How to stop hating your mother in law?

Distance your self . Don't stand or stay around people that you do not care for . That's your mother n law . You don't really have to talk to her do you ? NO! . So keep your self away from her and tell her to keep her self away from you .

First, accept the negative evaluation you have for her without judgment. Next, accept her for who she is understanding that she is likely a 'victim' of cultural shaping. If she knew how, she'd run a better psychology. Feel empathy for her, realize she hasn't been able to overcome the problems of life, instead she's internalized them and they've become her.

Your mother in law is not your concern . Don't waste your energies on her . Try to ignore her as much you can

She may be bothersome or maybe even mean, but do your best to realize that everyone needs to be loved. Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. The ones you hate could very well teach you more than you think.

By ignoring her acts you hate because there is nothing you can do to change a person but you can definitly change the way it bothers you

To stop hating someone you must realize hating is pointless and you only harm yourself. Mostly It’s our interpretation of other people’s actions that makes us hate them. We cause our own hate. Then think about the positives for example she created and raised your spouse. Lastly remember all us humans have pain and suffering, and work on developing compassion for the issue she may have in her life. Hate and anger are our most toxic emotions.

see her as a person who has a reason why she behaves the way she behaves. I took her son away, so she feels lonely and angry, yet on the other hand she does many things unconsciously and not on purpose. There are many good things about her too

Start realizing that she is the woman that raised the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Slowly, you'll see the reasons why she is loved by your spouse, and slowly, you'll love her as your mother as well.

Ah, this is a great question. Personally, I have a great relationship with my mum in law, but things have not always been easy. There is always some understandable friction between two women who want to feel like the most important person in the same man's life. However, what has been really important for me, is to realise that my mum in law, is the singular most important reason that I found my soul mate and everything I wanted in a man. My husband is a wonderful human being, and I think his mom played an important role in raising him to be so. More importantly, I realised that we both want the same thing, which is to love and cherish her son/ my man and to keep him as happy as he deserves :) I can fully understand that it must be difficult for her to watch her little baby boy create his own family and reorient his priorities from her. That must be a lot to come to terms with. Therefore, I try to treat her with the same understanding and empathy that I hope my future daughter in law will find me deserving of. And in doing so, I realised that when you are open and love them unconditionally, they return the same affection manifold :) I am eternally grateful to her and love my mum in law! Share if you do too :)

We're supposed to be happy if let's say your dad in this case is, right? I really don't think there is a way to instantly stop hating a mother in law, but we need to know that they're good enough for our dads, so they're surely good enough for us. We should be happy for each other, even if that means putting them first and our emotions to the side. Try to build a relationship, try to put your dislike of them to the side.

It's sometimes difficult to be in relationship with your spouses parents or siblings, like the Fockers movies, there is a circle of trust. If you feel like she dislikes you can you share a situation where you particularly felt it?

There must be a reason that you are holding on to as to why you hate her. Find a way to deal with that reason, forgive her and move forward.

Set boundaries. Try to focus on what you love about your spouse and know that your mother in law had some part in contributing to this part of your spouse that you love. Remain civil and polite, you are not married to your mother in law just their child. Make sure your spouse understands that you don’t appreciate spur of the moment events of any kind. Spur of the moment events leave you unprepared which is never fun. Take the reigns and set time limits. For example, let’s plan to stay for two hours max. Again! Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.

My husband, and I have been together for 15 1/2 years. I’ve honestly found it pretty much impossible to relate to my MIL. It’s also important to know that some people are just miserable, and toxic. It’s frustrating to me, because she now lives with us, because she refused to get a job. Her mother took care of her, and when her mother passed. It somehow became our responsibility. This is a woman who for the first 5 years called me every name, but my own, “Karen, Susan, Hey Girl” My daughter is 16. This woman doesn’t even view my daughter as her granddaughter!. She completely refused to help me when I needed it, while my husband was over seas with the military. I’ve tried so hard to let it go, but I hold a lot of resentment towards her. Especially now that we’re responsible for everything involving her. It’s not easy to keep giving, and giving to someone who wouldn’t even spat on you if you were on fire. My husband is completely on my side, but I also understand that it’s his mother. She’s controlling, invasive, and has completely rearranged, and taken over my entire house. Yes if it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t have my husband, but in no way shape or form does anyone have to continue to respect someone that doesn’t respect you.

Now this one can be tricky, but I believe there is a way. I had this same problem. I just tried my hardest to ignore all of her faults and flaws and focused on her good features. I quit thinking about her complaining about how my hair 'was too flat' and started thinking about how good she can cook. I found this to work very well. Good luck though, this my not work for everybody.

If you really dislike someone, it's often hard to stop disliking them. Showing them kindness often reciprocates kindness though, and your best bet may simply be being nice to her.

Try to get to know her. Find something you have in common and make a point to do that with her every once in a while. You'll be able to bond while doing something you love so it won't seem as bad.

Sit down with her and have a heart to heart talk. There is nothing that cannot be solved by talking.

Take her out for dinner and ask her questions like what was your childhood like and questions that will better help you understand her.