Why is it hard standing up for people that you see are getting bullied?
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Updated: Mar 26, 2019
Heavensent
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Mar 9, 2015
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Because at times you might fear you will become the new victim of bullying. Its really hard to stand up when you know you might get into trouble.
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Anonymous
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Mar 27, 2015
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Some of the biggest things that make it hard for people to stand to a bully or for some one else is are fear. Many fear that they will be made fun of for trying to stand up for someone else.else. Another reason is that they might not know what to do or how to do it, maybe not know what to say
UdiPuppies
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Mar 9, 2015
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Instinctually, it is a flat footed decision that could either lead to your own harm, or risky success. Nowadays, you need to learn to assess the situation. Is it safe for me to act? Will I be able to say the right things to stand up for this person. Then, it's all about taking the initiative to say stop - or tell a peer about the situation as soon as possible.
Soldiersinthestorm1
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Jan 25, 2016
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Out of fear you might get hurt in some way. None of that should matter, we are here to love one another. Always protect your fellow person regardless of the consequences.
thatsoelleee
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Apr 10, 2015
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A lot of people find it hard because they are worried that they will be dragged into it and also be bullied. However, if people are scared of this they can always alert a higher authority to help such as teachers or police.
Anonymous
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May 29, 2015
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It's hard to stand up for people, because you don't want to be the target, and mostly you will get hurt trying, we try to rely on them telling an adult, and if they do and the bully does not stop, thats when we stand up for them, but mostly because we don't want it to cause more issues and us getting hurt trying.
Cheer4Ever
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Jun 23, 2015
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It is hard to stand up about it because you could start being bullied too and no one wants that.
Cosmiclover01
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Dec 29, 2015
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It is difficult because sometimes we have fears that we may be bullied ourselves or create more problems for the person being mistreated. Many people want to say something, just don't because they are afraid.
Anonymous
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Dec 29, 2015
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You may feel like you are going to get bullied by the person that bullied the person that you are trying to stand up for.
Anonymous
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Jan 4, 2016
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1. The fear of being bullied just like the person you are watching
2. The conformity effect (peer pressure) ; no one else is helping so it must be the correct thing to do. When in reality it's not.
SilentSerenityy
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Jan 4, 2016
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Because of the fear you will be bullied too, that you might have made a mistake which could humiliate you or you hope the other person is/can deal with it themselves and if not, they should get help themselves. People often don't want to get involved in other people's business.
compassionateEyes50
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Mar 7, 2016
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Because you are scared you might end up being bullied yourself if you stand up for them. You wanna first protect yourself.
UnknownAngel
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Mar 14, 2016
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Many people are usually afraid to stand up because they may be afraid that it will happen to them that is why.
Anonymous
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Sep 12, 2016
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Because people are scared they'll start nagging you instead. If you see someone who is being bullied, and want to help just image it is your best friend who would do anything for you. That might get you to feel more confident about helping as well.
blueNet
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Dec 19, 2016
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Most times, it's out of fear, in my personal experience. I've been bullied before, and I don't want to possibly subject myself to this treatment if I don't have to.
Sometimes, I start to just try and convince myself that my perception of what I see isn't accurate.
At the end of the day, though, I prefer to ask the person I see getting bullied.
CharmingSoul13
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May 8, 2015
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Possibly it is fear of getting bullied, or gaining a negative reputation with those who are on the same side as the bully.
dreamwithmelovers31
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Jul 21, 2015
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It can be hard as some bullies turn on the person who is standing up for the bullied person. they are afraid that they will become victms themselves
Waterbear
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Aug 3, 2015
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Because you know the bullies might go after you if you do. Also, just confronting someone and telling them they're doing something wrong is hard for most people, even if the person they're confronting is not a bully.
Hopefulfuture95
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Sep 22, 2015
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It is hard because most people are scared that the bullying will be directed at them if they intervene.
WalkinDownRapperBlvd
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Nov 10, 2015
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Cause you don't wanna get bullied for standing. Most people refuse to stand cause of their status in school or work or where ever.