Am I bisexual or am I lesbian?
Anonymous
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Dec 16, 2014
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Only you can know the answer to that. Both labels define sexual attraction, which is a pull toward a particular person in which you feel you want to partake in sexual activities with them. If you identify as female and you feel sexual attraction only toward other female-identifying people, then lesbian might be the right label for you. However, if you, as any gender, feel sexual attraction toward two or more genders, then bisexual might be more appropriate.
There are also many other labels that may suit you, such as polysexual (sexual attraction to multiple genders), pansexual (sexual attraction to all genders), asexual (sexual attraction to no genders), or even more specific ones like gray-asexual (sexual attraction in rare, fleeting, or confusing instances) and demisexual (sexual attraction only toward those you've developed a strong emotional bond with). AND they can even be combined -- like demihomosexual (sexual attraction toward those of the same gender you've developed a strong emotional bond with).
Sexual attraction isn't the only attraction, either. Perhaps you feel romantic attraction to two genders, but sexual attraction only to other women? Then biromantic homosexual might be the most accurate label. It's a lot of information, and can be overwhelming and confusing. There are a ton of labels out there, because there are so many different people all feeling different things. The good news is, you don't need a label if you don't want one, you don't need to decide on one ASAP, and you can even change your mind in the future if you start to feel differently or discover a label that better suits how you feel. There are even two labels for "I have no idea / this is all confusing" -- wtfsexual and quoisexual. Just remember -- if you feel it, it is valid, even if there isn't a label for it. Labels are made to fit people, people do not fit labels.
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Fallingfonder
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Dec 16, 2014
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If you like men as well as women you are bisexual. As a lesbian you can find men to be attractive but not have any motives other than friendship with them.
strawberryblonde4315
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Jun 7, 2016
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That is truly up too you. Some girls may say they're bisexual when in reality they are a lesbian. Some say they're bisexual when they are too afraid to come out while others are actually bisexual. It becomes complicated when you're trying to discover your sexuality. In the end it all comes down to you and how you feel.
ChaiChelsea
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Dec 28, 2014
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Sexuality is often not as simple as labels can make things seem. You can look up a Kinsey score test online and see where your result falls -- although it is a bit outdated in terms of gender identities, it can help you think about your sexuality. You can ask yourself about any past relationships and experiences. Which gender (or genders) were you most comfortable with, which do you fantasize about the most? You can also think about the people you find yourself having crushes on or thinking of most often. Do you notice a pattern towards only those who are female/female-identified or do you seem to have an equal amount with those male-identified as well, or somewhere in between? You may also be bisexual but with a slight preference towards females, etc. Know what a big step in self-awareness and discovery it is to be asking yourself these questions!
nualalibby
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Apr 4, 2015
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I think I am Bi cause when I think of girls nude I get horny and when I think of guys I get horny
Anonymous
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Dec 29, 2014
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That depends on how you feel. If you are sexually attracted to girls as well as guys, you are bisexual. If girls are the only ones you are sexually attracted to and you're not sexually attractive to any guys, you are lesbian.
Anonymous
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Jan 3, 2015
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Bisexuality is the sexual attraction to all genders on the spectrum, Lesbianism is romantic and sexual attraction to women, solely. With finding your sexuality and becoming comfortable with whatever you wish to label yourself, or not, you will figure this out :)
Anonymous
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Mar 29, 2016
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If you like boys and girls either romantically or sexually, you are bisexual. If you don't like boys romantically or sexually at all, then you'ew lesbian. Honestly, you won't figure it out in one day because it's easier said then done. Best of luck for figuring out your sexuality :)
Erynn
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Dec 16, 2014
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Only you can answer that! But, it may help to know that bisexuality is a spectrum. It can include people who are mostly attracted to the same gender and sort of attracted to other gender(s), people who are mostly attracted to another gender(s) and sort of attracted to the same gender, and people who are equally attracted to both! So, if you want to identify as a lesbian, you can. If you would like to identify as a bisexual, you can! It's YOUR identity, and only YOU can choose the right sexual identity for yourself.
Anonymous
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Dec 16, 2014
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That is really a question that you have to answer yourself. You know you better than anyone else. Just look at yourself and choose what you're comfortable with.
Nikimae42
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Oct 3, 2017
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I struggled with this question at first. However, I have finally come to terms that to me the labels are not important and do not define how I feel. I have also accepted it is okay to not be for sure and to explore yourself and what is true to you. Sexuality is a difficult thing to express into a label, especially for myself, so I try to keep an open mind and just try to better understand myself every day. In the end, the label is not as important as you understanding what feels right for you.
MonBon
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Apr 30, 2018
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That depends entirely on you! If you experience attraction to only girls/women and you are a girl/woman, then you are probably lesbian. If you experience attraction to girl/women *and* others as well, then you are probably bisexual. Sexuality is fluid, so don't be nervous if you find this changing over time :)
wallflowermusic98
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Dec 15, 2014
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If you like guys AND girls, you are bisexual. But, if you are a girl and like girls only, you are lesbian.
Anonymous
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Dec 16, 2014
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If you're bisexual, you are sexually and romantically attracted to both males and females. If you're lesbian, you're only attracted sexually and romantically to women. For several years, I thought that I was bisexual, but a couple years ago, I realized that I was lesbian. It's a confusing thing!
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2015
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If you still experience attraction to men, you're bisexual, if you're only attracted to women, you're lesbian. Bisexuality is a valid sexuality.
Joey5
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May 9, 2015
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There's no reason to rush to label yourself. The only one who gets to decide whether you're bisexual or lesbian is you! Stay fluid for now and explore your sexuality, both are great. Label yourself when you're comfortable with it and remember that there is no rigid definition for either label, YOU get to decide what you identify most with and you're allowed to have as many exceptions as you like. If at all identify with a label that makes you feel most confident and secure :)
Anonymous
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Jun 18, 2015
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What do you think you are? You are how you feel. If you feel as if you love women, then you may be a lesbian.. But, you may be bisexual if you are able to love men the same way. But, you could also be a pan sexual. Which is a non discriminatory way to love.
Baleighbugg
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Aug 11, 2015
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Only you can know for sure. Being bisexual means being interested in both men and women, whereas being a lesbian means being interested in just women.
Anonymous
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Sep 21, 2015
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You gotta know what you feel about boys to see what you are in this case. Being bisexual doesn't mean liking girls 50% and boys 50%. You can be an homoflexible too!
Anonymous
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Oct 13, 2015
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Being bisexual is having an attraction to both genders. Being a lesbian is being attracted to just females only.