Does not coming out as bisexual mean that I'm ashamed of it even though I don't think I feel that way?
bubblegumForest98
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Sep 14, 2015
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Not necessarily! Some people find that in their current time of life (for example, if they're already in a committed relationship with someone and aren't looking for anything), it simply isn't relevant information to anyone they know whether they are bisexual. This is a healthy way to feel and does not necessarily mean that you are ashamed.
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Anonymous
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Dec 3, 2015
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No! Coming out is not something that can reliably used as a tool to measure how proud a person is about his sexuality. Many times, despite being very sure about your gender identity you have to keep it to yourself. Reasons can be many, from a conservative background to family and friends who just might not be ready to take you as you are. Some people simply wait because they aint yet sure about what they want or like and want to wait till they are really sure. Its completely okay if you dont want to come out now or never. Sexuality is private matter.
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Anonymous
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Feb 24, 2015
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Of course it doesn't! You should only come out if you believe it's in your best interest to do so. If you're comfortable with yourself, in the end that's all that matters.
Truthfulmusings
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Nov 30, 2015
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No it doesn't. There are various factors that affect this choice- family, your society, your job, the law of the land etc. And sometimes being practical is of utmost importance. As long as you found someone to be happy with and you are happy with that person, nothing else really matters.
melodyowl130
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Apr 3, 2015
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No! It's completely okay - you do not have to come out as a bisexual in order to be valid. Whatever you say your orientation is, your orientation is.
Waterbear
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Aug 4, 2015
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No, it could just mean you don't think it's safe and comfortable for you to come out in this place and time.
OrangeLover
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Dec 29, 2015
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It doesn't. Your feelings matter, and if you aren't ashamed of it, then you aren't. Coming out is a choice, not a burden. Remember that :)
Aayla
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May 21, 2019
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Coming out is something extremely personal. You are totally free to decide if, when and to whom you want to come out. There's no universal rule, and there may be hundreds of reasons for your decision, all equally valid. Maybe you just don't feel ready or you don't think it's the best moment, and it doesn't mean you're ashamed of you are. And of course, you can always change your mind whenever you want, when you'll feel like coming out will benefit you more than not doing it. But your bisexual pride does not depend on coming out.
Anonymous
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Feb 24, 2015
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No, that is not true at all. You don't have to come out to anyone you are not comfortable coming out to. If you are unsure of your sexual orientation, you could think about it more. Even if you are bisexual, you do not need to come out as bisexual if you are not comfortable doing that.
Anonymous
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Apr 10, 2015
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Not necessarily. It could be because you are afraid of the reactions people may have. There are a lot of homophobes in the world, and knowing that prevents so è people from coming out. You can completely embrace it and not tell anybody. When you do decide to come out, I'd recommend bringing the topic up to your friends/family, and making sure they're okay with it, then telling them. I told my my friends first.
bethdoeslife
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Apr 18, 2015
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Definitely not! You can be happy with who you are without feeling the need to share it with other people, just be who you want to be and tell people what you want them to know! You don't have to tell someone if your straight so why tell them if your not, it's entirely up to you who you want to tell and why :)
Luckyozinse
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Apr 25, 2015
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Not necessarily. Everyone coming out journey is specific to them. Maybe circumstances are not right in their environment and they cannot safely come out, or maybe they just decided that it's not time.
colorfulButton72
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Jul 6, 2015
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Everyone processes things differently. I do not think it means you are ashamed but afraid of what others will think. Fortunately, today the LGBT community has so many resources available to them
Anonymous
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Jul 28, 2015
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No! It just means that you are not comfortable in the environment you live in to let people know about a personal part of you.
DonnieHarth
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Nov 23, 2015
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No, it does not. Although, it would be healthy to come out eventually, it could be a number of things. If could be you are not, or do not think your family is prepared, it could be a sense of fear or rejection, it could be you're not too sure and don't want to falsely identify yourself until you're positive. There are many reasons, and even as feeling ashamed could be one, that does not mean it is your case.
Anonymous
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Mar 28, 2016
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Of course not. Don't be ashamed- there is a huge community of people waiting to accept you. There are many other reasons people chose not to come out.
XxXShoulderXxX
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Jun 7, 2016
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Not coming out can be a sensible move, if you are living in a situation where you are not comfortable coming out the family members etc... you shouldn't feel guilty for taking your time,- Best wishes :)
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peacefultree99
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Jul 18, 2016
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Not at all! If you aren't ashamed, than you aren't ashamed; no need to read into it any further. Some people never "come out", others are out and proud 24/7. It is all about what You are comfortable with!
Anonymous
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Oct 4, 2016
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You don't have to come out. It's your personal life. You have no obligation to share it if you simply don't feel like doing it, or view it's a bad idea.
ZeddMikuMCR
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Oct 10, 2016
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No, definitely not! You don't have to come out coming out isn't an obligation and it's definitely not something that makes you less bi, or ashamed of who you are. Just embrace who you are, regardless if you tell others or not.