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If someone is angry at me, should we talk it out at that moment or wait until they are not angry anymore?

Profile: thetruepixie
thetruepixie on Apr 4, 2015
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If I were you I would wait a day or two to let the tempers cool down a bit. Try to collect objective arguments to clear up the initial argument you've had. Try to approach the other person in a calm and friendly way, to prepare a good and structured talk.
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Profile: lovelyOcean15
lovelyOcean15 on Aug 4, 2015
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To me, I would let both of us calm down first, then we will talk and solve the problem. Because when people is angry, he/she may speak something too fast that may hurt people.
Profile: nothingisimpossible
nothingisimpossible on Apr 23, 2015
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Anger is very unctrollable emotion. It is one of the strongest " emotions" we humans can get. If someone is angry at You, and they don't know how to control their anger and calm down, It is good to let them to calm down by themselves for a while, and then talk with them.
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Anonymous on Apr 4, 2015
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Yup, if it is possible try to avoid talking to them until they get cooled down. Or if you cannot avoid the situation , try not arguing with them so as to avoid hurting each other even more
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Anonymous on May 16, 2015
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The pros in waiting until they have calmed down to talk to them is that they will receive and consider what you have to say with a more open mind and with more logic. Although the con to that is, if left mad for too long, that somebody could irrationally think or assume of a lot of things to make their anger towards you intensify. The quote 'An idle mind is the devils playground.' can somewhat relate to that. You understand your situation with that person the best, so the last decision is up to you. Consider the pros and cons and i'm sure you will do the right thing.
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Anonymous on Jan 18, 2015
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Give them some space to reflect on everything. When they calmed down you can talk to them and hope that they are not as angry as they were before.
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Wait it out, you both need time to think things through. So give it 3 to 4 hours time. No longer because then they will think you don't want to make up and solve the situation
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Anonymous on Apr 17, 2015
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For me, wait for a moment when they are not angry anymore. Let their anger simmer down. If a person is angry it is their emotion who is talking and not their conscious self.
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Anonymous on Mar 27, 2015
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It really depends on the situation and how you both are able to handle yourselves in your anger. Taking time off to cool down can make it difficult to go back and address the issue, but having a clear head can really help to resolve the conflict--there are obviously pros and cons in each situation, and it's really up to both of you to decide how to handle the situation. It's really helpful to remember that there are no "right" or "wrong" decisions in life--just actions and reactions, so whatever you decide to do is no less valid than any other option.
Profile: PrincessoftheHighlands
PrincessoftheHighlands on Jun 11, 2015
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Wait it out. When someone is angry, words are said that weren't meant to be said and feelings are easily hurt. Give the person some space and talk it out calmly when the time is right.
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Anonymous on Jun 17, 2015
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Best to wait until everyone is calm and good again. Anger can make you say and do things you dont mean and usually makes people more mad.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Apr 5, 2016
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Wait till they cool down will be the best time. Cause people do and say crazy things when they are overwhelmed with emotions. That may cause worst damage then help.
Profile: Minyaa
Minyaa on Jan 20, 2015
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Anger would only lead one to say what they don't really mean to, it's always better to just wait until the anger subside and talk the problem calmly. If you talk it out the moment both are angry mostly likely it would only be a shouting contest anyway
Profile: rivanery
rivanery on Jul 26, 2016
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Waiting is better I guess. I have a friend, when he is get angry he can say everything and never accept his do some of the things in a wrong way. After a while we can talk better. If he talk while he is angry, he broke lots of heart. I hope it will be helpful
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Anonymous on May 10, 2015
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I personally think that if you can talk it out at that moment , you should, but do it calmly.And if things are too heated, I suggest that you both should calm down first. Then talk about it after things have calmed down. :)
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Anonymous on May 22, 2015
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Wait until they are not angry anymore. Because when we gets angry. We cant calm down and we wont listen to anything. The best way to to talk to them, is to let them be alone. Then calmly,soft toned talk to them. They'll likely reply you even though they are still angry.
Profile: Lpmae
Lpmae on Jun 30, 2015
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When someone is angry at me i will give him sometime to think and cool down the situation before i talk to him. Giving a person time to think and reflect about the situation may help him realize which part he loses control .
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 18, 2015
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It is best to wait until they are not angry anymore. From experience I can say that when people are angry, they say or do things that are out of character and most of the time, they don't mean them. Their emotions get the better of them and they're really not thinking rationally. Give that person some time and space to just calm down... whether it be an hour or a day or even a week (depends on the person) and then approach them.
Profile: Honey
Honey on May 3, 2015
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Talk to them about how they feel like handling the situation. Asking if they would like to talk about it now or if they need time to cool off will help set the tone for a problem solving discussion instead of a emotionally fueled fight. It shows that you are thinking of their needs before your own and that you are trying to accommodate their needs. So ask them if they would like to talk about it now or if they need some time to be left alone. No matter what they say, stick to accommodating them even if it isn't what you feel like doing. Tell them that you will agree to give them space if they wish it, but you are ready to talk at any time they want.
Profile: Jesslyn
Jesslyn on Jan 20, 2015
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Wait it out. Let the other person calm down first and have more control over his/her own emotions first before talking it out. Usually a calm person would make a more sensible decision of handling the situation more maturely, instead of being caught up in their emotions and making rash decisions.
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