How can I tell my mother I'm pregnant?
MoonlitHaze
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Apr 29, 2016
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I honestly don't think there is an obvious wrong or right way to do it. Either way, (also depending on your age) it's going to be a surprise. If you are a minor or relatively young I would just start out with "Mom, I really need to talk to you about something, and please know that this is not an easy thing for me to tell you, but you're my mom and if I can't go to you about this, then who?" Make her feel like you're telling her because you trust her and want her help and support. Don't go about it in a "This is my life, my choices. Like it or not." (unless you are an adult of course) Make her feel like you need her. If you're scared don't be afraid to let her know that. It will make her want to comfort you rather than make you feel worse. (Of course this varies on person to person, depending on both of you and your relationship) Ask her for tips. Options. Anything. If she flips out or is just plain shocked and can't talk to her, understand the position she is in too. Give her time to accept it and work through her first feelings. You can even say, "Mom, I know this might be shocking and we can talk more about this later if you want, but, I'm pregnant, and I just felt like thats something I shouldnt keep from you." If she flat out groans and walks away, then leave it at that. At least she knows, and eventually she will probably talk to you about it another time, probably with something like, "So, what are you going to do?" Or, "Who is the father?" Be prepared because chances are you will get a buttload of questions, so start thinking of some answers.
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Anonymous
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May 1, 2016
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Wow, there is a lot of advice here and you probably don't need any more. I'll just tell you what happened when my daughter faced that situation. She was date raped and decided she couldn't possibly carry to term. She assumed that I would not agree with her decision , but she had the courage to tell me anyway. When I had that happen to me a very lone time ago, I couldn't tell my mother- or anyone. I was proud to be the kind of mother that accepted her choice and supported her 100 %. But back to how she "broke the news" - She said, Mom can we take a walk? I know it was something serious, but I think the "walking" helped us both. We didn't have to constantly look each other in the eye during the conversation, and the movement helped to keep us breathing! When we got back home, we had set upon a plan, and I'll always be grateful that she trusted me- I feel your mom will too- even though I don't know her or your relationship. I'm just sharing my own experience. Wishing you all well.
JustMeAndYou
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Jan 14, 2016
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You have to reach acceptance with who you are and your current situation, make sure you are comfortable and in good spirits with your mother before you break the news. Be open with her, she raised you from the very start and she'll be invaluable to helping you do the same! Be aware that everyone would be nervous to tell their parents but through grace and patience you will tell her when the time is right :)
Truckerwife08
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Jan 22, 2016
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Shell eventually find out. Sometimes its best to just tell her. Even if it hurts her or even yalls relationship.
Anonymous
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Jan 28, 2016
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Sit her down and tell her in a calm manner that your pregnant or if your not comfortable with that maybe try writing her a letter
Mia7077Soul
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Mar 25, 2016
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Take her to a place she feels comfortable in , do the things she likes you to do all day , and try telling her over dinner with quite and calm voice.
Anonymous
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Jul 6, 2016
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Nothing can work better than face to face confrontation. Never do it in a letter or text, words on a screen or paper can never express emotion.
Anonymous
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Jan 22, 2016
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jus take her to a better place where she like and explain the situation calmy and then explain your story
MisterHarry77
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Feb 21, 2016
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Tell her that you have to tell her something extremely important and then surprise the shit out of her!
Anonymous
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Jun 2, 2016
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I thought that I at one point I was pregnant. Being a freshman in college, I knew for a fact my mom would find this inexcusable, as sex before marriage is not acceptable in my family. Although I took the test and found out I was actually not pregnant, my mom didn't believe it quite yet. After a couple days, she told me if you're pregnant we need to know, so we can prepare for this. Hearing that come out of her mouth was the greatest feeling ever, had I been pregnant she would have been a great support system, with this being something un planned. . She had compassion in her voice, as she spoke those words. You may be surprised by the response that you're mother may entail. You need to simply tell her and ask her to be that support system you need. If you're mother truly loves you; which I'm sure she does; she will be there for you through it all.
WindMelody
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Jan 22, 2016
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Approach her when she is calm and tell her you need her help and someone to talk to. When you'll tell her, I'm sure she won't deny to help you dealing with this. Remember that she loves you.
Anonymous
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Jan 24, 2016
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Calm down and be confident. Then tell her and try to calm her down if she freaks out. Things will be fine
MirandaR19
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Jan 28, 2016
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Inform your mother that you need to talk to her, set up a time. When its time to talk insure that your mother is ready to listen. Disclose the information and work together to insure that both you and your mothers needs have been addressed. If you need support you may ask someone to be part of the conversation
Greatlistener87
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Feb 3, 2016
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Just be honest and tell her how you are going to handle the situation and what is your decision on the pregnancy.
Anonymous
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Feb 3, 2016
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Just have a private conversation with her, and tell her, she is your mother so she will totally understand you and the situation you are in so don't be afraid, just tell her
Anonymous
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Feb 4, 2016
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If you're scared that she's going to be upset, maybe its better to write her a letter and be out of the house when she reads it. That way she knows, but she has time for it to sink in?
Theleavesinmay
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Feb 7, 2016
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Oh wow, doozy love. I reccomend sitting her down and saying 'I'm really afraid of how you're going to react, but I need to tell you something. ' and just lead into what happened before you tell her because you don't want to give your poor mother a heart attack. Honesty is best policy, and I would tell her sooner than later.
Anonymous
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Feb 7, 2016
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To keep her and you from getting into a compromising position, sit her down while you and her both have the time to talk (it make take awhile for the news to soak in). After you tell her, give her time and let her say what she feels she needs to say.
sweety17
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Feb 13, 2016
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be calm !
everthing hax solution .. just tell her about the whole scene
she definitely will understand the situation
Anonymous
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Feb 13, 2016
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Be honest.. tell her you need to talk to her and just be honest. Honesty is the best things in these types of problems!