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How can I stop looking at myself negatively?

Profile: PinkElephantL
PinkElephantL on May 13, 2015
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Our self-image is directly tied into the internal running dialogue we tell ourselves. If we have a negative thought pattern or internal dialogue about ourselves and our lives, we will in turn have a negative self-image. The best method to change this image is to start questioning our internal dialogue. When we think and feel negative things about ourselves, we should ask where these thoughts come from. Then we should challenge them by creating positive affirmations that replace these negative thoughts. Finally, we should begin to collect evidence to secure these affirmation in our mind. For example, if I think "I'm unlovable," my first job is to question why I think that. If I then answer back, "I feel like no one loves me and people always mistreat me," my new job is to create a positive dialogue to reverse this thought. My new thought becomes, "I must be loveable, because some people love me and try to treat me well." I now begin to think of people who have been kind to me, even in passing, to reaffirm this thought has truth. Rebuilding our self-image takes time. We will struggle with examples that reaffirm our negative thoughts and we will sometimes feel like we are lying to ourselves when we tell ourselves good things. However, over time, we can build a healthier self-image by building a healthier internal dialogue. Also, the more we focus on these positive thoughts, the more we will find examples to reaffirm them.
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Profile: laylajewelz
laylajewelz on Aug 13, 2018
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Try writing 5 things you love about yourself every day in the morning, and 5 things you did really well that day before bed. Also listen closely to your self talk, it is more criticism than affirmation? What are your interactions with friends and love ones like? Do you play the dozens a lot? Snarky/ depricating humor is trendy but too much could actually start to build insecurity or hurt feelings. Maybe take a vacation from social media, before you take this break take a log of what you are veiwing. Are the images in your daily media reminding you of how great you are or how far you are currently from your personal goals?
Profile: politeLove83
politeLove83 on Feb 14, 2017
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Work on finding inner peace and surrounding yourself with positivity and stop worrying about others opinions
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 13, 2017
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By having enough people tell me, or indicate that i am beautiful on the outside (and in), I'll start to see it myself. But it hoes goes ways, for example if i get a negative comment it'll make me feel worse than the inital comment said about me.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 15, 2018
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Try to think about all your achievements, no matter how minor they seem. Try to engage yourself into something you enjoy doing, like reading, singing, dancing or anything. Don't be afraid of trying, just try to do something you really want to, even it seems crazy, maybe you will get your best experience out of it. Try to develop a sense of pride from something you are good at. Believe in yourself, ignore any criticizing comments and stay positive, prove to them that they are wrong. If you believe in yourself being valuable, then you are truly valuable.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 29, 2019
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Wanting to look at yourself positively is always the first step to success. You can ask other people what one thing they like about you is or what you are good at. Making and having a list of your strengths and positive atributes can be helpful if you feel negative in the future. It is also nice to have something to look back on. You can also feel better about yourself if you know you have done kind things like helping other people. One act of kindness everyday is a good start. Just take small steps at fist and gradually do more helpful things or more important things. Knowing that you are being helpful is always a good pick me up.
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Anonymous on Mar 24, 2015
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stop looking for what you feel is negative. ask your friends or family to write down their favourite features about you then you read one every day okay?
Profile: tmblrsclr
tmblrsclr on Apr 14, 2015
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I personally think you first have to learn that there are things about yourself you will never be able to chance. You will just have to accept them. And you are doing your best by trying to accept yourself. Try it again and again.
Profile: Kohlbee
Kohlbee on Apr 24, 2015
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It's never easy when you're stuck looking at yourself in a negative way, sometimes you can hate yourself for the way you look or act or think. I've been through this, and I think it's important consider the possibility that the way in which you personally see yourself is vastly different from how others see you, and how you really are. As an artist I struggle with being my own worst critic, and it's a good metaphor for this situation to think about how in art when you're creating something, because you're so close to the piece you see every dimple, divot, and flaw in the piece, and it isn't until you step back and see the bigger picture that you can start to appreciate the work you've done. I keep myself motivated when making a piece by keeping my focus on doing exactly what I intend to do, and letting the thoughts about how I think a part of it looks or how much time it took to do just one thing pass through me, as I keep moving until I am finished. I think it's good practice in life too to keep focused on what you're doing with your life, shift the focus for awhile and you will notice that it gets harder to see yourself negatively, and the best part is it's never too late to start a positive cycle.
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Find someone to mentor, and speak affirmations in the mirror. It's great to show yourself a little love by complimenting yourself. Always seems little odd, but the silliness makes it more fun anyways.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 17, 2015
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Any individual is stitched with talents as well as flaws but a better individual lets her talent dominate and tries improving the flaws very positively with constant encouragement
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Anonymous on Aug 3, 2015
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What usually works for me is imagining that I'm someone else. I look at myself and talk to myself as if I were someone else, and that way I'm able to have compassion for myself and not automatically hate myself. I can also appreciate the good parts of myself, because it seems more like they're someone else's.
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Anonymous on Sep 29, 2015
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BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. it sounds like a hard one, but your here today?! there is literally 1.4 trillion chance of you not being born in this world, but your here? you made it on to earth (obviously not your choice) but you are here, make something of yourself, BELIEVE in yourself, whatever you are facing, you can do it.
Profile: LittleLemon96
LittleLemon96 on Oct 27, 2015
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You should go back in past and look for your success, you probably lack of self confidence, so I highly highly recommend you to read this book : The Ultimate Secret Of Total self-confidence for Anthony Robert, It helped me way a lot. You can also read the rules of life for Richard Templer. :)
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Nov 16, 2015
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Start thinking positive about yourself. Before you leave your house everyday say at least 3 things that is positive about yourself.
Profile: Memphis1
Memphis1 on Nov 16, 2015
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You just have to accept that you're an amazing person and smile more :) look for all the positives and focus on them; don't think that there aren't any either! You're a beautiful person who deserves only the best, you're not going to get the best until you realize that you deserve it however
Profile: Lumin0us
Lumin0us on Nov 23, 2015
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Post some positive quotes everywhere in your house telling you all the great things that you have accomplished and make sure you live up to those when you are down!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 2, 2015
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I have an idea. Ask all the people in your life to make a list of all the positive qualities they see in you. Because usually people around you see more in you than you do in yourself. Whenever you are feeling like you aren't worth it, read the list and think about how each person has influenced your life.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 8, 2015
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It will be hard, you need to do little steps. Piece by piece. Trust me you are beautiful and worth it.
Profile: CaringJoy
CaringJoy on Dec 15, 2015
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We can stop looking at ourselves negatively by accepting yourselves for who we are and stop comparing ourselves to others. We can work on building up our self worth and being content with who we are regardless of the circumstances.
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