shows. And sometimes, how they apply to people how they see themselves.
PRUNE4BEE
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Aug 24, 2015
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Because they feel horrible about themselves and want their misery to be accompanied. Its nothing personal
WhatTheCupcake2
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Nov 30, 2015
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Because they think seeing someone do worse than themselves will make them feel happy, sadly the opposite is true but that is something the 'people' in question will have to find out on their own and they will one day.
Anonymous
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Jul 26, 2016
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It's all dependent on your perception of a situation. If a person wants to bring you down, you must first find out if their intention is to bring you down and if they want to bring you down...what is their motive?
Anonymous
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Apr 6, 2020
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Sometimes this behavior could mean they are worried themselves or lack self-esteem, or they like to be in control, which means they will bring others down to feel superior themselves. Other times they will do it out of jealousy. Regardless of the reason why they do it, one should know that you've done nothing wrong, and you are not inferior to them. It is good to understand why they behave that way, because it helps you overcome what they do. Sometimes they need professional help themselves, and sometimes they don't even notice what they are doing. Some of them needs good faithful advice and need encouragement and need to be praised for their good behaviour. others are just being mean. Embracing yourself would be your immune system against their behaviour. Good luck!
Anonymous
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Dec 22, 2015
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Some people do it to make themselves feel better. I used to do it based off of me being bullied and a young child.
Anonymous
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Jun 22, 2015
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I think just the people who are unsatisfied with themselves are putting others down. They know exactly that noone is perfect, but maybe the society tell us we have to.