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Why do people think that I'm depressed to get attention?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 13, 2015
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A lot of people just don't understand depression, and don't know how to react when they meet someone that's clinically depressed. Try not to blame them for their ignorance; it's simply a consequence of the society we live in. Know that here, on 7 Cups, you're in a safe space, filled with people that understand and are willing to take you seriously.
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Profile: AnyaS
AnyaS on Apr 19, 2016
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Some people just don't understand what depression is. They think that we are overreacting. They think that we want attention. I believe that it is a lack of knowledge. If people have not experienced depression, they think that we are making a big deal out of nothing. However, those people are ignorant in regards to depression. They don't know what it's like. This is mainly why I think people tend to think such things. We know what it's like, her on 7 cups. Many of us have experienced depression so know that you are not alone. We are here for you and we know that no one pretends to be depressed for attention. It's a real struggle and you deserve all the help that you can get. We are here for you. We understand you.
Profile: goldenPresence66
goldenPresence66 on Jun 23, 2015
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Why do u care about people , sometimes all u have to do is just mute the whole world and live for yourself you're not born to please people and I hope you find the right person who doesn't judge :)
Profile: Waterbear
Waterbear on Aug 4, 2015
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They don't really think that, they just want to think that because believing you are actually depressed scares or overwhelms them--also, they're probably in the habit of dismissing & invalidating you and if they started taking you seriously now they would have to admit they were wrong the whole time. Essentially, they are lazy cowards.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 11, 2015
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Because they've never been depressed and cannot relate to it at all. Since it is an alien concept to them, the idea of people faking it to get attention is a plausible explanation to them.
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Anonymous on Dec 7, 2015
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That's only because they want you to snap out of your depression. They believe that they are helping you
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 21, 2015
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People suffering from mental health are still poorly understood by people who are unfamiliar with these issues. Depression is a complex problem that invades all sphere of the life of those who suffer from it and it's hard for most people to really understand what goes on into your head. Ignorance is the root of all jugments.
Profile: cellardoor1985
cellardoor1985 on Jun 30, 2015
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the symptoms of depression can manifest themselves in a very external manner and the extra noticeably you are displaying may lead people who do not properly understand the problem to think you are doing it for attention.
Profile: temporarycarla
temporarycarla on Jan 25, 2016
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Because they are not depressed and they don't understand you. It really amazes them the fact that you're revealing you're sad because people use to pretend they're always happy. Being sad is normal. If you feel like crying, do it, you have feelings. Ask for help and advice and you will feel better. I'm always here!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 11, 2016
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Because people don't know what it's like. They only see the fake parts of you that you can muster. They can't know what you're going through. So they make an excuse. They tell themselves that it's just for attention because they've never had heart-wrenching depression.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 12, 2016
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Because some time they see this outgoing person and have issues of their own so it's easier for them to put some one else down then face their issues.
Profile: ESL
ESL on Jun 7, 2016
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In my experience, it can sometimes be because we DO need attention, and needing attention should never be seen as a bad thing. We all need attention, care, and support in order to cope effectively with our emotions, especially when we are dealing with something as difficult as depression. Alternatively, it may be because of the stigma surrounding mental health issues, or because of a misunderstanding on the part of those who imagine you're seeking their attention. They may also have their own issues that they're dealing with which cause them to lash out at you unnecessarily. Whatever the reason, please know that this is definitely not a "you" problem! This is someone else's problem.
Profile: HappyPlaces
HappyPlaces on May 28, 2015
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Some people might have issues with the idea of things like that. Especially with people on the internet and in their weird "Cool kids trends" that involve pretending to have mental issues that make people perceive different veiws.
Profile: HopeXoxo
HopeXoxo on Dec 22, 2015
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Because they are uneducated about depression. I think a lot of people are afraid of depression as well, so they aren't sure how to respond.
Profile: Nithou
Nithou on Dec 29, 2015
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Most of the people don't understand depression, and it's a difficult thing to talk about, they are not really judging you, it's just something you don't understand when you're not going through it. Just acknowledge that they might misunderstand you and what you're going through.
Profile: DiamonddogLikesNutella
DiamonddogLikesNutella on May 30, 2016
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There are lots of negative connotations associated with depression, such as attention-seeking. This is due to some people being uneducated and not understanding depression for what it is. Usually these people have only seen social media where people have uploaded pictures of their scars or dramatic paragraphs where they romanticise mental illness, which leads them to believe that this is what everyone suffering from depression is like, rather than the minority.
Profile: campfiremarshmallows27
campfiremarshmallows27 on Aug 15, 2016
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Sadly there is a minority of people in the world who pretend to have a mental disorder to gain attention which can cause even more stigma against depression and the people who struggle with it. The best way to deal with it is to explain to these people that you have genuine struggles with it and need support.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 19, 2016
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A lot of people who think people who say they have depression are asking for attention because they do not understand it themselves. They do not realize that it is a disease that should not be taken lightly.
Profile: Jacko2304
Jacko2304 on Feb 19, 2018
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Some people may not understand depression so they think you are doing it for attention. Some people are just awful though. It helps to ignore those people and focus on the people that really care.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 21, 2015
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When people don't understand they make up excuses to account for people's behaviour. Sadly this is one thing they assume which is WRONG!
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