What do I do when my husband ignores me?
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Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Updated: May 11, 2022
Anonymous
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May 28, 2016
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When your husband ignores you, no matter if it’s all the time or just after arguments, he is trying to avoid and run away from a problem instead of dealing with it and solving it. Making your husband stop ignoring you is all about communication. The key to getting a man to listen to what you say and open up to you is to understand HIM before you talk about YOU. When you do that (talking about his needs first), you’ll get it back ten times over. He will instantly cater to your needs, without any resistance.
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Anonymous
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Aug 11, 2016
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It depends what you do about it now. Men are not much emotional so find way to self soothe you. Get passionate about something to keep busy or call friend. And see how your husband will respond
D0wn2earth
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Aug 11, 2016
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Find something better to do. Make your self happy while he's not around. A mans should never ignore a woman. He needs to treat you like his queen.
JoyfulDreamer13
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Jul 14, 2016
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Some people don't realize how much being ignored hurts. Talk to him and tell him it hurts you that he does that and ask him to talk to you and if you don't talk about problems they won't go away.
Anonymous
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May 1, 2016
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Try and ignore him too or tell him how you feel threaten him you will leave. Be calm and assertive its his loss not yours
ItsAlyssa
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Jul 28, 2016
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Talk to him and if he ignores you then move on because it means you are more mauture than he is.
Candid0211
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Apr 12, 2016
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If you feel your husband ignores you then try and ask yourself why do you feel so. Chances are if you go deep in the root of why you feel this way, you will also be able to find out the solution on how to address the same.
Anonymous
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Apr 5, 2017
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When ignored by my spouse, if the marriage is still somewhat supportive, it is important for me to understand why I'm being ignored? What was it that I could have done? Did I have a part to play in becoming shunned by my spouse? How can I make things right? Or, if my spouse has ignored me repeatedly, despite attempts to reconcile, it is important to focus on doing the next right thing for your children, your family, and yourself.
Anonymous
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Jul 8, 2016
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Confront him about it, Express your feelings to him, its the best thing you can do if you want to find a way to solve this.
PoliteOcean
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Jun 2, 2016
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This can be a very challenging situation. Nobody wants to be ignored or be made to feel like they or being ignored. It can lead to all sorts of feelings within oneself as well as problems with the relationship. If you are in any relationship, one of the biggest things is "Communicating" with each other. Communication is key. You need to be honest with your spouse and how you are feeling. Otherwise they will have no way of knowing how you are truly feeling. If you feel that even after communicating that you are still having issues, it might be best to seek outside help or resources. (Such as counseling, therapy, support groups, or even spiritual guidance) to help you both connect and continue to move forward in communicating better with each other.
InnocentFairy89
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Jul 9, 2016
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Try to be upfront about it and talk to him. When talking to him try not be rude. Make him feel you are being understanding. Be open and make him feel nice so he can open up to you. Confined in him so he can confined back. Be patient give him time and space
Anonymous
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Apr 20, 2016
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That's always a not so pleasant feeling when someone you love is not paying you attention when you speak to them. first ask yourself what your doing as we can address that first. do you get his attention. do you wait for him to start something then talk.
Next time you try talking to him try this.
Honey do you have a minute i want to run something by you? if he don't respond to that . send him a text message if he don't respond to that. be the squeaky wheel. and ask him all day every chance to speak to you.
also i find it important to share how you feel when your ignored. don't say you hurt me when you ingore me.
say when i'm ignored i feel ____ this way your not pointing fingers he can do that on his own.
good luck!
Listener201
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Jun 26, 2016
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Just give him some space maybe he has alot going on..And maybe after alittle bit ask him what's bothering him so they you both and find a solution together♡
Anonymous
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May 28, 2016
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Try to explain to him how you feel, and how it makes you feel when he ignores you. It's not ok for your spouse to ignore you.
YouMeanToMe30
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Apr 28, 2016
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You should sincerely talk to him about it that. telling him that what you feel about being ignored by him.
Anonymous
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Jun 11, 2016
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Switch off the TV in the middle of his favourite game and announce that you are no longer cooking.... I'm joking :) When your husband isn't ignoring you explain to him that you appreciate him and you want to improve communicaton. Hold weekly meetings at a set time to sit down and discuss areas that both you and your husband can work on or areas you're doing well.
blitheSun94
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Jul 15, 2016
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This has been a struggle close to my own heart. When I feel ignored by my husband it makes me incredibly unhappy. I feel invalidated and disrespected. Ultimately, I feel my needs are not being met and have even been guilty of second guessing the whole marriage. The most important thing here is to try various forms of communication. Maybe your words are incorrect, or your delivery is all wrong. This has been so difficult for me personally because I feel as though I HAVE communicated in all the mature ways an adult can do so, and STILL see none of the action or proactivity I expect from my partner. When in doubt, it also helps to get a third opinion.
Anonymous
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Oct 7, 2016
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Do you feel lonely? Maybe ignored? Maybe he's had a bad day. Confront him or your friends on this. Trust is important in a relationship.
Lovernature24
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Jun 10, 2016
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Cook special menus for him..specially ones he love.try to stay calm and active too
..just say what he wants
RINM1230
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Oct 13, 2017
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If you feel your husband is ignoring you, give him time, maybe he has a lot on his plate. Your other option could be to talk to him and let him know how you feel. If you talk to him about it make sure it is a good time for both of you to talk. Turning it into segments where you talk about it here and there may put strain on both of you.
