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I can't tell whether or not I am attracted to anyone, romantically or sexually. How do I find this out?

Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Nov 11, 2019
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You can try to analyze your feelings and sensations about boys and girls, maybe try to imagine yourself with different people in sexual and romantic contexts and be honest with yourself about how that makes you feel. Your emotional and physical responses to these fantasies will give you a hint of your orientation. Also, remember that some people have a lower sexual or romantic drive than others, but it doesn't necessarily mean they're asexual/aromantic.
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Profile: rationalKiwi5780
rationalKiwi5780 on Nov 14, 2019
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This depends on how old you are. Until you are through puberty, you cannot know any of these things for sure. If you are past puberty completely, then if you have not been specifically attracted to anyone, then you may be aro ace. If you have been, then you are not. If you are not past puberty, then all you can do is wait. You may think you know, but you can’t make definitive statements. I don’t really know how to make this fully fit the word count, so the rest of this answer is to fill that in completely.
Profile: 0OOXOO0z
0OOXOO0z on May 10, 2022
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Do lots of research. The way that I found out was through seeing other people's experiences online about their sexuality and their journey; there are so many aromatic and asexual humans out there. Another thing I would suggest is to take in how you are feeling, whether it's mindfulness or simply writing. Sometimes it's great to have something written down, so you can later reflect on or take notice of. Lastly, I would like to remind anyone who is reading this, to never feel in a rush to label themselves anything. It's your own personal journey. I wish you all the best!
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