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How do I love myself when I am depressed?

Profile: Dazz1er
Dazz1er on Aug 25, 2015
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Loving yourself when you're feeling down is something that's hard to do. I go through it most of the time and I've got some tips that could be helpful. 1. Ask for help - don't be afraid to ask someone for help. It makes a huge difference. 2. Take a bubble bath with candles and wear a tiara while you're at it, you might feel silly but you'll have a good laugh after. 3. Get some sunshine! Vitamin D is good because it stimulates your pineal glands which is one part of your brain responsible for sending out happy feelings. 4. Eat dark chocolate - it's yummy and healthy 5. Respect yourself 100% and don't accept anything less from anyone. You're amazing!
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Profile: versatileflower
versatileflower on Jun 13, 2016
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You realize that you deserve to love yourself, and that what you're going through is temporary. You deserve to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Depression is a disease, not a personality trait.
Profile: Ed4freedom
Ed4freedom on Jun 7, 2015
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When I'm depressed I have to force myself to think of others rather than myself. This helps me a lot. By taking my eyes off my issue or problem and help others I feel more love for not only myself but for others.
Profile: Manifestation
Manifestation on Nov 24, 2015
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I would suggest switching terminology, perhaps. Let's call being depressed, being buried. Now, if you can imagine yourself buried as a seed in the womb of earth, you find purpose reason, strength in this position to grow roots. The words we use are very important.
Profile: Lila1993
Lila1993 on Aug 7, 2017
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I think this is the hardest thing to do, because depression will lie to you and try to hide all the good things about you. That's why you must sometime go deep into yourself to find those things. It can be something little, like your smile or your writing style. Once you find that small something, you just hold on to it. Write it down somewhere you can go back to when the depression starts lying to you again.
Profile: ANoviceStoryteller
ANoviceStoryteller on May 31, 2016
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To love yourself when you're depressed is to get help. Depression is like swallowing a candle, especially if you hide it. It may be hidden well at first, but the candle will burn you from the inside out till it leaves you with nothing but ashes to grasp at. To get yourself support for your depression is the first step to truly loving yourself and from there, you learn to love yourself more and more.
Profile: MoonsweptDreams
MoonsweptDreams on May 21, 2017
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Often it's harder to love yourself unconditionally than it is to love others unconditionally. If your best friend was severely depressed, you would love them no matter what. Often I find that it's best to think about how I would feel about another person if they were in my exact situation. When I realize that I would be compassionate, understanding and empathetic with them, then I realize that I should be the same way with myself. It helps me a lot to think that way.
Profile: SecretsForRenee
SecretsForRenee on Apr 3, 2019
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The first thing I identify as being the most important, is getting myself out of bed. In order to be motivated for that, I recognise the first step to loving myself is to feel comfortable in my own skin. I always find that doing something such as making a face mask, applying a hair mask or/& a lip scrub; or anything which makes me look healthier on the outside helps to declutter my negative feelings towards myself a lot and also keeps me busy and builds up the rhythm of things. Next, I either take a relaxing bubble bath with some nice smelling salts to soothe or a hot shower to cleanse myself of all the bad thoughts and feelings I’ve had whilst feeling depressed. I then dress in super comfy clothes and do something I love . This could include reading, listening to music, creating something artistic or even just binging on a few shows ( I find funny ones help here). I also treat myself to a yummy snack! When feeling depressed, just take as many steps as you can to self-care and this should help you attain at least some normalcy in your routine as well as assist you in achieving self-love. 💞
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 17, 2015
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Remember to have some "me" time. When we are depressed or feeling unmotivated it can be easy to forget to treat ourselves every once in awhile. If you make it a point to do some things for yourself ever so often, it can definitely boost your self esteem, and hopefully help you love yourself more. Remember you are valued, worthy, and a beautiful person!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 18, 2015
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Enjoying and exploring yourself at that stage, watching movies can help the mood and see some comedy or read comics something that can make yourself laugh and love yourself by having faith in yourself, build your confidence, self-esteem by doing some activities that you enjoy. Working can be a possibility or something you dream of doing pick those interest or someone whom you love the most spend time with him/her or just do something rather being at home and not do. Be productive..Help someone :) who needs you right now :) i am sure you can do anything you like. Where there is a will there is a way. Not all doors are closed for opportunity there is at least more doors opened for you just you need to use your instinct to know whats right and wrong for you and guide yourself to the path you desire or wanted to :) It's your life :)
Profile: bettereverdaay
bettereverdaay on Nov 3, 2015
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Loving yourself is a hard thing to do, but it is amazing the impacts it has on your well being. Focus on the positive things because those are things that you can use to counteract the bad thoughts! you are mamzng despite what your head may be telling you
Profile: Rosealyn
Rosealyn on Nov 10, 2015
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When I'm having a day when I'm stuck, I find time to color or create art. It really helps remove the feelings I don't want, and be able to distract myself with something else. Finding little hobbies and enjoying those hobbies are a great way to start seeing yourself as a worthy person.
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You can learn to love yourself again by trying to nurture your personality. Try and spend time doing things that you love whether it be drawing, gaming, cooking, walking, nothing, sleeping, cleaning or whatever it may be. By doing these things you will feel more positive for completing something or even the fact you got up a tried. It's only little things a time and you're the best person who can judge how much you are capable of doing.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 20, 2016
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Make a chart of yourself and put in the things you like and dislike about yourself, when you are writing them down act like another person looking at yourself.
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Anonymous on Sep 27, 2016
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It takes time. Learn that you aren't your depression. Learn thay you will grt better over time and thay loving yourself is so exciting and amazing and someday you will experience that.
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Anonymous on Dec 5, 2016
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Talk to yourself like you would a friend. Think about good aspects in your life. If you can't think of any, that's alright! Think about anything that might make you happy, because an important step to loving yourself is being happy yourself.
Profile: Armanta
Armanta on Jan 23, 2017
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Start by thinking about the little things you like about yourself. It may just be your eyes, that little bit of your hair, or even your behaviour towards others, say if you helped someone out the other day by picking up their dropped glove or just smiling at them. Start with the little things you like about yourself then keep building on them.
Profile: AndyDufresne1994
AndyDufresne1994 on Feb 21, 2017
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Personally I start with little little things. Let yourself have a treat you have not had. Go to a movie even if the budget is a little stressed. I act like I am a kid and my mom is letting me get away with murder cause I have the flu. I think if you can get yourself even little tiny sparks of happy times and smiles every bit will help.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 8, 2017
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I hug myself and tell myself "I love you just the way you are and you are going to get through this."
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 13, 2017
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Be gentle with yourself and don't be afraid to let others know what they can do to help. Try to create positive experiences and feelings. Write lists to remind you about things you love about yourself.
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