Is it normal for me to bottle up my feelings and not deal with them?

Not dealing with your feelings is a way of defensive coping. Defensive coping merely masks problems, not work to fix them. Active coping mechanisms are a healthier way of combating stress and feelings head on. While we all use defensive coping mechanisms at times, using them all of the time can have negative impacts on your mental health.

Everyone does it but they do it because they don't wanna bother people with their problems I am also like that.

To be honest, "Normal" Is a relative word. What is normal for you, could be entirely strange to someone else, or vise-versa. So is it normal to bottle up your feelings rather than dealing with them? For some people, yes. For some, that IS how they deal. And some people I would imagine would tell you that its unhealthy to do that, and can cause more problems such as anxiety, depression along with any number of physical ailments. But is it "normal"? Well... a number of people do that very thing, but there is also a number of people who learn to deal with their problems head on. I guess it depends on your definition of normal.

Bottling up your feelings and ignoring is a type of 'avoidance coping'. This means we deal with our emotions by ignoring them. It is common, although there are healthier ways of dealing with some of our more unpleasant experiences. One of the dangers with bottling our emotions is that they get harder to deal with as time goes on, and little things can set off major reactions. Talking to people you trust can help a lot when you have a lot on your plate; listeners on this site are a great source to turn to.

i think so, yeah. i notice that a lot of people quite often do that, me included. i think we bottle up our emotions because we think it'll be easier when actually we all know it's not. but sometimes at the moment, it gets tiring to deal with emotions especially when they're all cloudy and foggy and they all come at you all at once. we tend to dodge these emotions to avoid crying, avoid getting hurt further. it's wrong yet it feel alright. we think we handle it alright. but then you'll start feeling numb and random emotions you thought you were over with would start resurfacing out of nowhere and you'll eventually explode.

Yes, it's perfectly normal to bottle up feelings and not deal with them. I think a lot of us tend to do that,however it's better to come to terms/deal with our feelings than allow them to pile up. Because bottling our feelings over and over just makes things worse for us in the long run.

No, its never normal to hide your feelings. have to deal with them cause they can make you feel even worst when they finally comes out.

No it is not, but in my personal experience I rather take it out in a diary or through a video diary rather than share it with the wrong people.

Absolutely-- though that doesn't mean that it's healthy to do so! It's much better to express your feelings and to let them out, lest they consume you from the inside out.

Bottling up feelings isn't really normal to be honest. It means you grew up never being able to express or never having the opportunity of doing so. In the long run, it eats you up.. Creates more issues than the already existing one.. And eventually you blow up. It's like.. A container that you keep trying to stuff with something or the other.. And eventually it breaks.. And once it breaks.. You can definitely stick it back together, but you end up with a container that make break again.. With little pressure.., to the point that it cannot be stuck together again.. It's the same with human emotions.. Bottling up works.. Only for a while.. Then you blow out of proportions .. And sometimes.. It gets harder to fix things or handle emotions..

It is normal for you to bottle up all your feeling but then you just feel guilty it's better if you talk to somebody about it even if it's just your parents they'll listen

It may be normal, but it's not always a good thing. There are resources out there, like 7cups, that can help you not have to bottle up your feelings.

I would not say that is "normal" but you can feel free to share those emotions with me if you like. i am always willing to listem

Nobody would call it normal. Why do you bottle up things. Be straight forward and don't care too much things. Dont loose your soul.

It certainly feels natural to want to bottle up those "too-hard-to-deal-with" feelings sometimes. I would say yes It is normal....BUT it is not okay. Feelings that have negative effects should be addressed. The problem may not be solved in an instant, but it is guaranteed to "lessen the load". There are so many reasons people use to justify bottling up our feelings; valid ones included. Sometimes you feel like if you ignore the problem it will go away...maybe there aren't people you trust enough to disclose sensitive or personal information to...maybe you you don't feel like anyone understands your situation...or perhaps you just don't think your problem is repairable. Too often have I succumbed to these "normal" feelings as well...and it is through personal experience I can advise you today to deal with these problems one at a time. And what better platform than 7cups to do so? Good luck and be blessed!

It's completely normal! But perhaps not that healthy? It's easier to bottle up our feelings though than to face them, express them and let all the emotions regarding it out of that bottle. It means moving past the denial stage and really dealing with everything.. .and that might be really intimidating and scary.. a daunting task certainly! But when left to bottle up , the emotions could explode at any time .. and that mess is harder to clean up? Talking about it isn't as bad as it may seem... venting actually helps in it's own way too :) You get to let it all out and it feels as though a really heavy burden has been lifted.

There are lots of Americans who bottle up feelings everyday so they don't have to deal with them. You are definitely not alone in this regard. One thing that's important to consider is how much you want to grow as a person.. There are people who live their entire lives with a low level of emotional maturity and then there are those who recognize their weaknesses (like bottling up feelings!) and work on them to try and become a better person. Whichever path you choose is up to you. : )

It is normal, I do that a lot. But it's not healthy though, because all of them might explode out one day and everything will just appear again.

If I bottle up my feelings, I hurt. If I don't, then I hurt others. Now, everyday I'm bombarded with a bunch of feelings. Well everybody does bottle up some feelings and its common across the world. I do it too. If everybody would've dealt with their feelings head-on, then the world would've been a mean and cold place. But, also dealing with or letting go of those bottled up feelings, is important.

Well normal is a big scale, it may be normal for a person to do that but it doesn't make it healthy.