Why is it so hard for me to stand up for myself?
HeyoSarah
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Mar 10, 2015
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I've stood up to my old best friend but she left me without even thinking, and it really hurt. I've always thought about it, but she ignores me and acts like I don't exist. I trusted her with everything, then she turned on me.
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HeyItsEddie
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Nov 20, 2018
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Sometimes standing up for yourself makes you feel like the people you are standing up to will judge or dislike you for 'confronting' them. You might feel insecure about yourself, want people to like you, or not have much confidence in your own values or opinions. However, standing up for yourself actually shows assertiveness, which many people regard as an honourable trait in a person. If they were reasonable people, they would actually respect you for the choice you made to stand up to them.
Standing up to your peers, friends, co-workers, family, you name it - it's all pretty difficult. For whatever reason that you feel it is difficult to stand up for yourself, let me tell you: it is not shameful or rude to do so and, on the contrary, it is, in fact, brave and admirable, and shows you have confidence in yourself.
originalLion57
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Jun 12, 2015
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Some people are shy when it comes to conflicts, drama and confrontation. Confronting someone for treating you badly doesn't always result in drama, but it can happen and therefore makes some people hesitant to do anything when they are in those situations. You could also suffer from low self esteem and find it difficult to stand up to someone who intimidates you, which doesn't make you weak, but could mean you need to work on becoming better at standing up for yourself and not letting people step all over you.
YourAngel22
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May 5, 2015
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Probably because you don't feel confident enough to or have low self-esteem. Working on building your confidence should help you speak up and be able to stand up for yourself in the future :)
usefulStar85
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Mar 10, 2015
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Sounds like you are afraid to speak up, sweetie when you have the chance hold your head high and say nothing and nobody will hold me back
LiveLaughLove3
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Jun 9, 2015
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anxiety the fear of rejection the prussure can somtimes be to much for someone but u have to find it in your self to stand up
compassionateButterfly91
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Nov 10, 2015
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sometimes we feel like we dont want to hurt others feelings or we want to please them so we dont say anything. it takes a lot of courage to stand up for yourself but it feels really good after
Anonymous
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Dec 28, 2015
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Because you are afraid that it is going to get worse so try to stand up for yourself because if you did, your confidence will increase and you will be able to stand up for yourself especially if you are a shy person
BIPartisanPinUpGal
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Jul 24, 2017
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It's hard to stand up for yourself because it requires confidence and so often confidence is something that does not come naturally. It is something that has to be built up over time. It takes practice. The more you stand up for yourself, the easier it gets! You just have to believe that you're worth defending and then defend yourself!
Danielle999
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Oct 9, 2017
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It's hard to stand up for yourself because it requires confidence and so often confidence is something that does not come naturally. It is something that has to be built up over time. It takes practice. The more you stand up for yourself, the easier it gets! You just have to believe that you're worth defending and then defend yourself!
SupportiveSockMonkey
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Apr 24, 2018
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It may be because you have low confidence and self-esteem. If you have been through difficult times this could be why. Just try and believe in yourself and remember you don't deserve to be treated negatively.
magicalListener1
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Sep 20, 2016
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Because you're scared you're going to say the wrong thing, I did that once, it sucked, it really did but I learned from my mistake, just give it a try!
hereforyou22222
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Jan 5, 2021
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Sometimes we feel guilty or selfish when standing up for ourselves, because we care about the people around us and don't want to hurt their feelings. Personally, I have experienced this type of guilt around standing up for myself, so know that you are not alone in feeling this way. It may be helpful to ask yourself why you are feeling this way. It could also be that you don't feel worthy of being stood up for. Only you know the truth of why you feel the way you do, and only you can find it. Sitting with difficult emotions and feelings will help you learn how to overcome them!
